Get married or Stay single

[vitamin]

Just this year I have heard a few married people, 4 in fact (From late 40's to mid 60's)

1 male and 3 females.

That if they go back to their younger years, they wouldn't get married again and stay single.

In this day and age, are more and more people thinking that marriage is more of a hassle than it's worth?

is return on investment not worth it? Is being married all it's cracked up to be?


Thoughts guys and girl?

[quackm2002]

I seem to have a lot of friends in loveless marriages. Ages usually 35 and upwards. They are relentlessly busy from work and family commitments. Many sleep in different rooms from their spouses who seem to have lost any interest in sex. Once kids are in their teens, many become nightmares and are bloody expensive as dependents. I have trouble seeing the pay-off myself.

If you ask most of them why they got married, its because it was just ‘the thing to do’.

I do have a couple of friends with a dream marriage and families but they are definitely in the minority

[rooter]

People always have regrets in life no matter what path they take; it's the human condition.
There are not many people who reach 40 or 50 or 60 and think this is exactly where I want to be in life; they look back and think what if I had done this or that differently.
Anyway this navel gazing is a pointless exercise; life is life - you are born, you live, you die, and then it's like you were never here. Relax and enjoy!

[krnboy]

I got married two years ago because I love my wife, not because it was the thing to do. Also, I don't go out anymore like I used to and it's nice to have someone at home waiting for you. My childhood friend said well done in finding a good girl. We are both 32 and he wishes that he was married but in today's day and age, finding a good girl isn't that easy. Every girl he meets is crazy so he prefers to stay single.

Each to their own. Who knows, 10 to 20 years from now, I might feel different.

Let's see...

[krnboy]

People always have regrets in life no matter what path they take; it's the human condition.
There are not many people who reach 40 or 50 or 60 and think this is exactly where I want to be in life; they look back and think what if I had done this or that differently.
Anyway this navel gazing is a pointless exercise; life is life - you are born, you live, you die, and then it's like you were never here. Relax and enjoy!

Well said. Life is too short to live with regrets

[looser]

People always have regrets in life no matter what path they take; it's the human condition.
There are not many people who reach 40 or 50 or 60 and think this is exactly where I want to be in life; they look back and think what if I had done this or that differently.
Anyway this navel gazing is a pointless exercise; life is life - you are born, you live, you die, and then it's like you were never here. Relax and enjoy!

Excellent comment

[Paison]

If you never got married before then try it just for the experience. But only with a good girl of course . If you can’t find a decent girl to marry better to stay single . If you wants kids and can get by by without getting marry then do it . Once you got kids already from a previous marriage its better to stay single if you got devorce as you can do whatever you want and fuck many girls as you want . without having to worry about your wife finding out .

Lol, trust me, marrying just for the sake of trying is very expensive. You will more than likely be regretting it the rest of your life.

Just don’t think about it too much and if you meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with, marry her and treat her well :)

[Riff888]

What do people get for all the toil and anxious striving with which they labour under the sun?

All their days their work is grief and pain; even at night their minds do not rest. This too is meaningless.

A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil.


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[Yinwei]

I got married two years ago because I love my wife, not because it was the thing to do. Also, I don't go out anymore like I used to and it's nice to have someone at home waiting for you. My childhood friend said well done in finding a good girl. We are both 32 and he wishes that he was married but in today's day and age, finding a good girl isn't that easy. Every girl he meets is crazy so he prefers to stay single.

Each to their own. Who knows, 10 to 20 years from now, I might feel different.

Let's see...

Given your happy circumstances, do you still punt?

[Eclipsefun]

Marry a woman who you will produce healthy, strong, intelligent kids with. Save your love for mistresses. The problem with men is they expect their wife to be too many things.

[Hu6e]

What do people get for all the toil and anxious striving with which they labour under the sun?

All their days their work is grief and pain; even at night their minds do not rest. This too is meaningless.

A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil.


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I wouldn't trust anything written in a book that also states...
Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property.

[quackm2002]

If you just resign yourself to your lot, then nothing changes and you get what you deserve. I had a friend in the exact circumstances I described above. At nearly fifty, he decided to walk away from his marriage. He went through a few years of hell but has come out the other side so much happier.



People always have regrets in life no matter what path they take; it's the human condition.
There are not many people who reach 40 or 50 or 60 and think this is exactly where I want to be in life; they look back and think what if I had done this or that differently.
Anyway this navel gazing is a pointless exercise; life is life - you are born, you live, you die, and then it's like you were never here. Relax and enjoy!

[Hu6e]

Marry a SE Asian.
They mostly treat their men well.

