Looking for love in the wrong places

Hey all,

Been single for a long time and punting for a long time. I think I punt because of loneliness most of the time, only 10% of the time because I am actually horny. When I am with the girl in the room for an hour, it feels good but I know it is just a fantasy. When I leave the shop, the sense of emptiness overcomes me. I want someone to eat with, go to events with, and socialise with.

But here's the thing. When I meet a girl I like, I usually have too much interest and fuck it up. Maybe from her side it seems like desperation. But for me, I am just trying to show my interest. If I don't like a girl, I won't waste both our time, but if I like a girl, I am like that guy from HIMYM and already think about marriage and kids in the future. Many times I have fucked up this way. So one way to stop myself is to punt while chasing the girl, which makes me seem less eager.

Sometimes these girls don't work out for other reasons, and I am left with punting again. I know if I have a girlfriend I would never punt. But it is getting one that is too hard for me. I want to stop punting because I feel it is kinda my way to look for a girlfriend, but if I stop, then I become too eager for the next girl I meet and like. It is a bit of a damning cycle.

Any bros here in same situation?

Rule #1: don't chase a working girl.

Rule #2: don't fall in love with a regular girl - let her fall in love with you.

The greater the love, the greater the pain.

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Originally Posted by Good_guy_Greg

Hey all,

Been single for a long time and punting for a long time. I think I punt because of loneliness most of the time, only 10% of the time because I am actually horny. When I am with the girl in the room for an hour, it feels good but I know it is just a fantasy. When I leave the shop, the sense of emptiness overcomes me. I want someone to eat with, go to events with, and socialise with.

But here's the thing. When I meet a girl I like, I usually have too much interest and fuck it up. Maybe from her side it seems like desperation. But for me, I am just trying to show my interest. If I don't like a girl, I won't waste both our time, but if I like a girl, I am like that guy from HIMYM and already think about marriage and kids in the future. Many times I have fucked up this way. So one way to stop myself is to punt while chasing the girl, which makes me seem less eager.

Sometimes these girls don't work out for other reasons, and I am left with punting again. I know if I have a girlfriend I would never punt. But it is getting one that is too hard for me. I want to stop punting because I feel it is kinda my way to look for a girlfriend, but if I stop, then I become too eager for the next girl I meet and like. It is a bit of a damning cycle.

Any bros here in same situation?

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If you have decent occupation, then you could quite easily find an Asian girlfriend by using a dating agency, (not the online rubbish sites) but an agency with an office in Sydney CBD.
There are several dating agencies in Sydney CBD. Obviously, it will cost a little to join, but probably a lot less than what you spend on punting. The important factor is whether or not
you have a decent job with a stable income. You don't have to be rich, just stable. Clean your teeth, comb your hair and use a decent aftershave, and you'll be in like Flyn.

GGGreg, I sympathise with you. Although my circumstances are different from yours I also visit WLs for more than just sex.

If you have read anything that I have posted you would see that I normally mention that I enjoy the breaks between the action. This is a great opportunity to really get to know the lady and find out about her life away from work. Most of the ladies that I have been close to, have Boyfriends or Husbands and in some cases they have children.

Despite all the warnings and sad stories on this forum,
I did have a special relationship with a WL. Just like most other guys in this situation "this one was different" !!

She was beautiful and her actions over a long period of time proved that she did have strong feelings for me.
However, I am not free.
Who knows what would have happened if I had been?
Could I have dealt with the fact that she was a WL ??

Eventually someone else came along who was free and our relationship tapered off.

I still think about her and miss her.

She still keeps in touch, I am not sure that this is a good thing.

There is a You Tube video made by an American guy who has lived in Thailand for many years. It is called something like 10 mistakes to never make in Thailand. He has another video about Rules to follow. I can only remember 3 of them offhand. Although he is talking about Thailand I think that his rules are relevant here.

His number 1 rule. Do not get emotionally involved with a Working Lady.
His number 2 rule. Do not look for the love of your life in an establishment catering to men.
His number 3 rule. You can take the girl out of the Bar but you can't take the Bar out of the girl.

I think that it is sad that there are so many lonely people in the world, both Male and Female.

Sorry GGGreg. I have rambled on and I am not sure that it is relevant to your post.

With most ladies I think that it pays to not come across as Too Needy.

Good luck mate I am sure that there is someone out there for you. You will probably meet her when you are not looking.

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Originally Posted by goulash

Rule #2: don't fall in love with a regular girl - let her fall in love with you.

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Easier said than done, but I would like to know how you would achieve this. I have had girls like me before, but they were usually girls I had no interest in.

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Originally Posted by MAX FAKE

Maybe you shouldn't be looking for love to begin with. Usually it will find you when you don't expect it. Besides, love is overrated.

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Maybe, but the loneliness really gets to me, especially when I see couples out on the street. I'm sure a lot of you can feel me bro.

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Originally Posted by goulash

The greater the love, the greater the pain.

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Amen.

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Originally Posted by IshmalEpteinofChina

If you have decent occupation, then you could quite easily find an Asian girlfriend by using a dating agency, (not the online rubbish sites) but an agency with an office in Sydney CBD.
There are several dating agencies in Sydney CBD. Obviously, it will cost a little to join, but probably a lot less than what you spend on punting. The important factor is whether or not
you have a decent job with a stable income. You don't have to be rich, just stable. Clean your teeth, comb your hair and use a decent aftershave, and you'll be in like Flyn.

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Thanks, I am in Sydney, are you able to name any? I am afraid of scams as well.

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Originally Posted by A44

She was beautiful and her actions over a long period of time proved that she did have strong feelings for me.
However, I am not free.
Who knows what would have happened if I had been?
Could I have dealt with the fact that she was a WL ??

