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ninjapunter
07-11-2018, 09:41 PM
If you date a WL it will bring you initial pleasure, then only pain and anguish. I guarantee it.

You will sit at your desk at work wondering whose cock is currently in her mouth, who she is DFKing and orgasming with, who is currently licking her pussy, who has recently cum in her mouth, does she enjoy sex with other punters more than you, etc etc etc.*

You will enjoy the short time she spends with you and those times will be short as they often work 15 hour days, 6 or 7 days a week.

But you will hate the long days and nights that she is at work fucking 10 guys a day.
You will hate reading reviews on her and what others are doing to her and how she was "enjoying" being fucked by them.*

Is that what you want ?

Date a non WL and use the WL's for fun and sex

Quoted by Brothercreeper

liminal
08-11-2018, 10:36 AM
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lBFZNVxG86o

cuteguy
08-11-2018, 11:05 AM
This topic has been raised many times by other punters. The strong advice is to avoid WLs and don't get involved with them in any relationships.

bbongobboy
08-11-2018, 01:09 PM
Hello Chaps!

I read a lot of shit about WL theory by punters. Hell, I’ve even trolled in some of the posts to continue the hilarity.

I’ll come clean on this top once and for all: I’ve dated a WL. I’ve lived with a WL.

It takes courage, self confidence, a sense of equality and open mindedness. Some people think they’re open minded or non judgemental, but there’s nothing like dating a WL to test your own resilience.

Most punters are (probably, hopefully) entirely comfortable having friendships, acquaintances, a hair stylist, masseuser and a few favourite WLs without confusing those relationships with their siblings, parents, girlfriend or life partner.

Guess what? Most WLs are exactly the same.

You can have great sex in a shop but go home and think to yourself ‘thank Christ I don’t have to live with that girl’. It should come as no surprise that even the greatest WL doesn’t view her best regulars as boyfriend material. The sex might be great, the money excellent and the flirting tilitillating, but she’s working. She ain’t as into her current customer as he’d like to imagine or as much as she acts in the room. Women, eh?

Oh yes, some people (including WLs) are bad and think nothing of scamming a person out of money. I heard that otherwise decent financial planners and bankers think nothing of stealing other peoples money, too.

I had a regular WL I was seeing for several weeks once and the sessions were fantastic. If we were both honest we pushed the boundaries of what we were usually comfortable with during our times in the shop.

For reasons best known to herself, one day she messaged me and asked to come over. I was surprised, not believing my luck while checking my wallet to see if I had enough cash.

Her visiting me personally was completely different to anything I had experienced with her before. Yes, she was hot in the room and if anything the sex was less spectacular yet more intense, slower and sensual. We both came like we had never done before together. She wasn’t working. I wasn’t punting. I did not raise money and neither did she. We ate out afterwards and said farewell for the evening.

Things took their normal course and eventually we drifted apart either because of usual jealousy, work commitments or because one of us had met someone new. She’s no longer in Sydney. This was a few years ago.

I was probably not mature enough to date (and eventually live with) a person working as a WL at that time of my life, and it was her first time having a boyfriend while working. We were both a little messed up by it. Like most people when an intense loving relationship that reaches its conclusion.

Love is sublime but it can hurt deeply.

Love is why songs and poetry exist.

Love is why people sometimes resort to domestic violence, revenge, abuse drugs or alcohol and, sadly, commit suicide.

To be human is to be imperfect. To be human is to love.

I often read things like:

“WLs only see men as money and could never love.”

“I’m into her but could never see her as marriage material or take her to meet my parents.”

“She agreed to do me and my two friends in a hotel while high and she said she came 3 times as she swallowed our loads one after the other.”

“I would never trust a WL.”

“I was pissed off because she said she will only do Asian guys.”

We’re all equal in this world. We all deserve love, admiration for our strengths, and criticism for our weaknesses. We all have a responsibility to treat each other with respect.

And yes kids, sometimes punters fall for WLs and WLs fall for punters. It’s rare, it’s complicated, it’s beautiful and the budding relationship is often doomed.

