I guess no one is going to ask why she had an appointment at 10pm with the doctor for 6 hours?
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I guess no one is going to ask why she had an appointment at 10pm with the doctor for 6 hours?
That sounds like an excuse to me of the WL not wanting to do the booking...
I think this is actually a good thing. You need a break from that place and a break from punting in general. I've they've legit cut you off, its no big deal. If they message you later begging you back, you know where you stand.
Find a hobby that isn't fucking for a month. See how it feels. You can always go back to being a degen later.
Hello @westsydneypunter.
If you want a professional opinion, here it is: Disregard all the comments that other punters pontificated here. Go to see your GP and ask for a referral to a psychologist, for your own sake.
It will be the best thing you will do for your well-being. Your issues, based on what you wrote, are multi-layered, and much deeper and wider than being just a bloke who enjoyed going to brothels and "being nice and kind". I expect you will require counselling for at least 12 months to work out your issues, with appointments every 10 days or so.
Good luck.
Psychological Analysis:
1. Emotional Dependency & Attachment Substitution
There are clear markers of parasocial or pseudo-intimate attachment—a one-sided emotional investment toward sex workers and the brothel community that substitutes for real emotional connection.
The “comfort” he describes functions as an emotional refuge, likely filling unmet needs for acceptance, belonging, and validation.
2. Compulsive or Addictive Sexual Behaviour
The frequency, duration, and financial outlay suggest possible compulsive use of commercial sex:
Recurrent high spending despite negative consequences.
Preoccupation with maintaining involvement.
Escalation in time commitment (multi-day bookings).
Intense distress when access is disrupted.
These are hallmarks of behavioural addiction, not purely transactional use.
3. Defended Vulnerability and Cognitive Dissonance
His insistence that he’s “not in love” and “not crazy” reflects defensive rationalisation—protecting against the painful recognition of emotional dependency or rejection.
The language (“I just help out out of kindness”) masks a need for significance and reciprocal care that he cannot admit within the transactional framework of a brothel.
4. Rejection Sensitivity & Narcissistic Injury
When the owner abruptly cuts him off, he experiences it as a betrayal of loyalty and worth. The subsequent indignation (“After all I’ve done for them!”) indicates narcissistic wounding—a collapse of self-esteem tied to perceived unfair treatment.
5. Possible Underlying Factors
Patterns suggest:
Loneliness and low relational self-efficacy (difficulty forming mutual, non-transactional bonds).
Possible depressive or dysthymic traits, masked by activity and “helpfulness.”
Compensatory behaviour through control, spending, and “being needed.”
Summary
This punter exhibits traits of loneliness, dependency, and compulsive sexual behaviour masked as altruism. He appears emotionally invested in transactional environments that provide temporary acceptance. The abrupt rejection by the brothel has destabilised his sense of belonging, revealing underlying emotional vulnerability. Therapeutic intervention is advised to address attachment repair, emotional dependency, and self-worth regulation.
Andrews right. Mate go get some help. Looking at your post history you sound like you need some professional help...Quote:
Originally Posted by andrewv
Obviously, someone who knows is giving great advice. Take it. Look at it this way, can't hurt. If nothing else, you'll learn something about yourself, and that's always worthwhile, especially in the long run.Quote:
Originally Posted by andrewv
Sometimes people take advantage of your kindness
Hookers are hookers. Its unfortunate, but you aren't going to find any loyalty or repayment - and at the end of day, they dont owe you nothing - its all transactional
Just save ur money and use it to travel the world instead mate. For 7k, you'd have a blast at Thailand.
Reminds me of that Simpsons episode where Stan Lee went to comic book guys shop but never left.
I get punting can be addictive, that’s why I only got once a month or longer. Get my fix from a girl that suits my desires then have a long break.
Dude you need serious help and you became a liability for the shop. Leave this site, quit punting and seek help pronto
I once read of a guy who worked and lived full time at a BDSM place in the city or close to the city and he did it all for free in exchange for being treated like a slave.
He did maintenance, cleaning etc and in return received their BDSM services for free. He’d participate with clients too but didn’t get paid. If I remember correctly he lived onsite in a cage. It was a 24/7 slave lifestyle arrangement.
Perhaps somone else knows of the story?
I’m trying to remember which place it was.
I find its best to keep trying new ladies, by sticking with regulars they will exploit u. It's fine to have regulars, but u dont want them thinking you're only seeing them alone.
Interesting post, bro… I recall reading one of your earlier posts, and draw a few possible conclusions; you’re either a full-blown puntaholic and need help, or you're a certified fool sitting on a sweet inheritance or you’ve hit the jackpot and got money to burn.
