ML or WL asking you on a date

[assasin]

This topic has probably been done a few times before but what are your experiences on dating a ML? Do they all have ulterior motives?

During the session she got extremely horny and i could feel she was physically attracted to me. Extras offered. She also asked for my contact details and said she would like to go on a date (twice).

What ya’ll think?

[Dettol]

I usually give them some tough conditions - half their take of the day, for example.

If I am feeling generous, I’ll just get them to pay for dinners and my uber costs.

Strictly no sex.

[konfuzion]

I ask to eat my foot and buy me chanel handbags for my gf and then sex with my friend.

[Budgyboy]

I say do it, enjoy the experience, bit youd better not be the jealous type, have no real expectation, not be a cheap bastard, be flexible and you'll have a good time. Never know she may end up being something you've been looking for. Just remember she does what she does with you with other blokes. Even if she stops youve got to be a big boy and accept thats what shed does or did for a living and not throw it back on her constantly.

[assasin]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

[Budgyboy]

Exactly what she is thinkin, its to complicated for them, but shes sees you as clean, nice enough, safe and a distraction from her shitty life, go for it and as you say stop over thinking it, she isnt

[Meng]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

Yea you’ll need to be careful. even if you think that way now, a lot of blokes will get attached and then you’ll get jealous and it’s not pretty.

[alc]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

Ooo that sounds like a tough one... That's what she does for a job isn't it?

[Azzkikr]

Go for it but dating a Wl/Ml never ends well. Most of the time they are just in it for the money. But YOLO so enjoy but dont expect too much.

[yug]

Go for it.
But know that you have been warned.

[PervySage]

If I’ve learnt anything from this forum it’s that these things always end well. I say do it!

Lol.

Remember for some of these WL / ML a date is just dinner and maybe a fun night nothing more.

They have "dates" with different guys all the time... So have a few "dates" Enjoy the experience and see how things go... But don't go in Over thinking... Leave that for later 😁😁😁

[doctorspock]

Depends if she is a PR. If not test the waters and propose to her and see her reaction🤔 Maybe she wants private work? No harm to find out.

[B J Hunter]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

And she’ probably just thinking the same as you. So tell her how it is, how it’ll play out, there’s nothing to be lost by being straight up with her. My crystal ball tells me she’s not going to say no to you and you’ll both have a mutual FWB arrangement.
Regards Dr Phil... over and out. Enjoy!

[harrycd]

Depends if she is a PR. If not test the waters and propose to her and see her reaction🤔 Maybe she wants private work? No harm to find out.

Hahahahaha
Do not randomly propose to girls to test waters

[alc]

Hahahahaha
Do not randomly propose to girls to test waters

Proposing sounds like it would be a hell of a lot more expensive than just going to a shop...

[f00b]

And she’ probably just thinking the same as you. So tell her how it is, how it’ll play out, there’s nothing to be lost by being straight up with her. My crystal ball tells me she’s not going to say no to you and you’ll both have a mutual FWB arrangement.
Regards Dr Phil... over and out. Enjoy!

Agree

Makes for good story when you're older and wiser.

[goodbloke]

This topic has probably been done a few times before but what are your experiences on dating a ML? Do they all have ulterior motives?

During the session she got extremely horny and i could feel she was physically attracted to me. Extras offered. She also asked for my contact details and said she would like to go on a date (twice).

What ya’ll think?

Is she really hot yes otherwise no . no worth the trouble. Usually the one that is easy to get is also the one that's easy to go .

[goodbloke]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

Nothing is free in Life .

[holi_day]

I think we just over complicating things here. Just go for it and see what happens.

Set the expectations and boundaries prior financially and emotionally. If things don't go the way you like, gently retreat. Ideally fall back to where it was if you like her in the shop. If not then have to move on.

[Shoryureppa]

Do it if you plan to update the thread and keep us posted.

[Raybo]

When I first started punting, I thought a thread, and for that matter, a forum like this would be useful.