And if they are Thai, you can have a Mia Noi!!!
Fucking winning!!!

[studsg]

Times and era has changed the views on marriage and behaviour tremendously....

I see many old couples in their late 60s, early 70s retiring happily together after being married forever... the men worked hard and gave all their paycheck to their women, who made sure the home is taken care of... but women accepted that men will stay out late having drinks with mates, even turned a blind eye to the occasional fling.

While tons of people in their late 30s & 40s are getting divorces... they grew up during the early internet era, equal say for everyone, etc... women hold senior positions... if the men even posted a food pic wrongly they were in the dog house... if men stayed out late drinking with their mates... they were in the dog house... too many couples were caught in this transition where men expected sex and women use sex to gain control... thus children are just an unfortunate by-product.

My 2 cents is the success factor behind a successful marriage is one word ”compromise”. Both parties must be willing to compromise... which is easier said than done in this era where every men and his dog are demanding their view is the most important...

[cuteguy]

Marry a SE Asian.
They mostly treat their men well.

And if they are Thai, you can have a Mia Noi!!!
Fucking winning!!!

Make sure you're not her ticket to obtaining permanent residence in Australia and she has a secret boyfriend waiting in the background.

[Hu6e]

Make sure you're not her ticket to obtaining permanent residence in Australia and she has a secret boyfriend waiting in the background.

I could write a book about that subject.
You gotta have balls of steel, establish the ground rules of the relationship (I made a few gfs get piss tested for drugs and stds), and make it crystal clear you'll drop their ass if they fuck around.

Having a foreigner bf is a status symbol in SE Asia. And it can lead to a better life in Australia for them. But as the male, I believe that you establish what's acceptable and what's not for your household.

Just be smart, and you'll be fine.

[Littlewonder]

All I can say or add is that to have a family or children is the greatest thing ever and if your luck to have children and then grandchildren its the greatest I just love it.

Being married may have some disadvantages but at the end of the day the above out ways all the rest.

[Riff888]

The only things good out of my marriage are my kids.

But I love being single again and living in an apartment in the city.

I also love that my kids stay with me every fortnight weekend.

But my daughter who will be 18 in a few years wants to live with me.

Hmmmm, this will definitely change my lifestyle for sure.

No more private sessions at my place. I'll have to stick to shops and privates with their own place.

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[sukeong]

Given your happy circumstances, do you still punt?

I find it interesting he insisting he married for love and still punts behind her back. Unless he browses sex forum just for the thrill of reading after reports lol

[csda]

"david sloss - jigsaw" comedy special on netflix has a really good insight on relationship. worth a look.

[johnbrah]

I could write a book about that subject.
You gotta have balls of steel, establish the ground rules of the relationship (I made a few gfs get piss tested for drugs and stds), and make it crystal clear you'll drop their ass if they fuck around.

Having a foreigner bf is a status symbol in SE Asia. And it can lead to a better life in Australia for them. But as the male, I believe that you establish what's acceptable and what's not for your household.

Just be smart, and you'll be fine.

Status symbol? You'll bring your SE girlfriend back, other will give a quick glance judging you for not being able to be with a white girl, if you haven't noticed most of the guys look beta af.

[Hu6e]

Status symbol? You'll bring your SE girlfriend back, other will give a quick glance judging you for not being able to be with a white girl, if you haven't noticed most of the guys look beta af.

This is true..... sort of.
However, I am not a older, obese, greasy, unwashed, sandal and sock wearing guy.
I dont like white girls, so that's of no importance to me.
And it's a good thing that I dont actually give one fuck of how anyone else views me and my partner.

[holi_day]

Since you are asking the question in this forum, I suggest you to stay single.

[b00bs]

Status symbol? Haha yeah maybe to the country bumpkins over there, but not the city folks.

[Hu6e]

Status symbol? Haha yeah maybe to the country bumpkins over there, but not the city folks.

Lol, ok top shelf.

[cuteguy]

Given the number of breakups and divorces going around, it is no wonder people are staying clear of marriages and if they are in relationships that they live apart and have no children. A friend of mine has been in a relationship with his girl for 10 years and they have their separate residences with no plans in having children together. I asked why not move in and have children? His response was why make it too complicated! They meet up twice a week and have their fun. There are no dramas and not seeing each other on a regular basis makes them more keen to meet up. Is that the secret to having a relationship these days but not being legally attached to another person?