But isn’t life wonderful?

BB!

liminal
08-11-2018, 02:13 PM
Like the post @bbongobboy

And I thought like many was am resilient(enough) , and can say despite my continued respect , failed as any man woman may, can and will. Both of us put up with some pretty trying experiences; though it was our reactions to, that ultimately set up The hurt and got it deeply settled in.

She is a gorgeous woman and while not around in Sydney, we are in contact and while she’s not currently working , I’ remain uncertain to whether we can get around the issues ,that were at times exacerbated by language / culture / age? /other that were present. In that like any relationship.

We both like to think could,

quackm2002
08-11-2018, 07:35 PM
Too many self-professed experts on this topic who think that because they’ve gone out with a WL a couple of times, it makes them authorities on the topic.

I’ve had two long term relationships with WLs. Both were successful privates and they were both great relationships.

What worked for me was we never discussed their work and it was about respecting the boundaries.

Assandlegs
08-11-2018, 07:49 PM
Too many self-professed experts on this topic who think that because they’ve gone out with a WL a couple of times, it makes them authorities on the topic.

I’ve had two long term relationships with WLs. Both were successful privates and they were both great relationships.

What worked for me was we never discussed their work and it was about respecting the boundaries.

This!!! ^^^^ Best advice ever !! Respect that boundry! Thanks quackm!

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vitamin
09-11-2018, 03:30 AM
working ladies are like jelly beans.

Just because you tasted one. doesn't make you an expert on them all.

it may work, it may not. might hurt, might not.

For this reason blanket statement should be taken with a shovel of salt.
no-one can describe all the flavors of jelly beans based on sampling a few


That being said. Odds are it won't work out.

Many have claimed to have captured a WL's heart. I've yet heard of one that's married. and STAYED married. who know's .. ... he/she might be out there.

beta101
09-11-2018, 07:25 AM
Pro:
- u can still punt as much as u like lol
- all the fucked up stories lol :/

Con:
- try to date a non popular girl c/j/k princess to avoid stds lol

mcjesus
09-11-2018, 07:52 AM
the farthest step i have ever taken to develop personal relations with WLs is asking them “how is work going?” . i guess i am not the expert on dating WLs.

Momoe
09-11-2018, 10:44 AM
Life's short.

If you game and want to try, go for it

If you are worried about this and that, then don't

Life's not peachy clean, so is everyone

phoenix555
09-11-2018, 03:48 PM
The reason you didn’t heard that the person stay married to WL is because they are far few in between, but I can assure you they are exists.

Also some of them stop become WL afterwards, and some of them you didn’t know they are WL because the husband won’t introduce the wife as ex-WL.

F 16
11-11-2018, 12:45 AM
No thank you........

Yogurt
11-11-2018, 02:05 PM
Then you bring trouble and hassle to your life and if she is crazy and a bitch then all of your friends will leave you alone

Joe1956
28-11-2018, 04:14 PM
Didn’t have a problem with her work but had one with her management. Kept her under tabs 24/7.
In the end she left both of us 😂😂😂

Warrabong
28-11-2018, 08:43 PM
I have been a reader of the forum for some time and posts like this out it into perspective. I had a special lady then came to realisebits just business for her. No dramas I’m now getting crazy gf experience in the shop and have an awesome go to. It’s great when you work out where the line is. I stopped texting her and it made her work harder when I come to the shop. Now I do send a courtesy text if I’m going to the shop. Most times I see her but she also makes sure the other girls take good care of me too.

