Some blokes' reactions are expected, and I really appreciate all the feedback.
One bro asked about her ethnicity; I reckon it's not hard to guess. I can also say we're from the same place (same state, not the same city though).
A fair few people are nattering about money and potential fraud risks here. This is how I see it.
1. She hardly ever asked for financial help, and the only time she did, it was due to something I can't elaborate here. But it's not because she was gambling or doing anything dodgy. She genuinely worked her guts out to pay it back. I could see how keen she was to get the debt sorted asap.
2. She's a low-maintenance girl. She made it clear to me that she's not interested in designer brands, luxury bags, and all that shits. My first pressie for her was a $60 "Attack on Titan" figurine I got from Hobbyco, and the most expensive thing I bought for her was a pair of Adidas sneakers for her birthday. Money-wise, she's as clean as a whistle. When I booked the place for her short break, I tested her by saying it was a gift, but she insisted on paying me back. She also chipped in when we went out. Again she never encouraged me to visit her or booked her overnight. I actually stopped visiting her in the shop. Sometimes, I know she’s flat out and offered to buy her takeaways, she said:” I can handle it myself, no need to waste money on this.” If she wanted to fake her non-materialistic persona, it'd be bloody hard to consistently act like this for 9 months.
3. I know heaps of her personal info. For starters, she gave me way too much personal information when we started getting to know each other. Since I have connections back home, it's not hard for me to dig into her details to verify if her stories are true. That's why I believe the WeChat account she gave me is her private one because her "WeChat moment" and "account ID" have personal stuff you wouldn't want to share with a customer, no matter how "regular" they are. I also confronted her (in a polite way) about some family things she hadn't told me, and she didn't deny it. So I reckon I've done my homework and know everything I need to know about her. This isn't some Aussie bloke hooking up with a Thai girl situation (nothing racial here). I've stopped digging because the purpose was just to screen her, and I have no interest in snooping around someone's private life. Besides, it's in a WL’s best interest not to muck around with someone who knows who she is and has photos and videos of her. The consequences could be dire. I reckon this is basic 101 for this line of work.
4. She's tough and independent, and she knows what she's doing. She once said, "You can't rely on other people to tackle the issues in your life." There was one time she asked me, "Do you think I'm a write-off?", and I hesitated for a moment. She said, "I don't want you to pity me!" I replied, "To me, you're an interesting girl. Once you sort your problems out, just ditch the unpleasant memories and leave them behind." She said, "Yeah, that's what I want, treat me like a girl, not a prostitute." Speaking of manipulation, we had an interesting conversation about it. She told me that it's pretty tough to be fucked more than 10 times a day and 20 days in a row. So, observing how her customers behave and manipulating their feelings is a kind of "special painkiller" that can ease her feelings. I asked, "Are you manipulating me too?", and she said, "I think sometimes we all bring our work habits to our personal lives." We both had a good laugh about it. C'mon, we're all humans, and we all manipulate people to some extent, whether it's at work or home.
5. I don't reckon I'm anything special, and I'm not gonna play hero here. This WL has to deal with her own dramas, and I'm not in any position to bail her out. Of course, her money problems are far beyond what I could afford. Sometimes I wish money was the only issue she faces. Cash can solve a lot of hassles, but not all problems are related to money. Also, I know she's had some decent clients, and some of them spent way more dough on her, so I'm definitely not one of her high-net-worth customers.
6. Look, I fully understand that a 30-something woman in this line of work isn't going to go out with me like I dated other sheilas in my 20s. She's expecting something from me, and I'm fine with that. This is how I see it: If she wants money from me, she needs to do a lot better than what she's doing now. If she's a grand strategist planning a big scam on some well-off bloke, I'm definitely the wrong target 'cause we know each other's net worth and earning potential pretty well.
Based on my observations, the money fraud risk is very low, and this is actually the least of my concerns now.
Well, If she wants to move on with a new life back home eventually, or she finds someone can provide her better support, I will respect her decision. It would take an emotional toll on me for sure, but we all bear the consequences of our actions.
