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Major steps in solving any problem, no matter how big or small, starts with acknowledging and accepting it, which you have already achieved.
Next step would be to face the long journey on rough road, without shoes with bright hot sun in day and cold wind at night, this you might be going through. Leaving the comforts, joy , pleasure that devils offer is never easy.
Great willpower and braveness is required..You are doing great just keep it up..
Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities. It's not easy, especially in a forum where true personalities are shielded behind a screen.
Hearing your story was insightful, and hearing your journey was inspiring. The mind can be a curious thing, and you have certainly lead me away from any substance abuse during sex.
Keep going and stay strong, I'll be cheering you on, even if it's only behind a computer screen.
Some people become addicted to sex, just like addiction to alcohol or gambling. Drugs add fire to the addiction.
I strongly recommend looking up the "12 Steps" program.
The 12 Steps. Note that you don't have to be a religious person to take the steps. Atheists too can benefit. Substitute the word "alcohol" for "sex".
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol — that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Are you a psychologist?Quote:
Originally Posted by anonymouspunter2
Thanks for sharing.
Just wanted to say a huge thank you to all of you for your kind words of support. It really touches me to see so many people taking the time to reach out. I’ve noticed a few questions floating around, so I thought I’d give everyone an update on where I stand at the start of 2026.
@Wayne — Regarding your comment that “he needs to seek professional help,” I have, and I’m currently seeing a psychologist to help me dig into the underlying reasons for my addiction. It’s taken me since April 2025, when I first reached out, to find someone who really understands this crippling addiction. I’m only on my 3rd session so far, but it’s already making a difference.
@putsputs — Great question. When I spot a trigger or feel an urge to smoke coming on, I usually try counting the first seven colours I see around me, or I remind myself of the guilt that hits afterward, or think about what else I could have done with that money. They say you need to replace the pleasure with something else, which is way harder than it sounds. But every relapse gives you more “data,” as they put it — you learn what happened, why, and where you were at emotionally. I used to go out on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays; now I’ve swapped those nights for NA and SAA meetings to keep myself busy and accountable.
@anonymouspunter2 — Spot on. That’s exactly what my psychologist and I are working through, and it’s pointing strongly in that direction.
@DVU420 — Like I said, this isn’t about judging the industry, the workers, or the clients. This is just one punter’s story about the darker side of punting.
@andrewv — Thank you so much for the advice on the 12-step program. It was actually one of the first things I came across on this journey, and it’s been a part of my recovery so far — I’ve been attending meetings and even did the “90 meetings in 90 days” push. But honestly, it’s not quite for me. I find the vibe a bit depressing: we all sit around sounding sad. “Hi, my name’s Mark, I’ve been clean for 16 months now,” said in this flat, down tone. Mate, you should be proud! You’ve been sober for 16 months — that’s huge! Share that strength and give others hope. As for the “God” or “higher power” part, I can honestly say I’ve found that power in Buddhism. It teaches that we suffer because we cling to things that are impermanent — and letting go of that clinging is the key to easing the pain.
Thanks again to everyone who’s been there with encouragement. Your words mean more than you know. I’m taking it one day at a time, and I’m grateful to have this community along for the ride.
thanks for sharing, and best of luck to OP
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It’s not about sitting in a room sharing story’s and sounding depressed, it’s about sitting in a room with people that have walked the same path as you trying to become better people
I still attend GA, after an unhealthy relationship with booze, cocaine and gambling, so it’s very similar. I’ve never felt so comfortable in a room full of people I’d never met
You realise that it’s not just you struggling, a lot of people are so it’s great to support each other
Thanks for sharing. First time I've heard about chemsex. All the best in your journey to recovery, one day at a time.
this thread has been a real eye opener, I best to keep my demons in check
If you had said this in your other thread we wouldn't have bagged you out. Now it all makes sense. Good on you for finding the strength to speak up. Sorry i don't know of any other stores but wish you the best in your recovery.
I've read the odd forum story on getting high during a punt so hopefully one of those characters are still around, reads this and can reach out to you and share. Sharing definitely helps with healing having been through the process myself on something else
Well done for been so honest and hopefully others can avoid the same problem.