GoldfishMan
01-12-2018, 08:47 AM
I know a friend who used to work as a WL, who then married a guy who didn't know she did that work. Eventually she did tell her husband about it, but the effect of telling him was catastrophic to their relationship. Their sex life went to completely Zero, and she's been in a long term "affair" with another married guy for years now. I say affair in quotes because she doesn't even put any effort into concealing it. Everytime she comes out to meet our group of friends, it is with this other guy. Her husband is almost non-existent in her life!
I guess there are 2 morals to the story. The first is, going into a relationship with the knowledge of her being a WL is far better than starting it, committing to it, then finding out about it after all that. The fact that we're here on a punter forum should mean you already know it.
The second moral of the story is, barring the girl being a scammer or whatever (always keep scammer-radar on and obey it!), it is all in your head. The husband of my friend couldn't handle the fact that she was a WL, but her lover could. Her relationship with her lover is not exactly perfect but it has lasted for years now with no end in sight. So, make sure you can handle the facts before jumping in. If you're the type that says "I'll be your BF, but you have to quit being a WL blablabla", then forget about it, you can't handle it even if she quits immediately. However, if you can say "I'll be your BF, I can support you so you can choose not to work anymore", then you probably can handle it.

hornedone
01-12-2018, 11:59 AM
Better to pay by the hour than having to lease her out to other savage devils who will bang her intensely

cuteguy
25-02-2019, 11:57 PM
Better to pay by the hour than having to lease her out to other savage devils who will bang her intensely

Would you like your your girlfriend WL to come home late and you're waiting for her in bed knowing that she has had all types of guys bang her and then she leans over to kiss you and her lips have been on many little fellas and let you stick your little fella in the same place that has been visited by many countless guys? If you don't care then you can have a relationship with a WL. If you can't, let her go and find a normal girl.

loco_loser
26-02-2019, 06:16 AM
Would you like your your girlfriend WL to come home late and you're waiting for her in bed knowing that she has had all types of guys bang her and then she leans over to kiss you and her lips have been on many little fellas and let you stick your little fella in the same place that has been visited by many countless guys? If you don't care then you can have a relationship with a WL. If you can't, let her go and find a normal girl.

I agree, it's not worth the head fuck

abovetherim
27-02-2019, 12:51 AM
Some good write up here guys. I dated a WL for a short time and I also struggled with thoughts of her with her customers. She was one of the most popular girls due to her looks and service in this shop but known to have a strong case of PS lol. Funny how she found interest in me out of all the guys she saw. Made me feel a bit special for a while and was good while it lasted. Was never going to be a long term thing. Just left in my memories now.

cuteguy
27-02-2019, 11:21 AM
Some good write up here guys. I dated a WL for a short time and I also struggled with thoughts of her with her customers. She was one of the most popular girls due to her looks and service in this shop but known to have a strong case of PS lol. Funny how she found interest in me out of all the guys she saw. Made me feel a bit special for a while and was good while it lasted. Was never going to be a long term thing. Just left in my memories now.

Did she abandon you or did you dump her?

sweetpariswong
27-02-2019, 04:25 PM
Everyone got story here... Interesting

dotcumdotinyou
27-02-2019, 10:00 PM
Not all WL are un-dateable or not willing to stop working, there are exceptions.

I found one, but at this time not ready to tell the story.

Richard25
27-02-2019, 10:08 PM
Thanks for sharing:startle:

ML_Lover
27-02-2019, 10:39 PM
I’m meeting my favourite ML tomorrow afternoon at a hotel for the first time. Well, hopefully I am, she’s a bit dizzy and often late, so we shall see. Told her No money, but bought her some flowerbomb perfume as a surprise. We’ve been to a few bars and restaurants before, so hopefully a fun night coming up.

I do wonder how many other guys she has sex with, though - she is very popular... she tells me ‘very few’ but who knows. So far not any deep feelings, so no jealousy. She’s the 5th ML I have dated, some dump me, some fade away, some had to leave Aus - but no worries, I certainly don’t want anything serious.

f6tornado
28-02-2019, 04:26 PM
Have done this twice. It took me two instances to learn that it is a bad idea. Cost me a bit of money too and they both just disappeared when it ran out. WLs can be sweet, nice, kind, gentle and honest, but they are also incapable of seeing friendly punters as anything other than sources of additional income/gifts. A fool? Maybe......but I just regard it as a good learning experience. I definitely don't need a 3rd lesson. If you totally disagree with me, best of luck to you.

