Looking to lose my virginity, advice appreciated

If I were to start just few years ago it will still be good. But piled up porn use and depression probably ruined it. But at least now I know what sex feels like. Maybe I over anticipated from all these years.

I do wanna give it another try though, I didn't sleep well the night before maybe overthinking about it. As for porn, I went 3 weeks without it and blowed a load just last week. It's kinda like addictive drug that I'm trying to cut out although I failed many times over the years trying to quit. And I started going to the gym again 2 weeks ago.

But kinda glad and got bit of confidence that she didn't think bad about my body, and she says mine is actually pretty big although not even fully erect yet. And funny how I can get a WL''s wechat on first time:smile: since most won't give it out.

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Originally Posted by sephiroth-zer0

If I were to start just few years ago it will still be good. But piled up porn use and depression probably ruined it. But at least now I know what sex feels like. Maybe I over anticipated from all these years.

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I don’t know how other bros feel but for me sex in porn always looks a lot better than it feels when you are actually having sex - even if you are doing exactly the same things they are doing in porn. Maybe it’s male psychology that we get a lot of excitement from watching.

Actually having sex of course is still good just somehow porn looks like it is better. So maybe that feeling of over anticipation you have is just how most bros are.

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Originally Posted by BlackToad

I don’t know how other bros feel but for me sex in porn always looks a lot better than it feels when you are actually having sex - even if you are doing exactly the same things they are doing in porn. Maybe it’s male psychology that we get a lot of excitement from watching.

Actually having sex of course is still good just somehow porn looks like it is better. So maybe that feeling of over anticipation you have is just how most bros are.

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Yeah, that's the main problem. I get why so many people get addicted to porn because the directors know exactly how the male brain works, using the best angles to get you excited, exciting new novelty all the time, so easy and free to access, so much visual stimulation that the real thing just doesn't compare....heard stories about young early 20s with ED, or married guys prefer porn over sex with wife.

Technology and benefits but this really killed most of the young people's sexual life these days, people from the previous generation in their 50 or 60s might be able to perform better than young 20s now sometimes....

Hmmmm, I'm 45, been watching porn since the days of passing VHS tapes around the whole grade where the best bits were fuzzy.

Sex is way way better than porn, especially when you can act out your favourite bits with your favourite girl.

Wanking can not compete with DTBBBJCIMWS, so awesome when you're standing up and she's looking into your eyes.

Maybe see a girl you have a good connection with, see a few times so that you know what each other likes.

I've never had Viagra but I use Tadalafil or Kamagra with is awesome. Edging for like 2 or 3 days before a punt is awesome as well since there's so much cum.

Don't give up now bro.

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Well I haven't given up yet. Next time I will stop overthinking too much. First time is always the hardest with everything and only gets better. But first I gotta cut down on porn. And maybe next time book 30 minutes then extend if I feel good with a girl I like until I find one....

Porn back in the old days doesn't have the same effect as ones now. It wasn't as hardcore and so accessible. Now it's tons of images and high speed streaming that it kinda dulls the brain. I guess too much dessert is bad for you...

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Originally Posted by sephiroth-zer0

Well I haven't given up yet. Next time I will stop overthinking too much. First time is always the hardest with everything and only gets better. But first I gotta cut down on porn. And maybe next time book 30 minutes then extend if I feel good with a girl I like until I find one....

Porn back in the old days doesn't have the same effect as ones now. It wasn't as hardcore and so accessible. Now it's tons of images and high speed streaming that it kinda dulls the brain. I guess too much dessert is bad for you...

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Bro I watch porn and masturbate daily.

When I know I've got a punt coming up, I edge watching porn, the longer the better getting to the edge of climax a few times without cumming.

I can't masturbate without porn these days.

A 1 hour session is better so you don't have to rush. Girls that speak English well are better for role play.

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Hi Bro,

This sound more psychological issue than physical. If you can get hard during porn, then that means you are physically capable of erection. I would highly recommend to stop watching porn for a week, and try again with 278, 244 Paddington, or Ginza. And if you can, try to do some yoga/meditation.

Cheers.

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Originally Posted by mikael66

Hi Bro,

This sound more psychological issue than physical. If you can get hard during porn, then that means you are physically capable of erection. I would highly recommend to stop watching porn for a week, and try again with 278, 244 Paddington, or Ginza. And if you can, try to do some yoga/meditation.

Cheers.