Forum is useful, thread like this ain't. If you start to entertain a friendship with a working girl, then it's not really open for public discussion.

[GoldfishMan]

This topic has probably been done a few times before but what are your experiences on dating a ML? Do they all have ulterior motives?

During the session she got extremely horny and i could feel she was physically attracted to me. Extras offered. She also asked for my contact details and said she would like to go on a date (twice).

What ya’ll think?
Mate, everyone has "ulterior motives" in social settings. Say you go chat up a girl on the street, you find her hot and want to fuck her. Do you announce straight up that your motive is to fuck her?
My point is almost nobody is completely transparent in these scenarios. If you tried to be like that, man, people will think you're crazy!
Back to your "situation". If you're really attracted to her you wouldn't be asking here what to do so I'll ignore that possibility. That's an automatic GO in my book... Life is too short to be worried people are getting a piece of you!
So you just have to think back, during your sessions there with her or with other girls in the shop, did you blab about how rich you are? Do you have reputation in the shop as a "big fish"? Or do you flash a lot of wealth?
If you don't do any of this, you can rule out gold digging as a motive. It's probably all physical then.

[PervySage]

Life is too short to be worried people are getting a piece of you!.

Sage words.. 😁 and all this labeling "is it a date is it FWB" just makes things messy.

The first time (or even few times) is just dinner and then see, back to a hotel, her place or your place if you can.. Dont add labels too early just have fun.

Even if she is a gold digger, she can only dig if you let her... Or so I think

[pthong]

Oh and I also exchanged contact details with an ML once. She blocked me after I sent her a dick pic, curious since she gave me a CBJ as extra during session lol

Lol I don't think there are many women out there who genuinely appreciate a dick pic :shout: Try sending a 'boner in pants' pics- usually works much better

[holi_day]

I’m sure a dick pic is the last thing a ML wants after seeing dicks all day!
And why do guys send a girl a pic of their dick unsolicited??

Some of us assume WLs like it for the same reason how we like pics of WL's boobs or other secret parts of their bodies.

[pthong]

Some of us assume WLs like it for the same reason how we like pics of WL's boobs or other secret parts of their bodies.

agreed... honestly I don't even appreciate vag pics either.. they're quite ugly close up imo haha

[dotcumdotinyou]

Like shell-less mussels? Mr Slipper

[aussiegaigin]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

Can sometimes be very hard to separate the "benefits" from "emotional attachment" if the relationship lasts for too long.

[cuteguy]

If you're attracted to the girl then nothing wrong going out with the ML or WL. You never know you might have lots of fun and enjoyment with the girl. Some girls want to go out and if they like what they see, they will not be too shy in asking. However, be careful in that she doesn't take you for a ride and expect that you pay for everything with nothing in return from her. In addition, there are many young girls looking for sugardaddy arrangements. Whether you want to spend considerable amounts of money on one girl is up to you but with many girls out there, it would not be a good decision in the long run.

[assasin]

Update guys, i ended up bailing. Reading through previous threads on this topic, i concluded it rarely ends well.. have a long term gf also and not gonna risk that.

[assasin]

Not at all. Didnt mention or imply that im wealthy. Was good chemistry though, she mentioned she was horny and wanted me... offered fs and didnt ask for money. After asked if wanted to go out with her

[f00b]

Update guys, i ended up bailing. Reading through previous threads on this topic, i concluded it rarely ends well.. have a long term gf also and not gonna risk that.

I’d say that’s a fuckin smart move. Different story if single but you have other factors at play when a long term partner is involved.

The whole point of WL and ML is transactional avoidance of complications. By going on a date, especially while attached, you’re essentially giving up the biggest advantage of this whole scene. Hahaha

[Steph]

Thing is i just wanna be “friends with benefits“. I dont want any potential emotional attachment with her. Im probably overthinking...

Benefits go both way; I think that the benefits you want from her being “free sex”, what are the benefits you can offer for her?