RoyalFlush
28-02-2019, 06:03 PM
Try getting into a relationship without paying too much to the lady. the less you pay, the more girls will love you. Even better make her pay for dates, I find girls who pay for my dates get addicted to the relationship.
I am not fussed if my gfs date other man. If I do, why can't they? Only exception is wife, of course.

CunningLinguist
28-02-2019, 08:18 PM
The first time I went out with a WL she paid for everything, she seemed to feel guilty that I paid to see her and she wanted to pay it back by paying for everything. It was good while it lasted!

scanboy
05-03-2019, 04:30 PM
Without going into all the details . I got suckered in by a WL .saw her both in and out of shop
When I said I can’t give her money to help pay for student visa
She ended up been to busy to see me

Climax598
05-03-2019, 06:16 PM
Without going into all the details . I got suckered in by a WL .saw her both in and out of shop
When I said I can’t give her money to help pay for student visa
She ended up been to busy to see me
That's her lost in earning from the shop. This happened to me. She want me to buy her perfume I say no. She text me less and messege is short now. My plan is to visit she less, to fuck only and not dating her anymore. I plan to see other girls in her work place on a line up with her in it.

Momoe
05-03-2019, 06:20 PM
The only time I would date a WL/ML is when no $$$ strings are involved. The moment she started talking about buying luxuries or funding her life, she only sees you as a sugar daddy

trick
05-03-2019, 08:24 PM
Yeah, I agree I am sure it would do your head in to date a WL

azzzn
05-03-2019, 10:27 PM
It's pretty tempting to date a ml/WL..
Been going to see a regular for the past yr or 2? Developed trust and now our simple massage session is not so simple these days.. she's been hunting at the idea of bf/gf.. but I just brush it off saying she way out of my league etc..
The idea is nice but hard to live with everyday know she jerking off some jerk during the day.. [emoji2371]

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cuteguy
06-03-2019, 12:19 AM
It's pretty tempting to date a ml/WL..
Been going to see a regular for the past yr or 2? Developed trust and now our simple massage session is not so simple these days.. she's been hunting at the idea of bf/gf.. but I just brush it off saying she way out of my league etc..
The idea is nice but hard to live with everyday know she jerking off some jerk during the day.. [emoji2371]

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Not jerking off one guy but many during the day or night. :startle:

Assandlegs
06-03-2019, 01:41 AM
Guys, if you're going to date a WL, you need to accept her for who she is... she will never be your "Snow White" by virtue of her job... but believe me when I say that anyone can crack that facade. A WL can easily fall for you as easily as you fall for her.
Remember, she see's this as work.. that's all... if you are lucky enough to get under her skin, the world is your oyster!!! Her job is to pleasure you to the point that you will return... her aim is to NOT fall in love with you... but, as we all know... shit happens!

schloong
06-03-2019, 05:49 AM
Good to hear from you again Bro A&L.

Yep - shit sure does happen as we are only human after all.

Hope you are looking after yourself Bro...

toysrus
06-03-2019, 08:26 AM
Staying single and seeing different WL is the dream! You get older and they always stay the same age.

No matter how hot a girl is, you will get bored of banging her so unless you actually love her (and be honest with yourself), why would you date her? I'm glad I got past the dating WL phase of my punting career. Even today there is always that temptation to convert but you need to remain strong.

loco_loser
06-03-2019, 04:37 PM
You are nothing more than an ATM to a WL

It's a business transactions, no friends, not lovers

Just paid service's

CunningLinguist
06-03-2019, 06:42 PM
You are nothing more than an ATM to a WL


ATM, Arse To Mouth ? ;)

penisuheddo
07-03-2019, 04:21 PM
Arigato
The older I get the more I think every girl is potential hooker
The professional girl is expert at lifting money
Avoid at all cost outside shop
If youyu fall in love then let her come to you
A professional in love is very jealous
Be careful
Love is always fun
And love always danger
Yes

scanboy
07-03-2019, 04:34 PM
I’m ok with dating a WL as long as she helps pay the bills

loco_loser
08-03-2019, 12:35 AM
ATM, Arse To Mouth ? ;)

