fli
23-02-2013, 04:53 PM
Since I’ve been (with a few exceptions) very quiet punting-wise the last few months – in fact I have spent less than a quarter of what I used to spend- I haven’t been looking at the forum much these past few months and so maybe this topic has already been discussed – if so, sincere apologies.
I noticed an article in the SMH.
http://www.smh.com.au/queensland/sugar-daddies-a-learning-experience-for-students-20130130-2dk7z.html
I am curious on views or experiences about being a “sugar-daddy”. Is it prostitution? (I think so.) Is the sex better or worse? (Depends on taste, I guess) How do the economics of it stack up? (I doubt it if all you are looking for is sex.) Is the result a more friendly form of prostitution or does it just open you up to things turning nasty? (Trust me, I know about things turning nasty and I feel that being one-on-one like this increases the risk.) For a time-poor person like me, do they provide a more or less efficient way of getting sex? (I suspect, less efficient.)
As regards, introduction agencies for sugar daddies, do these services really work or are they a rip-off? (I suspect rip-off.) As I commented earlier, my expenditure on punting is well down and the extra cash burns a hole in a sinner’s pocket – so I am thinking where to spend it. I suspect these services are not the way to go though.
This discussion is not totally academic. I am interested in responses vis-à-vis my own experiences. I have already been involved with helping financially a (very pretty) girl through her courses. It was much more friendship than sexual – she was too vulnerable for me to push things hard and I was mindful that I wanted her to exit from our “relationship” in better shape than she entered. (She had no sense of self-worth at all at the start after an abusive relationship.) I found it rewarding to see her get through her courses and gain confidence but the sex side was very limited – partly opportunity and partly (perhaps excessive) caution on my part that I didn't treat her with disrespect and undermine her.
Seeing a hooker is easier – I pay the money and fuck them – they know the agreement and (although I am always careful to be respectful) I do not have to consider the impact of my actions on their life. I am just one man among many. However, I enjoyed the warmth of friendship and understanding in my relationship with my special friend. It is this balance between instant gratification and the longer term satisfaction of seeing someone realise their potential that I am struggling with. I want both!
By my calculations I could either enter into a new “sugar-daddy” like relationship but with a clearer understanding on the sexual requirements or I could go back to more active punting. Clearly this is my own decision but I am interested in the perspectives that other (particularly older) forum readers might be able to give.
I noticed an article in the SMH.
http://www.smh.com.au/queensland/sugar-daddies-a-learning-experience-for-students-20130130-2dk7z.html
I am curious on views or experiences about being a “sugar-daddy”. Is it prostitution? (I think so.) Is the sex better or worse? (Depends on taste, I guess) How do the economics of it stack up? (I doubt it if all you are looking for is sex.) Is the result a more friendly form of prostitution or does it just open you up to things turning nasty? (Trust me, I know about things turning nasty and I feel that being one-on-one like this increases the risk.) For a time-poor person like me, do they provide a more or less efficient way of getting sex? (I suspect, less efficient.)
As regards, introduction agencies for sugar daddies, do these services really work or are they a rip-off? (I suspect rip-off.) As I commented earlier, my expenditure on punting is well down and the extra cash burns a hole in a sinner’s pocket – so I am thinking where to spend it. I suspect these services are not the way to go though.
This discussion is not totally academic. I am interested in responses vis-à-vis my own experiences. I have already been involved with helping financially a (very pretty) girl through her courses. It was much more friendship than sexual – she was too vulnerable for me to push things hard and I was mindful that I wanted her to exit from our “relationship” in better shape than she entered. (She had no sense of self-worth at all at the start after an abusive relationship.) I found it rewarding to see her get through her courses and gain confidence but the sex side was very limited – partly opportunity and partly (perhaps excessive) caution on my part that I didn't treat her with disrespect and undermine her.
Seeing a hooker is easier – I pay the money and fuck them – they know the agreement and (although I am always careful to be respectful) I do not have to consider the impact of my actions on their life. I am just one man among many. However, I enjoyed the warmth of friendship and understanding in my relationship with my special friend. It is this balance between instant gratification and the longer term satisfaction of seeing someone realise their potential that I am struggling with. I want both!
By my calculations I could either enter into a new “sugar-daddy” like relationship but with a clearer understanding on the sexual requirements or I could go back to more active punting. Clearly this is my own decision but I am interested in the perspectives that other (particularly older) forum readers might be able to give.