Good advice here treat these physical interactions with ML/WL simply as 'transactions'. Go in, pay for service and leave. Any contact provided are merely 'business cards'. Critical mental reminders to keep emotions in check.
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Good advice here treat these physical interactions with ML/WL simply as 'transactions'. Go in, pay for service and leave. Any contact provided are merely 'business cards'. Critical mental reminders to keep emotions in check.
Pretty easy to move past losing a favorite, simply get yourself a couple of new favorites. There is plenty of fish in the sea, enjoy the fishing journey to find some new favorites.
Good question! I think it’s often a combination of factors that determine whether or not punters get an ML or WL's contact details. Generally, if the two parties have established a rapport and trust each other, there is likely to be more familiarity on both sides. If this is the case, then typically the ML/WL would be more likely to provide their contact details. On the other hand, if there is no indication of trust or a strong rapport between the two parties, then it’s more likely that the ML or WL would decline any request for their contact details. Ultimately, though, it really comes down to what both parties are comfortable with and willing to agree to.
3 visits and I had her phone number and email about ten years ago. Been seeing her for years, seeing her tomorrow. I don't think there is any chance of her vanishing. She keeps messaging. It also makes a big difference if they know your well off I think they will more likely stick with you.
i was wondering any of you guys ask your fav to have session outside working hours or private?
A favourite of mine Asahi hasn’t turned up on the Ginza roster for a while, wish I had manage to get her contact details before she disappeared. Or that she’d come back 🥲
I think there is about 50 of us on here that regret not seeing viet Helen a few more times while she was here....nothing lasts for ever, was too complacent
Those of us who came of age in prehistoric times (AKA land-line only :startle:) remember the difficulty of finding someone who had changed offices :confused2:. Only if a co-worker, still on the job, recognized you and knew your status, MIGHT you find out where she'd gone.:question:
On the arrival of mobiles (SIMPLE mobiles, voice and sms), their value was quickly learned for the advantage of direct contacts :cool2:. Even if her English was MINIMAL, she could give an SMS to a (human) translator who would translate and then return an answer. Still, it was limited to sim cards (as in local), so you just might get a different voice when you called her number, she having sold the card, with her contacts, to a colleague on her departure. :cry:
With smart mobiles and apps, all that has changed. Now independent of sim cards. Still subject to account termination (either she closing account intentionally on departure :cry:, or accidentally with a mobile being dropped in some body of water, usually a toilet :startle:), but accounts do have a tendency to be kept, even business ones.
Point is, take advantage and ask for the contact. Easier to delete than having to pine wondering, "where, oh where, is..." :cry:
YMMV
Same here , though have been given their private numbers and real names and actually now have learnt to have a stable of favourites and not rely on one .
Sadly they retire for a number of reasons or move and when they do retire it is a bit of a loss especially when no further contact is made . Have had condonless punts at various stages though a bit concerned not that worried about any further complications . Good to keep in touch by sms occassionally given the excellent punt service I*ve been given over time with them .
Remember the first mobile phones, you had to carry a briefcase
I personally prefer the "balance" of pagers over full on mobile phones. Especially the one way pagers where you have to ring a call centre to get your message.
People can still get in touch with you for emergencies, but you can take your time to contact them back due to N-number of reasons for the delay. It was a win-win situation.
i use to meet my regular ML for dinner and then a fuck in my hotel then she goes back to work the next day. But not anymore
Out of interest At what visit number people asking for their private number etc ?
And are you offering a $ price per meet straight up ?
Don’t ask, have it offered to you. First time they offered me I was surprised, it hadn’t even crossed my mind to ask. To me it happened a few repeat visits, perhaps around 4 or 5