On the other hand, I love this saying "A wife must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom." Try finding one of those these days!:shout:

[Riff888]

Given the number of breakups and divorces going around, it is no wonder people are staying clear of marriages and if they are in relationships that they live apart and have no children. A friend of mine has been in a relationship with his girl for 10 years and they have their separate residences with no plans in having children together. I asked why not move in and have children? His response was why make it too complicated! They meet up twice a week and have their fun. There are no dramas and not seeing each other on a regular basis makes them more keen to meet up. Is that the secret to having a relationship these days but not being legally attached to another person?

On the other hand, I love this saying "A wife must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom." Try finding one of those these days!:shout:This is the perfect scenario for me.

A few times a week, then go home to sleep in my own bed suits me fine.

No joint accounts either, keep your finances separate.

I need a punt, my ex wife is getting remarried today. God help him I say.

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[cuteguy]

This is the perfect scenario for me.

A few times a week, then go home to sleep in my own bed suits me fine.

No joint accounts either, keep your finances separate.

I need a punt, my ex wife is getting remarried today. God help him I say.

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Did she meet him on Tinder or one of those dating sites?

[Niceguy11]

I would love to have a Chinese girlfriend or wife eventually. Punting is great because you can do many things with a WL that a girlfriend or wife is not willing to do (CIM, COB, 69 etc). I'm probably 50/50 with remaining single. I have plenty of female friends and they all have issues with partners and husbands so from this point of view, I'm not sure if its worth it.

In saying that, sex isn't everything. Having that connection and spending time together is equally important.

[Riff888]

Did she meet him on Tinder or one of those dating sites?Nah, they met through mutual friends who set her up with him when we separated.

I think it's his third marriage so we'll see what happens.

My biggest concern is the house I sighed over to my ex because my kids live with her and hopefully will inherit the house. This guy could claim half that house if things go bad, then my kids and ex will be in trouble. Well the kids have me but she's not going to give up on child support.

She even asked about getting my super.

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[Pussyhands]

maybe just get a pet dog or something and punt ;)

Relationships is for some and not for others.

Fortunately for me, I found that it is not for me. I was lucky cuz I would have been the type in my naive days to marry anything with a pussy and decent looks ;)

was never raised to understand the compatibility and emotional needs etc, you live and learn.

Now I am much more in touch with myself and understand that what I want is not a relationship but just fking around the world ;)

[AHLUNGOR]

On the other hand, I love this saying "A wife must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom." Try finding one of those these days!:shout:

Mate, if you go West and visit any of those Westfield shopping centre you will see a lot of inter racial marriages : usually it’s an older Aussie bloke with a younger but still mature aged Asian lady (Chinese, Thai or Philipinos are the most common pairing.

Looking from a far, most of these couples seem very happy, I could just imagine the senior guys are having as much sex or bj as he can desire or handle . Not quite sure if the are all legally married but one would think so for the woman to be legally staying in Australia and it won’t be hard to imagine that these women would all tick the three boxes of maid, cook and whore from brother cuteguy!

Say you are Aussie guy in you late 50 or 60, still plenty of Fire 🔥 in your belly , either still single or widower or divorced, no children or all growth up, you own your own house and living alone - if you have a chance to marry a 40 something Asian lady who ticks those three boxes above , why won’t you, you could well live very happily for the remaining of your days! And if she has a good heart and look after you in your final years, it would be well worthwhile to give her everything after you go, why not ? Right ?

[Midnight_Prowl]

Stay single and enjoy life

[Bly]

Stay single and enjoy life

Or be in a relationship...just enjoy life however you can :smile:

[Pussyhands]

Or be in a relationship...just enjoy life however you can :smile:

Bro you have a good attitude

What if you goto gaol and say that ;) you will become a Budist monk ;)

[Starmamu]

I always say, You'll know when it's time to get married.
But since the question is asked in this forum, I'd say the married folks browsing the forum punts anyway....

[Riff888]

I always say, You'll know when it's time to get married.
But since the question is asked in this forum, I'd say the married folks browsing the forum punts anyway....I read somewhere that 80% of men who punt are married or have a girlfriend.

I'll do some research.

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[Bly]

I read somewhere that 80% of men who punt are married or have a girlfriend.

I'll do some research.

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Because if you aren't in a relationship you don't need to be discreet and can go try get some actual dates

[Riff888]

Because if you aren't in a relationship you don't need to be discreet and can go try get some actual datesAh the real reason people are "happily married".

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[Shreddedolphin]

get married but still punt hahahah

[vinegarstroke]

FFS can't we get rid of this shred cunt, and his ilk.

[Sydlong]

Don't do it

single ftw

[Waklu]

Get married and kids. Beautiful