how many guys would hit on a girl who has a bf?

The more I read this I can't shake the feeling that there are some insecurities.

Ppl saying she is better than the OP lols where is this coming from?

Just sounds like we are at surrender to "hot" women - that there is a need for an arm candy.
So socia value and inner game issues here
I can relate as I been there.

I think ppl have not also realised that males are free game too, we can easily go for other girls and that it is even playing field.

If ur relationship develops to a point where u don't have to think about this - then great!!

But for god sakes don't devalue urself (being insecure) about a girls roaming lol

As some posters have pointed out - they will stay or they will leave.

Prepare for both and you'll be right and also talk to her about it, ALSO if ur banging WLs then u don't have much moral ground to stand on if she is banging other ppl lols...

Tonight, remind your GF why she like you in the first place. Maybe you have charming personality, handsome or rich. Or even some combination.

Of course some guys hit on girls that are taken. They are playboys, but your GF could also be a playgirl and stirring the fellas on in some way......

My mate went thru the same deal. He's going out with a steaming chick from our uni, and she was a member of an International society before they hooked up
So she already has a lot of guy contacts, and obviously most of them want to get with her. Its only natural
He told me that all hot chicks will have at least a few other male options, if whats going on with you falls down
You have to be quality to retain quality. His lesson to me was you gotta keep your shit in order, have good job or good chance for good job

Women are looking for the successful guy who will support her, or the tall alfa guy with all muscles and no brains who can protect her
If you arent one of those too, good luck
In the animal kingdom, for example bears or lions or seals, there is usually one dominant male, who is constantly having to fight off rivals to the women

^^^^
That's why u have to make them put their pussy on the table or gfto ;)

Your insecurities make you sound very bitch-like, to be perfectly blunt.

Just saying she could have give a fake number....

Twice for me. Ended up in a really long session on both accounts.

Get a few more roots quickly before things go South

I can't see a real problem. If you are up there. She will still stick with you. She just like being "respected" by other guys.

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Originally Posted by faruk

1. she went to the shops with a friend one night and it started raining, some dude opened up his umbrella for them and walked them to the shop and asked for my gf's number. She genuinely is the type who can't say no, so she gave it but has ignored every message he sent, she has shown me to prove it.

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She might reply to him and then delete her replies so it looks like it is just all his messages.

Sounds like she is looking for options and isn't commited to you but doesn't want to end it with you until she has someone else lined up

why would she give out her real number?

A lot of guys would, but I wouldn't say even half, maybe around 30% guys wouldn't give a fuck, even that's too many lacking integrity and morals.

As for the OP, I wouldn't worry too much as my gf is kinda like that, but the key is to pay attention to any changes in her - is she spending less time with you, is she hiding her phone from you? Small things like that.

Also, everyone here seems to assume that a girl is interested if she gives out her number, but how many times have we gotten a girl's number only to be ignored or given short one word replies (which eventually leads to being ignored)?

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Originally Posted by suka02

why would she give out her real number?

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Exactly, just have a word with her and tell her not to give out her number or FB. Not sure why she can't say no, if I asked her for her credit card details would she tell me?

Also you don't really have much of a leg to stand on posting this on a punting forum lol.

Agreed, tell her your concern, what you do not like and the reason behind. If she still does that, then you know what to do next.

if I really want to have sex with a girl then I will go after her, no matter what. as long as her bf isn't a personal friend of mine then it's fair game.
there is something strangely satisfying about banging another dude's gf. life's too short for morals.
if it comes off then it just means their relationship wasn't that strong to begin with.

I personally wouldn't, but I'm the minority.... I think..

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Originally Posted by harrycd

Exactly, just have a word with her and tell her not to give out her number or FB. Not sure why she can't say no, if I asked her for her credit card details would she tell me?

Also you don't really have much of a leg to stand on posting this on a punting forum lol.

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I guess girls are attention seeker. We have to think like guys, especially us punters lol It's all about the looks and shape, then comes the flirt that gets the moody smoothy lol Bam! she may be playing hide n seek with that guy. Who knows. Be Truthful.

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Originally Posted by beta101

Op might be vitamin's alt lol. Anyone would feel insecure with a popular chick like Xmas as well hahahahaha

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Lol what the fuck? Hahaha.. random much?


Since I'm positing anyway

OP.
1. everyone has the right to seek the best partner in life. Unless you two are married. I say you have 0 claim to her loyalty. Her devotion and love is earned and not demanded.
All is fair in love and war.

2. Make yourself the catch. If you are better than all the chumps who approach her. You should have nothing to worry about.

3. Generally girls want security, stability and comfort. It's their default setting. You say you've been dating for close to a year?
If that's the case. Her investment of time in you, familiarity, attachment are all working in your favour. So unless you really don't stack up with the guy she's comparing you with. You shouldn't have much to worry about.
Who wants to start a relationship from scratch?Especially a good one?

Settings up rules, checking up on her, acting all insecure will have a very negative effect on how she views you. She definitely ain't gonna love you more for it.
Relationships are built on trust. So trust her. A man who is trusting and not needy is far more attractive.
And you trusting her will make her feel better than you not

4. If she does leave you for someone else.

a. She likes to play and wasn't worth it in the first place. If she can do it now. Even if you stop her with rules and regulations. in time she'll cheat/leave at some point.

You can put down as many ground rules as you want like, who she can give numbers to, have fake numbers Or don't give FB. It ain't gonna work if she really wants to. You can't stop her.

Just ask all the punters here who are married or dating on this forum.

So better sooner than later. Just find someone loyal.

b. Look within. Maybe it was you who was crap in the relationship, not being the ideal partner not making her Happy. And in that case. You don't own her and shes every right to seek better spouse / partner in her persuit of happiness. (Just hope she has common courtesy to not do both at same time)

I have never hit on an attached woman knowingly, but I have had attached women hit on me and I went for it, as a matter of fact I'm doing one right now.

Yeah... what vitamin said...

If you're telling yourself (or worse telling her) you're not good enough it's doomed.

If you're not prepared to give her the attention she wants then it's doomed.

I understand if it's over the top, but She might just want a bit of love and affection. If you're distracted looking on here for your next bit of gratification then it's likely deep down you don't want to give it.

OP,
pull all investment in this girl. If a girl truly loves you she wont be giving her number out to other men
so just do the bare minimum from now on, assuming fucking her is still fun. if its not, you are better off walking

and learn a lesson for next time, u know what a dealbreaker is for you, so you gotta lay down the law EARLY in a relationship.
saves you a lot of time, and if she agrees you gain some respect from her as a fuckin man

i see too many guys let their woman boss them around, or disrespect them (i include giving a number out to other men as disrespect)

U know I will tell a story:

I was out with a group of people.

One girl was open and flirty but had a husband which I didn't know that was also heee.

Before I knew that she had a husband who was here, I asked for her number which she gave.

We were flirting throughout then I figured out she had a husband.

I thought they were swingers, so I texted her and her husband replied not to text her again.

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So I don't know what u guys make of this but there are some fked up twisted women out there that I have no idea what goes through their heads and between their legs.

If there are red flags u have to be on top of it asap.

Else u might be training a girl wrong.

bitches are everywhere

Where did the OP go? He was replying regularly up until when ppl started saying if he can't be faithful to his SO why is he complaining?

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Originally Posted by Christmas

bitches are everywhere

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As are bastards ㅋㅋ Well, that would include me since I've banged 2 of them that has bfs~~ Not really my intention in the first place, though.