But I would say do give it a try, it could turn out to be an enjoyable day out. Do drop your expectation for free sex, unless you are paying far more than just meals and transports. Chance is still slim even if you are paying for the price of a session or few sessions, remember she’s with you for far longer than that.

[Aznluv1909]

Common sense would dictate that dating a working girl would be a bad idea, once you catch feelings you lose the common sense to pull out, pun intended


But we all know the outcome to this one, hot girl asks you out. Why the fuck not

[cuteguy]

Update guys, i ended up bailing. Reading through previous threads on this topic, i concluded it rarely ends well.. have a long term gf also and not gonna risk that.

Having a gf would complicate matters if you decided to take up the ML's or WL's offer to go out. You will always get caught out in the end.

[Carissawhore]

I have been asked by 2 WL's in my whole punting career, 1st one was Japanese wanted to date first and the 2nd one was Vietnamese and wanted to have kids with me. I dodged both these ladies for sometime, you got to be careful as these ladies go through a lot everyday, they meet so many weirdos like me on regular basis, it takes toll on them eventually if they are not strong enough mentally and sex would be the last thing on their mind after seeing dicks all day long. Know what you are getting into and always have exit strategy.

[Dettol]

Lol this is how I know this is another bullshit seeking advice thread - how were you going to ask for advice and not mentioned that you had a girlfriend?

Like asking tips on how to ace a job interview and not mention that you have a warrant out for arrest!

[aussiegaigin]

An ML asked me out on a date about 3 or 4 years ago. We still meet up about once a month for lunch or a picnic/activity. She gives me massages at her home which I pay her for. We are great friends, she is good company, reasonably intelligent; I help her with her other businesses.

Despite being close there is no romance, no sex. She knows nothing about me, not even my real name. She is not pushy for contact, but is usually there when I want to see her.

[kingqxxx]

An ML asked me out on a date about 3 or 4 years ago. We still meet up about once a month for lunch or a picnic/activity. She gives me massages at her home which I pay her for. We are great friends, she is good company, reasonably intelligent; I help her with her other businesses.

Despite being close there is no romance, no sex. She knows nothing about me, not even my real name. She is not pushy for contact, but is usually there when I want to see her.

Just straight massage then?

Good that you can developed a read friendship with a ML, not easy at all. Tried but never worked out that way with me to be honest.

[aussiegaigin]

Just straight massage then?

HE if I want it. Usually a bit of mutual response.

I have to accept what she does. I know she sometimes does private massage with other guys but I manage not to worry about what happens there.

[liminal]

HE if I want it. Usually a bit of mutual response.

I have to accept what she does. I know she sometimes does private massage with other guys but I manage not to worry about what happens there.

Why would you worry? As you indicated you are just friends and Without expectations

[omguser]

I have been on a date with a WL in Singapore, once. Saw her twice (paid session) and she asked me out. Her looks were above average, seemed genuinely nice - so I agreed. She took me to a club - paid for my entry and bought me two drinks. Spent the night dancing (read grinding). She asked me back to her place - I declined. Never saw her again, did not want to get attached or develop any feelings.

Since then I have been asked out twice in Sydney, both by ML. Took one ML out for a drink - chatted and that was it. She was a little too candid about her life, and I realised that we have absolutely zero common interests. The other ML - I just never really responded to her request. Again, she was too chatty during the first session and offered FS in second session - that there was nothing left.

My experience might not be something to go by though, I just prefer to keep relationships at a distance with WL and ML.

[cuteguy]

I have been on a date with a WL in Singapore, once. Saw her twice (paid session) and she asked me out. Her looks were above average, seemed genuinely nice - so I agreed. She took me to a club - paid for my entry and bought me two drinks. Spent the night dancing (read grinding). She asked me back to her place - I declined. Never saw her again, did not want to get attached or develop any feelings.