Up to you player

the_boss_king
08-03-2019, 12:39 AM
just have fun, don't take things too seriously. life is too short for that.

loco_loser
08-03-2019, 12:45 AM
Play or be played

Up to you

yug
09-03-2019, 02:11 AM
You are nothing more than an ATM to a WL

It's a business transactions, no friends, not lovers

Just paid service's

From my experience, 90% yes.
9% will be your friends but not lover (I have few)
1% can be your lover ( I have found 2 of them in my 9 years of punting )

The odds of meeting that 1% is really low. So just don't waste your time. And even if you meet her, there are incredible hurdles after you two decide to be together.
You can hardly have a normal relationship with a WL. In the end, you will be so tired you will do anything to get your life back to normal.

mcjesus
09-03-2019, 02:38 AM
i have had so many mind-blowing great sex with so many great girls that i would never ever consider any one special.

to anyone who considers serious relationship with WL: i pity you because you haven’t had much great sex. limited experience is your problem.

Assandlegs
09-03-2019, 07:26 AM
i have had so many mind-blowing great sex with so many great girls that i would never ever consider any one special.

to anyone who considers serious relationship with WL: i pity you because you haven’t had much great sex. limited experience is your problem.

[emoji853][emoji853][emoji853] wow Bro mcjesus.. I hope there are exceptions to that...

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exstar
09-03-2019, 11:11 AM
The whole thing is a mind fuck - tried it out of curiosity/fantasy but what happens behind closed doors at the shop is better left there.

GoldfishMan
09-03-2019, 12:49 PM
i have had so many mind-blowing great sex with so many great girls that i would never ever consider any one special.

to anyone who considers serious relationship with WL: i pity you because you haven’t had much great sex. limited experience is your problem.
Have to agree with this somewhat. Those most likely to "fall" for a WL are those that are seriously gimped in the love life department. Like, if someone works in a warehouse, dealing with nothing but boxes and crates everyday, of course being in contact with a hot-blooded WL becomes "mind-blowing". Or sometimes it is because the dude has a self-esteem problem and doesn't dare talk to girls outside of punting. Never had a GF, let alone a hot one. So the WL becomes like a goddess to them. The problem for these people is, they can't really get the "experience" even if they wanted to.
Personally, I got divorced years ago and hooked up with a GF that was 13 years younger than I was. A 33 year old guy with a 20 year old GF.... it couldn't get any better than that. Enjoyed the best uninhibited sex I've ever had and probably ever will. My family life was ruined because of that, but fuck it, I am now 100% resilient to any of this crap.

CunningLinguist
09-03-2019, 03:16 PM
It could get better than that. <shit talk ...>.

Yawn..., just in case anybody has'nt worked it out yet doritos is full of shit!

Warrabong
09-03-2019, 04:20 PM
I reckon the fake news is hillarious

GoldfishMan
10-03-2019, 07:52 AM
Yawn..., just in case anybody has'nt worked it out yet doritos is full of shit!
Lol, yeah I was munching on a bag of Doritos while reading that.

woods23
10-03-2019, 10:34 PM
Never got ask out or ever dated a wl/ml
Life is good atm it just go better by the way:cool2:

RoyalFlush
11-03-2019, 09:03 AM
Goldfish, how did your family find out? I'm in a very similar situation but my wife is not aware yet. did you ever regret your decision to be freed from marriage? Further, I'm still picking up girls on the side with decent success when wife is overseas. I'm definately not getting married for a while if I do get divorced, marriage is too fucking boring to me.

dotcumdotinyou
11-03-2019, 08:32 PM
I don't know how Goldfish feels, but I separated from mine last June after 10 years (the last 4 were just cohabitation). Never felt better, even the doctor said all my test results were better than last year and my blood pressure was down. She on the other hand is doing it quite tough according to the kids (who I'm going to court in May to fight for equal custody), not my problem. I personally have no regrets, I'm having the best time I've had for a while.

