Wouldn't the government need to support the women who are now unable to support themselves?Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
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Wouldn't the government need to support the women who are now unable to support themselves?Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
The Government is already supporting all the single mumsQuote:
Originally Posted by ReginaldBubbles
Thats why first choice would be to give her the ex-husbands assets so the Government doesnt have to support her. Cheaper for them that way.
If super gets split then wouldn't it just be transferred to the wife's super account so she also can't touch it until her retirement age?Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
Well they'll get half of your assets, so there's that.Quote:
Originally Posted by ReginaldBubbles
Child support for kids up to 18 plus the end of that school year. Say your child turns 18 in February and is in year 12. You will have to pay child support until they finish year 12. That was a shock for me.
As for super, divorced twice, never happened to me.
Four mates from school divorced after long term marriage with kids, kept all their super.
What was common in all our cases, we signed over the house to the ex.
Now the property I have under mum's name. Also in mum's will in trust as me as the sole beneficiary. When it's in trust, I'll say it's for my kids when I'm gone.
Financial agreements are not really binding if they have good lawyers.
Marriage is the most expensive punt.
Everyone’s situation is different but sometimes I wish I would have stayed just so I could be closer to the kids and just punted on the side. That would have worked but she became a nightmare, listening to her dumb as fuck parents. Anyway, we spilt and she is living on easy street until the youngest finishes school next year and then she’ll have to sell up because she refuses to get off her fat ass and work. There’s no way she’ll be able to furnish her loan without the child support, unless her parents die.
What shits me is that she has routinely bad mouthed me to the kids and affected my relationship with them. This is unforgivable. As much as I detest her, I never disrespected her to the kids. I don’t envy anyone starting down this road, especially if there’s kids involved.
It would seem your mates and you may have likely kept your super as your share (or part thereof share) of an agreed split with your ex-wives or a court decreed split of assets..... as did I. Super and the house are quite often the largest assets and can end up with one side of the other.Quote:
Originally Posted by Riff888
Either that or the super was somehow not declared or kept hidden?
But frankly, superannuation is part of an asset pool under the Family Court Act. It is identified as part of the disclosure process and can't legally be kept "aside" or undeclared.
From what I know this has been the case for quite a while ~ some time ago it remained with the super holder and out of the asset pool as it was often difficult to split, such as a managed fund.
It definitely applied and was a no brainer in my 2013-16 divorce process.
Good post mate! I have a lot of sympathy for guys like you...there is nothing worse than one parent poisoning the minds of the kids. Afew of my mates have gone through this and it is more about spite and revenge against them than having the kids best interests at heart.Quote:
Originally Posted by Soccerfan
Every case is different, but super is definitely counted as a part of the asset pool. Everything is, in my case they even included my alcohol collection and my coin collection (although the judge removed both because the collections were bequeathed to my children in my will). They also tried to include the children's bank accounts but the judge ruled that out as well because the ten years worth of statements I gave as evidence showed that there were never any withdrawals and only deposits.
The judges statement also indicated a 65-35% split in my favour was a more than likely outcome, so, as riff and his friends did I offered her the house as full and final settlement or take her chances on the day with the judge.
She accepted, and I got to keep everything else including my self managed super.
Its always difficult when kids are involved.
In the beginning she told them so many lies and filled their heads with so much hate for me that they would barely talk to me on my access visits. All I could do was calmly and without any prejudice towards their mother put my side of the story and finish by saying we were both at fault.
Slowly the younger two started to open up and talk to me I answered all of their questions, never blaming their mother and if I was at fault I admitted it. The oldest was much harder, she even told me she hated me and never wanted to see me again, so I put them all in the car and drove them back to their mother's place opened the door and told them if they wanted to go they could and they'd never have to see me again, but, they have to remember one thing. That I would always love them and if they ever needed anything I'd always be there for them. Only the oldest got out, the other two came back home with me for the rest of the weekend. About three months later I got a call from the eldest asking if she could come on the weekend with the others and we've been going great ever since.
So that's probably why we kept are super then.Quote:
Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou
It seems like it's the judge's discretion.
I even had a female judge but she was pretty good.
We had to go through remediation a bit later to sort out custody arrangements. Of course she wanted the kids more, means more child support for her.
You can't avoid child support unless you do a cash job.
Yes. This is how it works, based on how it was dealt with in friends of mine who divorced.Quote:
Originally Posted by faruk
What's the going rate for a lawyer writing up a decent BFA?
What are the main reasons for getting divorced?
Number 1 reason = Financial issuesQuote:
Originally Posted by Golden Rod
2. Infidelity
I haven't been divorced yet but definitely on my bucket list!Quote:
Originally Posted by faruk
Even though if I was given the chance to be born again I would pick being a man 10/10 times, I think it's not easy being a man sometimes.
If we remain single then we get lonely and people ask why we're not married.
If we get married then we limit ourselves to one partner and risk losing half (or more) of our stuff if things don't work out.
Then if we have kids we lose our dreams. What was once a youthful fit young man is now a middle aged balding man with a beer belly. Pushing prams instead of working on cars. Playing with baby toys instead of video games. Going to kids playgrounds instead of the gym.
And maybe worst of all is we can't really talk about it because then we're labelled as whingers or misogynists.
Maybe we should get an anonymous group chat going where we can vent and support each other.
The baby being pushed in the pram also grows into a fit young man n when you get home from work n your fit young man comes to the door, reaches out for a man hug just know that pushing that pram, going to the playground n playing with baby toys is what brings him to you. Life.Quote:
Originally Posted by faruk
A man is better off being single and dating women who go to the trouble of making themselves appealing, visually and in bed.
That's the good part, but at what cost? What about the sleepless nights with a crying baby? Or the wife constantly giving you shit for the most trivial things?Quote:
Originally Posted by Axeman123
If you haven’t listened to divorce sob stories, you need to start listening to them. Out of that cohort of women that are trying to get their ex’s assets, a proportion of them actually have the ability to work and make a living for themselves and their kids if any. They just don’t want to do it because of being lazy, spiteful, spoilt, etc. So, Gov having to support them, we’ll see about that!Quote:
Originally Posted by ReginaldBubbles
You blokes have it easy yet you whinge and complain about everything, this poor bloke has 17 wives and 84 kids.Quote:
Originally Posted by faruk
https://youtu.be/_49-BeMBIQQ?si=GncFJnw0gDtuFyYS
And the new bloke that's picked her up, if he hasn't moved in at least staying over a few nights getting his end in , he'd be chipping in with food n bills so she'd be doing alright.Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
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Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
Sigh, I swear the aptitude of members on this forum to jump into conclusions is astounding.Quote:
Originally Posted by Axeman123
Been there, done it, and have not regretted it even for a second.Quote:
Originally Posted by faruk
If you’re thinking about it then there is clearly a reason, and unless it’s based off some sort of one off event that you could potentially get over, then the writing is most likely on the wall.