Since then I have been asked out twice in Sydney, both by ML. Took one ML out for a drink - chatted and that was it. She was a little too candid about her life, and I realised that we have absolutely zero common interests. The other ML - I just never really responded to her request. Again, she was too chatty during the first session and offered FS in second session - that there was nothing left.

My experience might not be something to go by though, I just prefer to keep relationships at a distance with WL and ML.

Some girls might find themselves lonely here and away from their families who reside overseas. They want some intimacy and 'hugging'. I'm sure some guys would have taken up the offers even if they had no interests in the girls and the girls were not ugly. :smile:

[omguser]

Some girls might find themselves lonely here and away from their families who reside overseas. They want some intimacy and 'hugging'. I'm sure some guys would have taken up the offers even if they had no interests in the girls and the girls were not ugly. :smile:

I completely understand, sometimes a good ear and hug goes a long way. Being away from family is never easy, and honestly the two ML (Sydney) are above average looking (my opinion). I sympathise with them, it's not an easy business being in where you are essentially used and abused by countless punters without a care, me being guilty of doing just that.

My comment was mostly directed at my personality and choice, rather than questioning the ML or WL. I am more than happy to listen to them, talk to them. Majority of them are very sweet girls who are victims of circumstance. I, personally, want to remain emotionally closed off.

[holi_day]

A WL/ML only asks for a date, more specifically maybe a lunch or dinner. We automatically assume they want a relationship and be your girlfriend? Not saying we are narcissistic but most of the time, they are just lonely, plus they like you and want to spend some time not in a working room, that's it.

If a WL asks me to have a dinner, the only reason I would decline is that I don't want to have a dinner with her. A dinner is the only thing she asked for. Nothing to do with any relationship.

[omguser]

A WL/ML only asks for a date, more specifically maybe a lunch or dinner. We automatically assume they want a relationship and be your girlfriend? Not saying we are narcissistic but most of the time, they are just lonely, plus they like you and want to spend some time not in a working room, that's it.

I whole heartedly agree. My argument for against dating is simply that I don't want to be the one that gets attached, hence why I prefer to keep them at a distance.

[cuteguy]

A WL/ML only asks for a date, more specifically maybe a lunch or dinner. We automatically assume they want a relationship and be your girlfriend? Not saying we are narcissistic but most of the time, they are just lonely, plus they like you and want to spend some time not in a working room, that's it.

If a WL asks me to have a dinner, the only reason I would decline is that I don't want to have a dinner with her. A dinner is the only thing she asked for. Nothing to do with any relationship.

Many don't want a relationship because it will very difficult to keep the two separate. Some guys have issues with their girl working in the sex industry where the girl is exposed to many guys who will try to lure the girl with money and other promises. Also, their WL or ML friends will try to convince her to stay out of such relationships with customers. Having said this, some ML or WL see an opportunity to go out because they don't have a car to go to the beach or don't know the city well. This is why they will be happy to meet outside for a social outing but not to be in a serious relationship.

[Dettol]

I swear you online Romeos kill me with all these self-pleasuring posts talking about denying WL’s and ML’s requests to go out on a date because you don’t want to get attached.

You expect people to think that you are okay to pay for sex at the shops and yet somehow if you’re paying for casual sex in the forms of dinner, movies etc then that becomes too “dangerous” & would somehow made you emotionally vulnerable.

How? Your goal for both scenarios is the exact same - to have sex.
In neither scenario would you think about starting a family with these girls - probably won’t even see them again after a few fucks or when you found another tail in the next punt. (Or in my case, after I nut).

Some of the posts are so stupid or just plain cringe it’s ridiculous. I swear some of you guys think you are the shit like we don’t know your lame asses keep going back to check if anyone commented and get your little ego boost lol !

[Markin]

I swear you online Romeos kill me with all these self-pleasuring posts talking about denying WL’s and ML’s requests to go out on a date because you don’t want to get attached.

You expect people to think that you are okay to pay for sex at the shops and yet somehow if you’re paying for casual sex in the forms of dinner, movies etc then that becomes too “dangerous” & would somehow made you emotionally vulnerable.