A friend of mine gave me the best advise I've ever had...the power lies with the one who cares least and (apart from the kids) I don't give a shit, I even told her go to back home and book yourself into a mental hospital take all the time you need...years would be good I'll look after the kids.

Anyway, this July will be 12 months of separation and I can get divorced...I might even go to visit my sister in law who I've wanted to fuck for the last 10 years that she lived with us.

GoldfishMan
12-03-2019, 07:46 AM
Goldfish, how did your family find out? I'm in a very similar situation but my wife is not aware yet. did you ever regret your decision to be freed from marriage? Further, I'm still picking up girls on the side with decent success when wife is overseas. I'm definately not getting married for a while if I do get divorced, marriage is too fucking boring to me.
She didn't find out. I came clean and told her everything, including all my punting, then I said I wanted a divorce because I wanted to stop pretending to be a devoted husband.
I have no regrets I did it. Of course it cost me financially, but money is just money, I can always make more. My way of life changed to what I imagined it would be, that's priceless.
If you really want to go through with it, make sure you understand all your legal rights. Things are very different here in Oz. Example, there's no such thing as alimony, but child support is important if you have kids, etc.

RoyalFlush
12-03-2019, 05:58 PM
@dotcom @Goldfish - useful replies, thanks.

I had a think about my situation. The way I see, there are 3 possible outcomes, 100% controlled by me how I want it to pan out:
1) Dont tell the wife and keep living a double life
2) Save the marriage
3) Come clean. Either both will split up, or she accepts the infidelity and continue the marriage in some arrangement.

1 - short term win for the guy until the wife finds out one day. The breakup will be very unsightly and everyone will probably lose a lot of respect for me for cheating. I also feel this is a rather underhanded way of dealing with the issue.

2 - I could save the marriage by finding progress in the relationship. Like having more babies, building business, focus on a project that involves the wife, or get into some couple activity. In the short to medium term, both will win. But long term? When I have run out of things to advance the relationship, Ill be back to boredom. This strategy could only work for 5-15 years max. Thing is, I dont think I can hold out that long.

3 - Coming clean will cause the wife to hate you in the short - medium term. In a way, you are putting her down slowly because she leaves the relationship in anger which will cause her to move on /get over quicker than to just dump her or take her by surprise in point 1. The earlier I do it, probably the better it is for her too because she still has the looks to find someone new who can take care of her. It's the most respectable way to doing it. And long term, you win by not feeling miserable in this relationship and lying to yourself for another 40 - 50 years!
Im really fucked because Im feeling this way just 3 years into my marriage. At least for middle aged man, they can employ strategy 2 and just preservere on until the time comes, becoming the silent "hero" of the family.

traveller1
12-03-2019, 08:23 PM
Im really fucked because Im feeling this way just 3 years into my marriage. At least for middle aged man, they can employ strategy 2 and just preserve on until the time comes, becoming the silent "hero" of the family.
I don't get it, how can you already sick of your marriage after 3 years?

abovetherim
12-03-2019, 08:59 PM
I don't get it, how can you already sick of your marriage after 3 years?

Pretty easy if your wife turns out to be somebody completely different to what you thought she was and find out only after the ceremony!

studsg
12-03-2019, 09:51 PM
Pretty easy if your wife turns out to be somebody completely different to what you thought she was and find out only after the ceremony!Lol... It isn't married at first sight is it ? [emoji1787]

abovetherim
12-03-2019, 11:59 PM
Lol... It isn't married at first sight is it ? [emoji1787]

I wish this wasn’t real and it was just a tv show!

cuteguy
13-03-2019, 03:34 PM
I don't get it, how can you already sick of your marriage after 3 years?

You can become sick of your marriage less than 3 years. This is why many people these days are living together to see if they are compatible before getting married and it becomes all legal later.

cuteguy
13-03-2019, 03:35 PM
Pretty easy if your wife turns out to be somebody completely different to what you thought she was and find out only after the ceremony!