Overall Summary (Jan–Jul 2025)
Total Spend ≈ $53,000
Average Monthly Spend ≈ $7,570
Highest Month January 2025 – $13,690
Lowest Month May 2025 – $4,500
Average Spend per Session (est.) $250–$300
Estimated Total Sessions ~180–200 bookings
Spending Behaviour Profile
Style: Long-sessions heavy early on, then short frequent sessions during mid-year
Price Band: $150–$200 hr range dominates (ie mid market brothels)
Preferred Venues: 90 Artarmon, 19 Lipstick, Bonza, 533, 102 Liverpool
Refund Incidents: 3 documented (totaling ≈ $700)
Double/Group Sessions: Occasional (MFMF, no-swap doubles) around Mar–Jul
Top Repeat Performers
Naomi (90 Artarmon) 10+ Longest sessions, multiple walkouts, emotional rollercoaster
Miko (90 Artarmon) 5+ High-value, including NYE marathon
MiMi (19 Lipstick/78a/647) 5+ Loyal regular, consistent pricing
NuNu (Bonza/Yokos) 4+ Frequent in Apr–Jul
Karen & Cecilia (533) 3+ Mid-range go-tos in mid-year
Amy (19 Lipstick) 3+ Solid performer, reappears across months
Financial Forecast (If Trend Continues)
If the ~$7k monthly average holds steady for the remainder of the year:
Projected 2025 Total: ≈ $84k (or ~$1,615 per week / $230 per day)
Money doesn’t buy loyalty or respect.
Stop bitching and move on.
I was thinking the same thingQuote:
Originally Posted by Becareful
My professional diagnosis of OP is he most likely suffers from condition called "Not-Handsome & Not-Attractive"Quote:
Originally Posted by andrewv
He most likely does not look like Brad Pitt, Chris Hemsworth, BTS Jimin, Jackson Wang or Super-Junior Siwon.
Thats why he spends all his time at a brothel and paying for transactional sex
OP you're the biggest simp ever. Dude WTF. Man the fuck up for fucks sake. You're such a fucking loser.
Its blokes like you the reason the rest of us get so many roots, bareback all inclusive for $150-170/hr.
You call yourself a punter you son of a bitch?
Just listen to yourself how pathetic you are:
"The thing is, over the 16 months of going to this shop, I have never asked for a discount and always pay full price, even though some customers from certain backgrounds get a discounted rate of $40 and up to $180 on their doubles. I know; I’ve seen, heard, and even taken payment when working as requested by the owner while helping out.
With all that said, the way I have been treated. Who do you think is in the wrong? And what should I do?
What should you do? You should MAN THE FUCK UP. Stop being the sissy simp you are and take fucken control. YOU OWN THE WHORE WHEN YOU PAY YOU IDIOT!!! Get this through your head and if you can't ask your friend to piss in your ear to clear it. OK.
"...the way I have been treated..."
Oh you poor diddums. You sound like a fucken faggot. Maybe you should try sucking dick.. just for a change. You might like the taste. Maybe it'll put things in perspective for you.
You think this is abuse? YOU THINK THIS IS ABUSE YOU FUCKEN COCKSUCKER???!!
Coming here expecting us to blow sunshine up your ass.
Apart from the last post this thread is interesting and lots of bros have made good points.
I'd add to brother aussie hot guy tho. OP considers himself kind and nice. How about obsessive and a weirdo?
Who goes to the same place over and over? I agree with the posts that say he's deflecting/hiding his clear emotional attachment to the place.
Fk n leave as the saying goes in this forum.
About the no money comment, some bright brother did the maths. Yes OP paid the whole day but if you average it out, the WLs could have earned more per customer than the average rate you paid to "book them the whole day".
To OP, think about it from their perspective. You reduced their earnings and some may be living day to day on their takings. Even if it isn't this, you're ruining their earnings. It's a business at the end of the day and you're just another cock to them.
Glad to know you're moving on but don't get attached to the next place. No girl or business owes u anything.
It's a brothel/RnT FFS.
The other advice you're getting here is a good one....treat yourself to a good trip in Thailand or Philippines.
If u have cash and crave personal connection but cannot get a proper talk relationship then a sugar baby is better for you than these shops. You buy a better GF experience that way.
Why don't you just invite the girls overnight to your place, I am sure they rather pocket the shop fee themselves and hang out at your place go for dinner etc, rather than just spend 6 hours in a room with you where they work all day.Quote:
Originally Posted by westsydneypunter
Ive taken many girls from shops out, they are always keen to get paid and go out and about rather than stay at the shop.