How? Your goal for both scenarios is the exact same - to have sex.
In neither scenario would you think about starting a family with these girls - probably won’t even see them again after a few fucks or when you found another tail in the next punt. (Or in my case, after I nut).

Some of the posts are so stupid or just plain cringe it’s ridiculous. I swear some of you guys think you are the shit like we don’t know your lame asses keep going back to check if anyone commented and get your little ego boost lol !

how is not wanting to get attached an ego boost? if anything it's the opposite.

it would be an ego boost if they said they didn't want the WL/ML to get attached.

[niva321]

Not sure why Dettol getting triggered? People wanting advice for new situation is what makes you mad? Lol

[DireStraits]

Not sure why Dettol getting triggered? People wanting advice for new situation is what makes you mad? Lol

Not that I care either way, but just an observation... there's basically two types of punters:

1) those who view paying the WL/ML as a means of keeping it transactional, i.e., so she will leave after the deed is done.

2) those who view paying the WL/ML primarily as a means of receiving sexual services from her.

Looking at Dettol's comment above, it is clear which camp he falls in. The mistake he's making is assuming everyone else is in that group too.

[Markin]

Not that I care either way, but just an observation... there's basically two types of punters:

1) those who view paying the WL/ML as a means of keeping it transactional, i.e., so she will leave after the deed is done.

2) those who view paying the WL/ML primarily as a means of receiving sexual services from her.

Looking at Dettol's comment above, it is clear which camp he falls in. The mistake he's making is assuming everyone else is in that group too.


it seems he sees all interactions with the opposite sex as transactional.

[alc]

Not that I care either way, but just an observation... there's basically two types of punters:

1) those who view paying the WL/ML as a means of keeping it transactional, i.e., so she will leave after the deed is done.

2) those who view paying the WL/ML primarily as a means of receiving sexual services from her.

Looking at Dettol's comment above, it is clear which camp he falls in. The mistake he's making is assuming everyone else is in that group too.

I might not have had enough coffees yet but what's the difference between the two?

[PervySage]

I might not have had enough coffees yet but what's the difference between the two?

Lol I had few coffees already and wondered the same 😁😁😁

[Dettol]

Not sure why Dettol getting triggered? People wanting advice for new situation is what makes you mad? Lol
So you think they’re actually seeking advice?

[Dettol]

Not that I care either way, but just an observation... there's basically two types of punters:

1) those who view paying the WL/ML as a means of keeping it transactional, i.e., so she will leave after the deed is done.

2) those who view paying the WL/ML primarily as a means of receiving sexual services from her.

Looking at Dettol's comment above, it is clear which camp he falls in. The mistake he's making is assuming everyone else is in that group too.

Well, I don’t see how since those 2 are pretty much the same thing.

[warwick1]

This whole forum comprises of BS, Procrastination and Hypocrisy, I include myself in that, its just a big game.....................

[B J Hunter]

It’s our own online Jerry Springer show featuring us!
A bit tedious and repetitive at times, another day same plot, different characters. But it sure is amusing..., sometimes.
Today’s episode “Does my favourite ML really love me when she tells me I’m no.1 and can I catch anything if I DATY her but she tells me she’s clean and doesn’t do that with anyone else” stay tuned viewers!

[PervySage]

This whole forum comprises of BS, Procrastination and Hypocrisy, I include myself in that, its just a big game.....................

Of course it's a game and it's entertainment 😁

[Dettol]

It’s just like jokes - some entertain you but the bad ones do nothing but make you cringe.

[ezyz168]

I dated one for 3 months when I was 19 and from memory she was 31 haha.
Turned out she was drugged out pyscho and I'm glad I got rid of her.

However as a young lad she did teach alot of things and contributed to making me the man I am today haha

Since then I've had girls wanted to get my contact details but I would never want to be in a relationship with one again too much complication. Also the reason I punt is so I can enjoy variety and relationship defeats the purpose.