Finding out she had made some adult movies when she was young or working as a prostitute/escort. :startle:

dotcumdotinyou
13-03-2019, 03:51 PM
Royal Flush

Take some time, do some homework and then make your decision. Go to human services website if you have kids and use the calculator to work out how much child support you may have to pay, while there is no "alimony" here there is "spouse maintenance" which they can apply for (usually after the financials are settled) and you'll have to pay her.

Ultimately...you have to be selfish and go with whatever decision MAKES YOU HAPPY.

cuteguy
13-03-2019, 11:07 PM
Did anyone see a program on SBS about Germany's lucrative sex business? A few WLs working at the largest brothel called Paradise were interviewed. One young gorgeous looking blonde WL was asked how many guys she had slept with and she mentioned 16 with whom she had proper relationships. Then the reporter asked how many customers she had sex with and at first she didn't want to say but when pressured she indicated over 15,000! OMG! If she had slept with over 15,000 guys, would you date her?:surprise:

GoldfishMan
14-03-2019, 06:37 AM
@dotcom @Goldfish - useful replies, thanks.

I had a think about my situation. The way I see, there are 3 possible outcomes, 100% controlled by me how I want it to pan out:
1) Dont tell the wife and keep living a double life
2) Save the marriage
3) Come clean. Either both will split up, or she accepts the infidelity and continue the marriage in some arrangement.

1 - short term win for the guy until the wife finds out one day. The breakup will be very unsightly and everyone will probably lose a lot of respect for me for cheating. I also feel this is a rather underhanded way of dealing with the issue.

2 - I could save the marriage by finding progress in the relationship. Like having more babies, building business, focus on a project that involves the wife, or get into some couple activity. In the short to medium term, both will win. But long term? When I have run out of things to advance the relationship, Ill be back to boredom. This strategy could only work for 5-15 years max. Thing is, I dont think I can hold out that long.

3 - Coming clean will cause the wife to hate you in the short - medium term. In a way, you are putting her down slowly because she leaves the relationship in anger which will cause her to move on /get over quicker than to just dump her or take her by surprise in point 1. The earlier I do it, probably the better it is for her too because she still has the looks to find someone new who can take care of her. It's the most respectable way to doing it. And long term, you win by not feeling miserable in this relationship and lying to yourself for another 40 - 50 years!
Im really fucked because Im feeling this way just 3 years into my marriage. At least for middle aged man, they can employ strategy 2 and just preservere on until the time comes, becoming the silent "hero" of the family.
That's the right way to think because you're trying to figure out the repercussions of each option.
For me, a major major reason I took option 3 was because my ex-wife is the same age as me. Option 2 was out of the question because I know myself, punting and infidelity runs through my blood. If I took option 1, there was a big risk that we would still end up divorcing after many years of deceit. If that happened, she would be left with no way of recovering, no way to find a better life. I did not want that to happen. So, I decided on option 3 when she was in her early 30s. She is now reasonably happily remarried and doing quite well.
I have no regrets at all about choosing option 3. You may think that choosing this option is to be selfish. It is actually the worst option for you because you will be in a bad shape financially, depending on your situation. You also may want to consider if your wife is already too old to move on if you left her, but only if you care about her wellbeing.
Whichever choice you take, never choose it because of your current girlfriend. GFs come and go, don't make life decisions based on them.

RoyalFlush
14-03-2019, 11:49 AM
never choose it because of your current girlfriend. GFs come and go, don't make life decisions based on them.

Dont worry. I am never emotionally invested in the other relationships. Usually it's the girls who asks for relationship from me. Thanks .com and goldfish :)

kenlewis
14-03-2019, 12:19 PM
Did anyone see a program on SBS about Germany's lucrative sex business? A few WLs working at the largest brothel called Paradise were interviewed. One young gorgeous looking blonde WL was asked how many guys she had slept with and she mentioned 16 with whom she had proper relationships. Then the reporter asked how many customers she had sex with and at first she didn't want to say but when pressured she indicated over 15,000! OMG! If she had slept with over 15,000 guys, would you date her?:surprise:
Thanks Cuteguy, I will stop my worries and concern then live as free man