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Hi Benny, thanks for your input really appreciate your insight. Just a question as you have a partner, how do you avoid getting caught by her. I'm assuming you can't be seen taking the sugar baby out to the mall or dinner and how do explain you disappearing for a few hours or overnight?Quote:
Originally Posted by BennyB
Hey matey, I'm yet to have a dip in this pool, but this is what I did to hide some former habits:
"Sorry babe I was out drinking with the boys then we went to Barry's place for some smokes because everything was closed and I crashed on the couch" get Barry to back your story up as well, shout him a six pack.
Or "Daz needed a hand with some mechanical work on the Ute /his pc blew up and we got a bit pissed as the beers were flowing"
"Working late, probably will be sleeping under the desk/car again :/ Don't wait up for me love"
Biggest advice, sit down and think really hard about the suburbs and places your SO is visiting and plan everything outside of that. Don't go to places she may have friends/family as well.
Messaging SB, if via text, get an app with self destructive messages. Signal is good as it can be pinned.
As for funds, cash is always king as it isn't tracable. Take small amounts out thru the week/month for "coffee and smokes and lunch" and stash em in the same place as your porno/toys/drugs. I'm a tall guy so for me it was always right at the back top of the cupboards.
Happy Punting
Did you read the full thread, he travels interstate for workQuote:
Originally Posted by Blue007
I don't know why you're still hanging around on this website if you're truly what you suggest others to doQuote:
Originally Posted by Vader
Finally a thread about Sugar dating!
Myself joined SA for almost 3 years and I think it’s the best thing ever!
Love to share some stories and tips but I will start off with this funny one:
A friend of mine let his sugarbaby living in his harbour view apartment at Milsons Point in exchange of 10 sex a month (he doesn’t live there). He said the capital gain from that apartment will be more than enough to cover the money he spent on her … smart right?
Few weeks ago he told me the building manager rang him said his sugarbaby keep bringing different guys into the building every few hours 😂
Hey BlueQuote:
Originally Posted by Blue007
You are right. It’s tricky when you have a partner. But it’s the same thing when you are out punting?
Travelling for work on business helps me move around a bit and have options in different states.
If this option is not available to you then some basic good habits at home can also work
- Don’t punt close to home. You are correct, you don’t want to be seen out with someone by your friends, or your partner’s
- Aim for Sugarbabes that suit your lifestyle. If you are married, don’t go for the clingy types who constantly want you on tap. Pick the ones who are happy with something low key and casual
- When I’m at home, as I am this week, I have one Sugarbabe who I take for lunch and then we go back to her place. The other one I see when I’m home I have to get a hotel / airbnb but again I try to punt during working hours. I don’t do overnights at home in Sydney - unless my partner is away visiting her family interstate.
- Have a friend who can vouch for you. Honey I’m off to see Steve and we’re going to the races, etc.
- If you are limited for time, find girls who can be flexible and who don’t mind the thrill of fucking a married / partnered man. There are many girls out there who get a kick out of it
- get a punting phone or use comms apps that are not apparent - Signal, kik, Telegram, etc
- There’s a whole chapter on how not to get sprung in the book I recommended.
- Stiffy’s post above has some good tips. Sounds like a man who has been there.
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Originally Posted by Blue007
And lastly - the most important thing - never ever give your partner a reason to not believe you, or to think that you are cheating on her. Once her radar is up, you are fucked.
I’m sure you are just as careful in your normal punting life. The same rules apply.
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Originally Posted by juscruisin58
Eat your fekkin heart out Cruisin! [emoji8]Quote:
Originally Posted by BennyB
Thanks Benny, but no, this is a first for me; it was different kind of activity (juggling 3 crazy shielas).
I think you should do a book Benny. You seem plump full info. I'd buy it.
Juscruisin is living the life. Hot 20-something on tap who’s in love with an older man. Most guys have to go to Thailand to find that.Quote:
Originally Posted by StiFFFy
Juggling 3 crazy women Stiffy? Sounds like you are the perfect fit for punting Sugarbabes.
Most of it is common sense. I had a couple of good mentors when I started out punting and they kept me on the straight and narrow. And my balls out of divorce court.
Reading the detailed reviews from guys who were punting Sugarbabes also helped my game.