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Better yet, join a yoga class. Watching all those hot girls bending over in their yoga pants will soon bring life into your little bro!

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Originally Posted by sephiroth-zer0

But kinda glad and got bit of confidence that she didn't think bad about my body, and she says mine is actually pretty big although not even fully erect yet. And funny how I can get a WL''s wechat on first time:smile: since most won't give it out.

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Wow bro nice that she gave you her wechat details. Did you ask for it or did she just give it to you without you asking?

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Originally Posted by Meng

Wow bro nice that she gave you her wechat details. Did you ask for it or did she just give it to you without you asking?

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Im quite surprised the girl don't give out wechat/contact details? I saw one girl at ginza had 3 phones in her room.:cool2:

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Originally Posted by woods23

Im quite surprised the girl don't give out wechat/contact details? I saw one girl at ginza had 3 phones in her room.:cool2:

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Lol same. I pretty much get every girls wechat i see. Some of them are even surprised i have an account!

And i thought they usually won't give it out since it'll be annoying having so many guys on their contact. Why would they wanna give out their contact? To lure you in coming back?

Well I'm still able to get morning wood sometimes naturally, but for porn I need some special stuff, and it's hard to find anything that doesn't bored me. I think I jacked my penis and brain to death lol....

sephiroth-zer0, keep punting/fucking, same time you need to get fit, eat well, sleep well, if you get your fitness good, your cock will be hard, big and healthy. I lost 15kg and fuck is better, cock bigger, longer and last long to cum.

Get wechat is nothing special. The girls just want you to come back. The girls have 2 to 3 phones. If the girls give you their private number on private phone then you are special to them. 1st phone private, 2nd phone for punting business.

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Originally Posted by sephiroth-zer0

Why would they wanna give out their contact? To lure you in coming back?

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You guessed it bro. The punting world is upside down where the girls chase you!!

Yeah getting contacts easy. My other phones full of wl, ml and mamasans contacts. It's just business bro.

Anyways pussy is always better then your hand. Stop watching porn and learn how to fuck. Or else it's just gonna go downhill from here

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Originally Posted by BlackToad

You guessed it bro. The punting world is upside down where the girls chase you!!

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Yeah, but chase us for money...only if they genuinely want you...

This guy needs a chick dressed up like in porns videoes and role play like fantasy?

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Originally Posted by sephiroth-zer0

And i thought they usually won't give it out since it'll be annoying having so many guys on their contact. Why would they wanna give out their contact? To lure you in coming back?

Well I'm still able to get morning wood sometimes naturally, but for porn I need some special stuff, and it's hard to find anything that doesn't bored me. I think I jacked my penis and brain to death lol....

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Could be what type of porn you are watching too. Hope things are better on your end bud

Well I think I can confirm cause of my problem now. Tried second time with different girl. I can get erection, it's pretty hard about 80-90%. It goes down to 70% when condom is on. But during vaginal sex it goes down to 50%, don't feel much and can't orgasm. I tested myself to porn after, had to watch a lot for maybe 1-2 hours jacking with my hand to orgasm and cum. I think the cause is my masturbation habits built up for almost 20 years that the dick only get orgasm through intense masturbation. Although years ago I will still orgasm pretty easily. Might need some time to rest and heal to restore the sensitivity.

I get hard erections almost every night during sleep that it's kinda hard to sleep. So I guess that rules out the physical problem with blood flow to penis, more of a sensitivity problem, and too much porn fantasies that real doesn't seem that exciting anymore.

But anyway, at least the anxiety and pressure is over for being a virgin, it's like a huge burden. Although honestly it isn't that big of a deal, not really worth all the chase after something that almost everyone had already. Better if I pursue something more special instead. Although if 10 years ago with raging hormones and desire for sex, it would have been the best thing ever. But I spent all my time and energy chasing and doing other things....

Surprising how porn has changed most of the younger people these days, especially in Japan with tons of guys not even wanting or desire sex anymore, because of all the porn they consume...Although for the past generation of people over 40 now, their sex drive might be even higher than young people these days.

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Sephiroth have you ever thought of going to a rnt to see if the girls can get you off? Maybe it could be an ice breaker and move on to fs after they can make you cum. I'm trying to think who I should recommend but I suggest you pick someone with more experience as they're pretty good with their hands. There's plenty of reviews out there. Hope this helps.

