First time but didn't do well

[Rockingcoal]

Just had my first punting (and first sex as well, if 10 sec Cowgirl counts), it was exciting and the WL is great. My little brother was extremely hard during foreplay but it started getting soft after some BBBJ. I did feel the strong stimulation from the BJ but just not getting HARD. Back to DFK and it was hard again. After putting on the dom with cowgirl, it gets soft again within 10 sec. At the end we were having DFK and she wanked me off...This is quite sad and hurting the self-esteem. Is it normal for the first time?

[Hogrider]

I guess it’s normal .. performance issue is a real thing mate .. don’t stress .. do cut some of the wanking if you do it often ..

I remember my first time , didn’t even enter the girl .. all is well now ;)

[rooter]

Don’t worry about it bro.
That’s very normal.
The first time is always the worst.
It’s a combination of nerves, excitement, expectation, inexperience etc.
Forget about it.
It’s done and out of the way.
Now you can start having fun.
Book another session ASAP with a different girl or different shop.
Second time will definitely be much better.

[Mr Ivor Biggen]

Perfectly normal for first time mate. Probably the same as most of the rest of us. Hang in there.

[24k]

Yep that’s almost word for word how my first experience (not long ago) with a friend went. After feeling comfortable with MLs I plan to visit WLs so I don’t experience the same embarrassment with someone I want to be with long term 😂
Good luck mate!

[xtc123]

Perhaps the BJ was too stimulating?

Either way, don't stress about it. First time is never perfect and you'll only get better from here

[Climax598]

Why do you do it? Go and do it again in a few see if better this time. As they say practice makes perfect.

[hornedone]

Take some Viagara next time, guaranteed stiffy

[harrycd]

Like others have said nerves affect performance.

Make sure your Dom is the right size.
I bring my own as the ones the shops usually use were too tight and causing me issues.

Also are you in decent shape? Cardio can help

[Rockingcoal]

Thanks for all the advice, it is great to know that's normal:surprise:. Will definitely try again in somewhere.

[Rockingcoal]

Like others have said nerves affect performance.

Make sure your Dom is the right size.
I bring my own as the ones the shops usually use were too tight and causing me issues.

Also are you in decent shape? Cardio can help

Didn't think about the dom's size as that's my first time putting on a dom! And for the body shape is quite average with regular weight training. Perhaps start doing regular cardio as well.

[sleepy57]

Agree with harrycd,always take your own DOM .Better than the shop rubbish

[aussiegaigin]

Make sure your Dom is the right size.
I bring my own as the ones the shops usually use were too tight and causing me issues.


How do we know? Is there a size guide available LOL?

Some of the brands I've seen in shops are available in chemists, usually the cheapest brands.

[Meng]

Bro it’s all good. Nerves get to the best of us.

I actually found doing frequent exercise and squats really helps. Other than that, don’t think too much about and enjoy the ride.

Nothing kills an erection quicker than over thinking the situation (trust me it’s happened to me before) because once you’re in that lull it will be hard to try to Will your erection back.

[QueenofObi]

Feel good when I’m not the only one who had first time not as good as expected

[Cayman]

Bro don't worry about it, I had pretty much the same experience. I am the most turned on by dfk as well, but use to lose it when putting the dom on. Tbh, i struggled with this for the first year or so of my sexual experiences, not just punting but on dates as well. Think it was just the nerves and a confidence issue, and the more I was worried about this happening, the more it would happen! But you gotta just keep trying, and eventually things will go right enough that you stop worried that they won't. One year after my first time and after a few failures, no more issues ever, and my partners were complimenting my stamina. So just keep going and don't overthink!

[jordan69]

Practice makes perfect

[harrycd]

How do we know? Is there a size guide available LOL?

Some of the brands I've seen in shops are available in chemists, usually the cheapest brands.

https://i.imgur.com/5FKnFp0.png

For reference my girth is 6" and I was using the 60mm four seasons. I used these for a while I could get them on but they were too tight and causing performance issues, similar to ED symptoms so it had me worried. Also the 2 variations, "Naked Larger" and "Larger" seemed to be slightly diff in size, I would say the "Naked Larger" which most WL's had in stock are tighter, prob 59mm or tighter elastic due to thinner rubber.

I've switched to 64mm Sax Supermax which are the largest I could find that were easily accessible/cheap enough from condomsaustralia.

[Forward Must Hang]

Rockingcoal,

First time I had sex (with a girl, and not my hand) I thought I was going to shoot my load in a matter of seconds. We had only just met the night before, swapped numbers and met up the following night. Her folks were away so woohoo! We were slowly getting naked and after some nice oral, she decided to jump on. Like I said, I figured I was going to pop before my next breath but thing was - I didn't cum. Little fella didn't know what to do, even though I had wanked myself silly for the previous years.

Meanwhile, she came twice.

Next time we hooked up, she thought she was on a winner and I had staying power - but nope, shot off half way in. Sigh... Unpredictable little bastard. Sometimes I look down at him and think "you're working for yourself aren't you, you don't get that we're a team?!"