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Originally Posted by monkeybusiness
This is fantastic Monkeybusiness. Classic story. I guess her parking space was free and so she rented it out?
Thanks for your support BennyBQuote:
Originally Posted by StiFFFy
StiFFFy, Don't need to my fecking eat my heart out for you or anybody else.
If as I suggested, if people had read the full thread, not only would the other poster realise BennyB travels frequently for work, therefore able to meet SB's regularly, You would have realised, I am in a longterm, exclusive arrangement with a 24 yr old (I am 56), we have been together just on 2 years and she now lives with me.
So, I am VERY HAPPY with my arrangement thanks
This is why communication in person is superior; text just doesn't have the same impact. I wasn't being a 2 inch dildo matey, just stirring a bit. Guess forum doesn't do emojis well.Quote:
Originally Posted by juscruisin58
Back on topic, what website have you had the greatest success with?
I thought it was all in jest myself.
Over the past three years I’ve probably had 80% of my SBs from Seeking. The remainder from SDM.
I’m sure others will have views on which sites they get the most out of.
The most reviews of sex meets I read are on Seeking.
Stiffy you just touched on the clincher for me. Meet in person before you play. I think it's essential.Quote:
Originally Posted by StiFFFy
If you are shelling out a few hundred for a punt, you want to know that the pretty face is real and that the chemistry in person is at least as good as it is on text.
Buying on photos (Scarlet Blue / E&B bait and switch anyone?) is just fools gold.
I haven't posted anything about it not being good value.Quote:
Originally Posted by BennyB
I was just after a realistic understanding of what it would actually cost.
I don't have a better alternative for you.
Thanks to all the SD's for the information provided.
All good. I tried to use smiley face to show it was lighthearted.Quote:
Originally Posted by gthgrt
I understand you were asking for factual information and I was just trying to help based on very little knowledge of what you were specifically looking for.
I prefer to give specific feedback rather than just general feedback. Punting appetites are different, capacity to spend is different and guys land girls at different prices.
The least I have paid for a one off meet on SA is $nil (that's happened three times, so it's rare). It was more sexting and hooking up. The most I have ever paid is $500 for a meet.
Sugarbabes are not uniform. YMMV with pricing and what you get.
Being a SD is definitely not for me, I don't have enough time to do the meet ups. When I feel the urge I just punt, simple as that and to be honest I couldn't put up with the shit that most of the younger generation go on about.
Good luck to all you guys that can.
I'm not trying to be nasty Benny, but this is beginning to look like an infomercial. Do you get anything out of it? And if you have all of these lovely young SBs that you like to spend many hours with why are you here so much?
Been reading this thread with great interest. Just thought I’d share an interesting viewpoint from the other side that I came upon:
https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifest..._side_for_sbs/
Hi DCDIY (excuse the abbreviation but I did not want to stuff it up)Quote:
Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou
Do I get anything out of it? I like helping people, so that makes me feel good. No one is paying me, and I am not getting any kickbacks - you have advertisers on the forum for that.
Equally, you don't have to read it - and I'm not being nasty either - you can just change the channel? I'm just responding to what is asked. If the forum members on here don't find value in what I've shared please tell me. I don't want to waste anyone's time.
But to give you a bit more colour - when I started punting, it was after a sexless relationship break up. I spent way too much money on escorts and brothels. Like way too much. When I jumped onto Sugarbabes there was no information out there and no forum for it. I'm just sharing what I wish someone had taken the time and effort to share with me.
Isn't that what forums are about? Sharing...?
p.s. Did you like my Niko Delevingne review? I'd love to read some of yours too.
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Originally Posted by DireStraits
Hey Dire Straits (great band btw) I posted it here for you for discussion
Posted byu/bubblerush
1 day ago
Wholesome
The potential ugly side for SBs.
Vent/Rantnsfw'
I’ve been a SB for a few years and I’ve met quite a few SBs along the way. I’ve seen an increased interest with these relationships since the pandemic, and I just wanted to share some things with aspiring/new SBs. One thing I can not stress enough is the fact that this is NOT easy. You come to learn very quickly that everything comes with a price, which is why I wanted to make a post about the uglier side of sugar dating because I find it’s not really talked about. Here are some of the things that many SBs experience. Obviously it’s very dependent on what type of SD you have but here are some common ones I’ve seen women struggle with.