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Sephiroth have you ever thought of going to a rnt to see if the girls can get you off? Maybe it could be an ice breaker and move on to fs after they can make you cum. I'm trying to think who I should recommend but I suggest you pick someone with more experience as they're pretty good with their hands. There's plenty of reviews out there. Hope this helps.

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Well, I guess no girls will know my dick as much as I do. But at least after having sex twice I feel better about myself and body image. Although still slim but they actually like my body. And feel more confident talking to hot girls naked. It has helped ease my obsession with sex, and gave me some self confidence, so I guess that helped. Wished I did it earlier. The only problem is from my porn and masturbation over the years. Right now my goal is cut down porn and masturbation and hopefully things will turn better later.

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Sephiroth have you ever thought of going to a rnt to see if the girls can get you off? Maybe it could be an ice breaker and move on to fs after they can make you cum. I'm trying to think who I should recommend but I suggest you pick someone with more experience as they're pretty good with their hands. There's plenty of reviews out there. Hope this helps.

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Agree with Dingoman ,
I prefer going to massage shops over FS shops for a variety of reasons..
not only you get to meet a lot of pretty girls , but also have a nice chat with a relaxing massage..
The tease and touch of a girl who knows what she’s doing, builds up a tension which is good for what’s coming .. nothing beats that buildup ..

Also try JuaGen massage , which can be very very effective.. a ML in Myanmar was my teacher and oh boy what doors she walked me through ..

And yes cut some porn man , eat healthy , excersize and you will be getting your confidence + stamina back in no time ..

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Everyone’s different. I can’t remember a ML who had little Punter interested while still lying face down. It doesn’t matter where they’re touching or what part of their body they’re using.... I need to see her, be able to caress her, and preferably be able to get my lips on some part of her to really get going.

That’s another reason I’ve been asking about facilities (joint showers) and will try to vary things up by starting with part 2. Otherwise there’s a big risk of turning over and having the ML just do her stock standard routine while only at half mast, and for whatever reason this can result in being rubbed out quickly and rather unsatisfactorily. It’s always a million times better if I’m already fully raging before she hops on top for the B2B etc

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So true. I was in Brisbane a few weeks ago for work. Actually had a bad back, so tried a place recommended here. Great looking, young girls, the massage was great but getting jacked off by a slim enhanced 24 year old Italian girl was nowhere near as good as fucking her. The massage was good. Repeat....

Sephiroth. Try a course of Cialis, start at 10 mg a day, for 10 days then drop down to 5 mg a day. Stay away from porn completely. Go for a walk if you have to. Don't drink. Be pure for the 10 days. See a bulk bill doc for the script, a generic here in Sydney from the pharmacy is good. Don't be shy about this, it is in confidence and several GPs I know take it......Don't buy from the guys that bring in from India, it's not the full dose. Then get to the shops, FS. Try the shops where the girls dress up, wear the flight attendant's outfit, nurse etc. You will go off. Hard! I'll PM my invoice.

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So true. I was in Brisbane a few weeks ago for work. Actually had a bad back, so tried a place recommended here. Great looking, young girls, the massage was great but getting jacked off by a slim enhanced 24 year old Italian girl was nowhere near as good as fucking her. The massage was good. Repeat....

Sephiroth. Try a course of Cialis, start at 10 mg a day, for 10 days then drop down to 5 mg a day. Stay away from porn completely. Go for a walk if you have to. Don't drink. Be pure for the 10 days. See a bulk bill doc for the script, a generic here in Sydney from the pharmacy is good. Don't be shy about this, it is in confidence and several GPs I know take it......Don't buy from the guys that bring in from India, it's not the full dose. Then get to the shops, FS. Try the shops where the girls dress up, wear the flight attendant's outfit, nurse etc. You will go off. Hard! I'll PM my invoice.

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hmmm, actually I can get erection from the start, but problem is keeping it during intercourse. The vagina doesn't grip and feel as good as my hands, except it's more warm. So I'm trying to restore a decentralised penis. I don't smoke or drink or have any other bad habits except thinking about sex, porn, masturbation and sexual fantasies. Maybe I need to fuck a tight girl, I guess the ones I've done are not so tight.

I do see that going to massage places might be good since there's less of a performance anxiety and expectation about sex. Will they give you FS if you pay extra? Also, stupid question, but I think these don't qualify as remedial massage or physio right? lol

And funny how apparently doctors are the people who go to prostitutes more than others, horny rich bastards....