[warwick1]

Of course it's a game and it's entertainment ��

Sometimes........................

[PervySage]

Sometimes........................


Yeh sometimes...

Sometimes entertaining for ML (probably most of the time lol) sometimes punter... And if things go bad write on forum and it's entertaining for rest of us 😁😁😁

Good way to get over shit experience too... Laugh about it with fellow punters!

[annintofu]

Some of the posts are so stupid or just plain cringe it’s ridiculous. I swear some of you guys think you are the shit like we don’t know your lame asses keep going back to check if anyone commented and get your little ego boost lol !

Many other threads already discussed this "dating an ML/WL" topic. For some reason, I sensed something fishy right after reading the OP's very first post in this thread.

Fact is, most sex workers have a low opinion of all customers, young or old, handsome or ugly. Think about it, the girls know these customers won't hesitate to get into the pants of another girl no matter what he says in the room. So all this talk of ML falling in love or asking for a date just sounds so unnatural.

not saying it's impossible, but odds are very very low. and the punter who got into this "dillemma" asking for advice here? let's not kid ourselves.

[Albwick]

I think some degree of 'ymmv' can be applied to this topic due to the all the different responses.

However, there can some genuine stories out there...too

[mulanbaby]

Yes, Vanessa always have boyfriend and they are happy together.
She still work sometimes secretly hahaha

[Drmartens]

Yes, Vanessa always have boyfriend and they are happy together.
She still work sometimes secretly hahaha
Noice Vanessa enjoying her life, what about you mulanbaby, will you work secretly when you have your boyfriend too? You don’t need to answer just curious?

[konfuzion]

Noice Vanessa enjoying her life, what about you mulanbaby, will you work secretly when you have your boyfriend too? You don’t need to answer just curious?
Ask real mulan when see her why you asking pimp on forum?

[Dettol]

Many other threads already discussed this "dating an ML/WL" topic. For some reason, I sensed something fishy right after reading the OP's very first post in this thread.

Fact is, most sex workers have a low opinion of all customers, young or old, handsome or ugly. Think about it, the girls know these customers won't hesitate to get into the pants of another girl no matter what he says in the room. So all this talk of ML falling in love or asking for a date just sounds so unnatural.

not saying it's impossible, but odds are very very low. and the punter who got into this "dillemma" asking for advice here? let's not kid ourselves.
Exactly.

These Romeos basically got too romantic reading some random guy post about dating some WL/ML they felt the need to immerse themselves in the horseshit with all the “I’ve been there blah blah” “I don’t want to get too attached” crap.

You just paid $100, $200 for a privilege to some chick to tug/suck/sit on your dick and you’re having a dilemma when she asked to go on a date. I know this sounds a little strange, but your fantasy has to make sense my dude.

[assasin]

2 main reasons i made this thread;
First - this month is the first time i have gone punting again since 3 years or so
Second - Ml offered part 3 without negotiating cost. Ask for my contact details and directly said she wanted to go on a date.. this was new to me and wanted to see if anyone had similar experiences

Simple as that

[Dettol]

2 main reasons i made this thread;
First - this month is the first time i have gone punting again since 3 years or so
Second - Ml offered part 3 without negotiating cost. Ask for my contact details and directly said she wanted to go on a date.. this was new to me and wanted to see if anyone had similar experiences

Simple as that
Oh we know. We’re just laughing at the fact that you thought that it was a tough choice and then later on mentioned you bailed because of your imaginary gf LOL

[annintofu]

2 main reasons i made this thread;
First - this month is the first time i have gone punting again since 3 years or so
Second - Ml offered part 3 without negotiating cost. Ask for my contact details and directly said she wanted to go on a date.. this was new to me and wanted to see if anyone had similar experiences

Simple as that

Lol, first punt in 3 years and you got into this? (why you didn't mention this in your original post?)

By now, it should be apparent to most people this whole story is nothing more than a poorly made fiction.