It gets better. Once the nerves between your dick and your brain start talking right, it starts to work out just fine. Keep on truckin', you'll be right!

FMH

[Meng]

Rockingcoal,

First time I had sex (with a girl, and not my hand) I thought I was going to shoot my load in a matter of seconds. We had only just met the night before, swapped numbers and met up the following night. Her folks were away so woohoo! We were slowly getting naked and after some nice oral, she decided to jump on. Like I said, I figured I was going to pop before my next breath but thing was - I didn't cum. Little fella didn't know what to do, even though I had wanked myself silly for the previous years.

Meanwhile, she came twice.

Next time we hooked up, she thought she was on a winner and I had staying power - but nope, shot off half way in. Sigh... Unpredictable little bastard. Sometimes I look down at him and think "you're working for yourself aren't you, you don't get that we're a team?!"

It gets better. Once the nerves between your dick and your brain start talking right, it starts to work out just fine. Keep on truckin', you'll be right!

FMH

Hahaha you know what sane thing happened to me. First time I had sex I actually couldn’t cum as opposed to cumming too quickly. Our body works in mysterious ways lol.

It actually gives me a nice fuzzy feeling on how supportive the forum is to new punters!

[Rockingcoal]

Thanks for all the kind words, I am getting more confident and planning to do more cardio. Funny that the desire to sex contributes such much motivation to be healthy.

[harrycd]

Hahaha you know what sane thing happened to me. First time I had sex I actually couldn’t cum as opposed to cumming too quickly. Our body works in mysterious ways lol.

It actually gives me a nice fuzzy feeling on how supportive the forum is to new punters!

My first time and also my first time with a WL was similar even though they were more than a decade apart.

Maintained an erection for nearly 2 hours and couldn't cum :/
I think it was due to the massive amount of wanking that had desensitized my penis.

The WL was an expensive one in Vegas, she rode me hard for 2 hours and loved it. I saw her again later where she stayed for an extra 4 hours at no charge, bought me drinks along with a bag of coke which I had to finish off before heading to Boston.

I don't have that issue anymore, I think it was nerves along with cutting down on porn/wanking lol

[Meng]

My first time and also my first time with a WL was similar even though they were more than a decade apart.

Maintained an erection for nearly 2 hours and couldn't cum :/
I think it was due to the massive amount of wanking that had desensitized my penis.

The WL was an expensive one in Vegas, she rode me hard for 2 hours and loved it. I saw her again later where she stayed for an extra 4 hours at no charge, bought me drinks along with a bag of coke which I had to finish off before heading to Boston.

I don't have that issue anymore, I think it was nerves along with cutting down on porn/wanking lol

Amen brother. I actually wish I could go back to those days where I’d book 2 hours and had to pound away until both myself and the WL were drenched in sweat down to the last minute.

[Assandlegs]

Amen brother. I actually wish I could go back to those days where I’d book 2 hours and had to pound away until both myself and the WL were drenched in sweat down to the last minute.I was doing that until end of Jan 19... lol
Anyways bro, don't worry about the performance. My first time with a WL was so long ago back in '80.. I hardly remember it... but I remember it was a Caucasian brothel in Dandenong, Vic.. fuck all Asian WL back then.. paid for the hour... walked in, had the obligatory cock check that took 10 minutes of my hour... mandatory shower, alone.. 10 minutes... had no idea what foreplay was... girl just squeezed a heap of lube up there and I almost cum when she put the condom on... jumped on top in mish, pumped for what felt like 30 minutes, blew my load... checked the time and discovered my session was 4 minutes ! Didn't realise that I had 35 minutes left, got dressed and walked out.
Mamasan asks if everything is ok, I am standing there grinning like a fool. Go back to my waiting mates who say "WTF? You still have 30 minutes left!"
The point of this story is that don't worry about your first time, as you have read in all the posts above, it's not uncommon for things to go pear-shaped!

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[Climax598]

I was doing that until end of Jan 19... lol
Anyways bro, don't worry about the performance. My first time with a WL was so long ago back in '80.. I hardly remember it... but I remember it was a Caucasian brothel in Dandenong, Vic.. fuck all Asian WL back then.. paid for the hour... walked in, had the obligatory cock check that took 10 minutes of my hour... mandatory shower, alone.. 10 minutes... had no idea what foreplay was... girl just squeezed a heap of lube up there and I almost cum when she put the condom on... jumped on top in mish, pumped for what felt like 30 minutes, blew my load... checked the time and discovered my session was 4 minutes ! Didn't realise that I had 35 minutes left, got dressed and walked out.
Mamasan asks if everything is ok, I am standing there grinning like a fool. Go back to my waiting mates who say "WTF? You still have 30 minutes left!"
The point of this story is that don't worry about your first time, as you have read in all the posts above, it's not uncommon for things to go pear-shaped!

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Oh ya almost forget is it la.............la

[Bird232]

Might just be a case of nerves, and whether or not you clicked with the girl. Don't take it too seriously and remember to have fun :smile:

[cyberastrologer]

Had the same story in my first experience with WL. It gets better with time


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