I've done a few similar sessions myself but have decided I cant continue doing so as its hard to afford a regular session,let alone a longer one.
I do find on the longer sessions its possible to bond with the ladies on next level. I find that experience becomes addictive to me and keeps me coming back. At the end of the day the ladies are milking my addiction to them and I find have to constantly remind myself of that. I've really tried to limit my time with them to 60 minutes max and its helped a lot.
Thanks for the heads up, im in my early days of where u have been and will remember your experience as a lesson to me. Hope things are getting better and well done for seeking help (even though it is hard to find).
"The most powerful prayer in the world, fuck it, the prayer of release and surrender" Jesuit priest Joe Riley
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idRDniBjvKc
The math ain’t mathing on this one.Quote:
Originally Posted by westsydneypunter
What cost $12 or $2, were you short one day and paid with whatever pocket change you had?
Thanks for sharing either way, chemsex is great and all, but a slippery slope if you succumb to addiction easily.
There is another thread for this with extraordinary level of detail, however here is your answer:Quote:
Originally Posted by TheOtherI
140. 13-08-2025 - 1hr = $352
Thanks for that, just found the post. Damn! This guy fucks!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mark Cassin
Do not dump all your friends, you need people.Quote:
Originally Posted by justincase
Thanks for sharing OP. It takes a lot of courage open up about this. Hopefully your story will help others facing similar troubles.
Sex is already addictive enough, enhancing that with stimulants would make an insane combo.
Overcoming this is a long road considering how much you've spent. That many chemsex sessions would've rewired your brain so you'll need willpower, strategies and habits to create new neural pathways to return to some normalcy. You'll need plenty of support too and it sounds like you're right track.
Relapses are setbacks, but the key is to not beat yourself up too much if you do. Chalk it down to another lesson in your journey and get back to healthy habits.
I say this coming from a family with addiction issues. As others have said, finding a more productive activity that'll give you that dopamine hit can be a part of the solution. Could be something like taking up a hobby like photography.
I've found that exercise has helped me a lot with my addictive personality. Could be running, strength training, or even a martial art like kickboxing or BJJ. Hiking and being out in nature is another great option. There are so many great trails within a few hours drive from Sydney.
Try a bunch of things out and see how it feels. Making progress in your physical ability feels awesome.
All the best with your journey to recovery and well-being. Please keep us updated.
OP: as others here have said, thank you for sharing your story.
Sharing helps spread the pain somewhat & best wishes for your recovery process mate, cheers.
You can also try some sports as recommended by other posts, I was told tennis and fishing could help with sex addiction… as fishing would give you similar stimulation to happy ending.. or while you play tennis, your body gives out some sort of chemicals.. not sure if it’s true but hopefully it helps…. Wish you all the best !!
The other sad part of this story is the girls in the shops that serve this stuff. Often they come to Australia a cleanskin. Easy money at first, with guys doing marathon sessions, but they end up addicted, developing personality disorders and unable to do much outside of working in a shop. OP struggled to find help, you'd think the girls probably would too. This post is probably the tip of an iceberg.
I once knew a bloke from our local footy team who struggled with a range of addictions. He tried everything from shrinks, alternative therapies, going cold turkey etc but his social circles and lifestyle kept pulling him back in. Then, one day out of the blue the cunt vanished without a word.
Word got around that he’d gone to some rehab health wellness retreat up north to detox. He ended up cutting ties with all his social circles and starting fresh elsewhere.
Straight up question bro - are you doing slamsex or chemsex? And has it led to any STD/STI's?
This might help you get proper referrals and the right assistance and support channels
https://stufenton.com.au/2016/11/Add...n-in-Australia
What if you don't catch anything?Quote:
Originally Posted by gmno12345
Jesus, this makes me curious about your fishing technique!Quote:
Originally Posted by gmno12345
There's a very young girl I recently met who is quite the polydrug addict, since meeting her, I've been looking into medications that can help reduce alcohol and opiates addiction, Naltrexone.
I also carry naloxone as well, just in case. I'm hoping she finds her way back but she isn't ready yet.
She has hallucinations, intrusive voices, anxiety and paranoia, I suspect the lack of sleep really accelerates her decline. I was in a hotbox overnight with her once and I couldn't sleep for 4 days from the exposure.