Eventually someone else came along who was free and our relationship tapered off.

I still think about her and miss her.

She still keeps in touch, I am not sure that this is a good thing.

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What do you mean you weren't free?

I feel the same with you man, I would normally see a regular because I know we have chemistry and without it, I just didn't enjoy the sex very much

Coming on too strong in some cases will have negative effects. Hang out and see how things go and after a few weeks or so u can make a judgement whether she's interested or not.

sup man. seems to me you need to stop putting pussy on a pedestal bro

my advice - when next you visit a prossie dont be that gentleman you always try to be. that shit is weak and WLs (and most other girls too) only see losers like that as a soft touch.

Instead be dominant, a little rough and even a bit disrespectful. tell her to tongue your arsehole, fuck her hard. fling a load on her face. dont engage her in conversation. dont make her laugh. Just grunt and give her instructions.

Assert your status as alpha male. bitches love that shit . If you own that attitude girlies everywhere will be begging for a taste of your cock believe me.

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Originally Posted by A44

His number 3 rule. You can take the girl out of the Bar but you can't take the Bar out of the girl.

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Couldn't be more true. It is sad to see that WLs seem to be addicted to the money (or maybe sex?) this profession brings to them. I guess once one no longer feels shame about having sex with anyone who pays then this may become a good job. I am always puzzled by this.

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Originally Posted by Atomique

sup man. seems to me you need to stop putting pussy on a pedestal bro

my advice - when next you visit a prossie dont be that gentleman you always try to be. that shit is weak and WLs (and most other girls too) only see losers like that as a soft touch.

Instead be dominant, a little rough and even a bit disrespectful. tell her to tongue your arsehole, fuck her hard. fling a load on her face. dont engage her in conversation. dont make her laugh. Just grunt and give her instructions.




Assert your status as alpha male. bitches love that shit . If you own that attitude girlies everywhere will be begging for a taste of your cock believe me.

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ahahahahhahahahahahahahahhahhahahaha i LOL'd so hard at this

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Originally Posted by Atomique

sup man. seems to me you need to stop putting pussy on a pedestal bro

my advice - when next you visit a prossie dont be that gentleman you always try to be. that shit is weak and WLs (and most other girls too) only see losers like that as a soft touch.

Instead be dominant, a little rough and even a bit disrespectful. tell her to tongue your arsehole, fuck her hard. fling a load on her face. dont engage her in conversation. dont make her laugh. Just grunt and give her instructions.

Assert your status as alpha male. bitches love that shit . If you own that attitude girlies everywhere will be begging for a taste of your cock believe me.

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That sort of attitude and behaviors towards women sounds very familiar ! It's him again !

honestly love works in mysterious ways.

most times the "one" always end up being closer to you than you know it.

often she's right in front of you, and you just haven't noticed it yet.

Greg, you just need to practice by having lots of lady friends (just friends, not ones you are f%^&ing) and be comfortable with them. Then you can perhaps control your neediness or whatever. If you keep dating, you can find someone. Be prepared to go on lots of dates though. Be yourself dude, there is no point in pretending at all. Perhaps you need a girl who likes a needy guy.

Try to find a friend first than love..... Ur chance will come.
Love will come when u least expect it. Hard to believe but it really does. Maybe u need to concentrate on other things?

Enjoy while it last as I regret this shit.

The other thing is, I seem to get along with a WL/ML much better than regular girls. Maybe it's that you're both naked, but for some reason conversation is easier, no awkwardness really. Easy to make them laugh.

Or maybe they just want you to return as a customer.

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Originally Posted by Good_guy_Greg

The other thing is, I seem to get along with a WL/ML much better than regular girls. Maybe it's that you're both naked, but for some reason conversation is easier, no awkwardness really. Easy to make them laugh.

Or maybe they just want you to return as a customer.

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Tell the girl you don't have money to see her in shop, and can she meet up with you outside. And you will get the truth.

"I seem to get along with a WL/ML much better than regular girls"
That creeped me out a bit. If you start to believe that, then you are limiting yourself to WL/ML interactions

A friend told me "You cant fall in love with someone with a foreign passport, who doesnt have residency in this country"
You never can be sure of their intentions

You strike me as the type of guy "ripe for the picking" if you talk and think as you do. Scammer bait actually

Have ambition, be great at what you do for work. If you are unemployed, find work, any work
Throw away the victim mentality. Have an inner feeling that the world is full of abundance
Women smell fear, and admire confidence
Also I have never met a woman who doesnt appreciate a gentleman

Open your heart, dont close it
I just takes one true woman to notice you, and everything turns 180o
Your patience will be sorely tested, but the love you find after the wait, will be very sweet indeed

On the other hand, its way way to easy to be in a relationship when you arent in love. Just to avoid being alone

But I agree its not easy when you are single for long periods.
But sounds like you have a good heart, so good on you for staying strong

All the best

being in no relationship is better than being in a crappy one.

If you're too desperate and you get into a crappy one, you'll be financially destroyed and still end up lonely.

Don't forget that being single does have its own advantages

GGG - think about it like this buddy.

Imagine you have a booking immediately after me. I spend the full hour bashing the ladys pussy, feeding her my big thick cock and stretching her hole. She is exhausted by the end (but probably cummed 5 times)

and then you tip-toe in, carrying a boquet of flowers or a box of chocolates etc, recite a poem you wrote for her, give her a massage, lick her pussy and try to make her laugh.

Of course they are happy to see you! But do they thirst for you cock? No! Do they see you as boyfriend material? Fuck no!

Stop being 'good guy greg'. Start being 'sort of an asshole greg'