You’ll get a lot of very judgmental looks while out in public with your SD. Looks of disgust or pity and it’s something you’ll have to get used to.
Depending on how long you do it; you’ll most likely lose friends and family. At the very least it will change the way they see you.
There will most likely come a time where you meet someone that you genuinely want a relationship with and you might need to walk away from it because of the lifestyle.
You’ll meet men that use financial support to manipulate you. You’ll need to have strong boundaries and a savings account or your mental health will take a hit.
If you’re doing this because you’re desperate for financial support, you’ll find yourself laying on a hotel bed with a man you’re disgusted with, staring at the ceiling and waiting for it to be over so you can take a hot shower. (Trust me you don’t want to get here)
Using things to cope with the lifestyle. I’ve seen this a lot and it’s a very dangerous habit. It’s not uncommon for girls to develop addictions while doing this.
Not being honest with yourself. I’ve seen many friends of mine try to talk themselves into having a better outlook on their sugar relationships. Be honest with yourself, if you’re unhappy take care of your mental health. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re enjoying anything just to make it a little easier.
If you find the right SD it can be amazing but it takes time. Don’t rush anything out of desperation. Take care of yourself girls, nothing is worth damaging your mental health over.
Whenever someone tells me their trying to help me "because they like helping people" I check to make sure my wallet is still in my pocket.
I have many reviews, just click on my tag and scroll through. The longest was for girlclub there are many other short ones (good and bad) only because I'm not as eloquent as your good self. But thank you for your effort in trying to make it seem like I don't contribute here in an attempt to deflect from my point that you spend a lot of time on here countering negative comments
I agree that forums are for sharing that's why I'm here on a punting forum and not on SA. From what I see your advertising here and not paying for it, if I were an advertiser on this site I'd be complaining to admin about it. It seems some punters have stopped going to brothels and signing up to SA because of your selflessness, just one example Riff was a good customer of number 5 Marrickville but now he has a lovely Italian SB among others and doesn't seem to visit anymore.
That's why I think
Thanks for your helpful reply DCDIY.
If more guys are out punting Sugarbabes then this will be a boon for you. Prices of WLs / MLs will come down and you will be the beneficiary.
You can buy me a beer one day as thanks.
Are they though? You’ve given one example, which hardly seems significant… are you aware of hordes more who’ve “stopped going to brothels and signing up to SA”, or are we getting a bit carried away there?Quote:
Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou
Assuming for the sake of argument though that it’s true… It may not be the direction that brothels like to see their regulars taking. But it is unquestionably giving punters more choice and from the sounds of it, more bang for their buck if they do it right. To me, that’s not a bad outcome for a punter, which I believe the vast majority of us here are :-)
Mates pls chill.
It’s a forum to discuss on everything and anything. I have seen lot of posts with some cool stuff and no so cool stuff as well.
Each one will have his own entitlement to pursue new options. Let’s be respectful of what each of them want to do and how to proceed. It’s their remit. No one is telling them what to do.
Healthy conversation always keeps our forum to grow and we learn from each of our mistakes and learn some new things to try such as review - 2 hole massage table. I have been browsing the 2 hole table after the review. It’s so new only a few places-have it.
Would I ditch my regular no way. But I would try it for sure.
Weather is great outside. Few beers and bbq for all of us!
Another interesting viewpoint in that thread…Quote:
Originally Posted by BennyB
Posted by Zealousideal-Emu:
“This post is soo soo important. SA is filled with literal hobbyists and men using it for discounted sex work services. These men take advantage of internalized whorephobia to get you to do the most for the least amount of compensation or you're not an SB you're a hooker.
If you're only getting paid to have sex, getting paid 3 figures, you know you can't ask your "SD" for anything significant financially then you don't have a sugar relationship. These kinds of guys are also super risking health-wise because they are having sex with other desperate people.
A great litmus test, are you getting 4 figures per date, do you have dates that don't involve sex, do you receive your allowance even if something comes up and you can't meet, can you ask your SD for significant help financially, emotionally, professionally and know he'll say yes without a quid pro quo request.”