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You have to be strong willed, make the choice to give up and stick to it. Otherwise it’s a downward spiral that’ll ruin you financially, physically and mentally.
Dump all your friends as no doubt they use too, wipe your phone, change your number and don’t give it to anyone.
Put your time and energy into getting fit and stay at the gym. Go to the gym every day and tire yourself out.
Only you can make the choice to save yourself and stick to it, good luck.
Thank you for sharing brother! I haven't been through this so I don't have much for advice but realisation is always the first step. I hope you can break the addiction, while money is one thing, but health is irreplaceable. Keep on fighting, WestSydneyPunter!
I remember seeing your post in the 'how much have you spent this year' thread and knew with those numbers it was an obvious addiction, but didn't know there were drugs involved. That definitely explains the multiple hours-long sessions. The drugs definitely would have fucked up your brain, and you'd need a bigger hit each time.
Glad to hear you recognised the problem AND got help for it.
Good luck with the continued healing, mate. Hope there aren't too many more relapses/setbacks for you in future, but definitely sounds like you have the strength to completely get through this to the end.
Yes, I remember that thread and was shocked by the session lengths and money spent. Makes sense now.Quote:
Originally Posted by secret0
Is removing your self from Sydney an option? You say you’re fussy about service. I’m sure there are some country towns with no good service ML or WL available. You could rent out your Sydney place and rent in a town in the middle of nowhere. Problem is ice is a big problem in regional towns so probably depends if the ice or the sex is the bigger addiction.
Good luck.
Good post, no judgements on this forum. By posting it you've recognised that you feel you have a problem that is very detrimental to your life and your doing your best to comes to terms with it and to fix it. Good luck on your mental and spiritual journey to the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Post updates if you like.
Major steps in solving any problem, no matter how big or small, starts with acknowledging and accepting it, which you have already achieved.
Next step would be to face the long journey on rough road, without shoes with bright hot sun in day and cold wind at night, this you might be going through. Leaving the comforts, joy , pleasure that devils offer is never easy.
Great willpower and braveness is required..You are doing great just keep it up..
Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities. It's not easy, especially in a forum where true personalities are shielded behind a screen.
Hearing your story was insightful, and hearing your journey was inspiring. The mind can be a curious thing, and you have certainly lead me away from any substance abuse during sex.
Keep going and stay strong, I'll be cheering you on, even if it's only behind a computer screen.
Some people become addicted to sex, just like addiction to alcohol or gambling. Drugs add fire to the addiction.
I strongly recommend looking up the "12 Steps" program.
The 12 Steps. Note that you don't have to be a religious person to take the steps. Atheists too can benefit. Substitute the word "alcohol" for "sex".
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol — that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Are you a psychologist?Quote:
Originally Posted by anonymouspunter2
Thanks for sharing.
Just wanted to say a huge thank you to all of you for your kind words of support. It really touches me to see so many people taking the time to reach out. I’ve noticed a few questions floating around, so I thought I’d give everyone an update on where I stand at the start of 2026.
@Wayne — Regarding your comment that “he needs to seek professional help,” I have, and I’m currently seeing a psychologist to help me dig into the underlying reasons for my addiction. It’s taken me since April 2025, when I first reached out, to find someone who really understands this crippling addiction. I’m only on my 3rd session so far, but it’s already making a difference.
@putsputs — Great question. When I spot a trigger or feel an urge to smoke coming on, I usually try counting the first seven colours I see around me, or I remind myself of the guilt that hits afterward, or think about what else I could have done with that money. They say you need to replace the pleasure with something else, which is way harder than it sounds. But every relapse gives you more “data,” as they put it — you learn what happened, why, and where you were at emotionally. I used to go out on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays; now I’ve swapped those nights for NA and SAA meetings to keep myself busy and accountable.
@anonymouspunter2 — Spot on. That’s exactly what my psychologist and I are working through, and it’s pointing strongly in that direction.
@DVU420 — Like I said, this isn’t about judging the industry, the workers, or the clients. This is just one punter’s story about the darker side of punting.
@andrewv — Thank you so much for the advice on the 12-step program. It was actually one of the first things I came across on this journey, and it’s been a part of my recovery so far — I’ve been attending meetings and even did the “90 meetings in 90 days” push. But honestly, it’s not quite for me. I find the vibe a bit depressing: we all sit around sounding sad. “Hi, my name’s Mark, I’ve been clean for 16 months now,” said in this flat, down tone. Mate, you should be proud! You’ve been sober for 16 months — that’s huge! Share that strength and give others hope. As for the “God” or “higher power” part, I can honestly say I’ve found that power in Buddhism. It teaches that we suffer because we cling to things that are impermanent — and letting go of that clinging is the key to easing the pain.
Thanks again to everyone who’s been there with encouragement. Your words mean more than you know. I’m taking it one day at a time, and I’m grateful to have this community along for the ride.
thanks for sharing, and best of luck to OP
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It’s not about sitting in a room sharing story’s and sounding depressed, it’s about sitting in a room with people that have walked the same path as you trying to become better people
I still attend GA, after an unhealthy relationship with booze, cocaine and gambling, so it’s very similar. I’ve never felt so comfortable in a room full of people I’d never met
You realise that it’s not just you struggling, a lot of people are so it’s great to support each other
Thanks for sharing. First time I've heard about chemsex. All the best in your journey to recovery, one day at a time.
this thread has been a real eye opener, I best to keep my demons in check
If you had said this in your other thread we wouldn't have bagged you out. Now it all makes sense. Good on you for finding the strength to speak up. Sorry i don't know of any other stores but wish you the best in your recovery.
I've read the odd forum story on getting high during a punt so hopefully one of those characters are still around, reads this and can reach out to you and share. Sharing definitely helps with healing having been through the process myself on something else
Well done for been so honest and hopefully others can avoid the same problem.
I've done a few similar sessions myself but have decided I cant continue doing so as its hard to afford a regular session,let alone a longer one.
I do find on the longer sessions its possible to bond with the ladies on next level. I find that experience becomes addictive to me and keeps me coming back. At the end of the day the ladies are milking my addiction to them and I find have to constantly remind myself of that. I've really tried to limit my time with them to 60 minutes max and its helped a lot.
Thanks for the heads up, im in my early days of where u have been and will remember your experience as a lesson to me. Hope things are getting better and well done for seeking help (even though it is hard to find).
"The most powerful prayer in the world, fuck it, the prayer of release and surrender" Jesuit priest Joe Riley
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idRDniBjvKc
The math ain’t mathing on this one.Quote:
Originally Posted by westsydneypunter
What cost $12 or $2, were you short one day and paid with whatever pocket change you had?
Thanks for sharing either way, chemsex is great and all, but a slippery slope if you succumb to addiction easily.
There is another thread for this with extraordinary level of detail, however here is your answer:Quote:
Originally Posted by TheOtherI
140. 13-08-2025 - 1hr = $352