@Basil22 thanks for response.
Once again very insightful for someone of a young age and also gone through this experience you have done well to come out of it well balanced.
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@Basil22 thanks for response.
Once again very insightful for someone of a young age and also gone through this experience you have done well to come out of it well balanced.
Thanks @PervySage. But it was a long and tortuous road to get to this point! Also I simplify things a little here to avoid writing essays each time. But yes, things could’ve ended up much differently (worse?) I suppose.Quote:
Originally Posted by PervySage
Even after all of my experience, I still find it difficult not to get attached to MLs (one in particular). I think I saw in one of the threads someone saying they have a 5-session rule. I think that’s a good policy, also not to exchange contact details.
After a few disasters I have a similar rule. If I see a girl more than 3 times she has to be pretty damned special, and that came about as a result of going down in flames 3 times... I am a slow learner...Quote:
Originally Posted by Basil22
I get what you're saying about not changing a thing despite all the anxiety etc suffered as a result, I guess that is the real meaning of life, to experience all the range of emotions and so on. Of my 3 dalliances I am still in regular contact with one girl, who even 10 years later I wonder if she is the one who got away. Could all of this have been avoided if I just kept things professional? Absolutely, but I often remind myself of a line from an old poem "Oh all sad words, from tongue or pen, the saddest by far, "it might have been..."".
There is a lat of cynicism towards relationships with working girls, and 99.9% of it is probably warranted, but when you find maybe that 0.1%...
Please not forget there’s equal disdain cynicism and dislike of punters by said working girls... and rightfully so.
why would any of the users of this forum including myself be any different from the great unwashed
100%. I always ask myself "Why would you be any different? What makes you so special?"Quote:
Originally Posted by liminal
Happens to the best of us. It's called being human. My dad says that women are soft on the outside and hard on the inside, while men are hard on the outside and soft on the inside. I tend to agreeQuote:
Originally Posted by asiafever
Share a weried and funny story, I met a young and cute ML, she asked if I was a professional and then from the beginning she kept asking me about her career and profeesional related questions, while she was giving me a hj I was explaining to her the pros and cons of being a sales, admin or accountant......
She added my wechat and today we had a quick cafe catchup together. To further discuss about her career, I gave her a few advices and my experience....and promised to recommend her if any suitable job postion shows up. She's the most self-motivated ML I've ever met....I don't know if I should go back to see her again for massage....feels like just a business meeting with a client and I am the one doing all the taking and answering questions.
Some MLs are really driven, met a few who are very intelligent so don’t underestimate a ML / WL.Quote:
Originally Posted by gannicus
I don’t mind sharing knowledge but try to avoid talking specifically about my job.
Give her a job at your workplace :)Quote:
Originally Posted by gannicus
might wanna charge her a consultation fee then :shout:Quote:
Originally Posted by gannicus
Not sure if u are taking the piss here with all of these stories about ML / WL...Quote:
Originally Posted by bipolar533andrew
but if u r serious the only thing surprising is that you think she was only lying 95% of the time.
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Originally Posted by bipolar533andrew
This is the normal narrative of things.
Whilst it is nice to hear basil22 story... the fact of the matter is, from the very start, it was based on sex, money, transactions etc. Doesn't mean it isn't genuine or real, but the fact is,
a) you were there for sex, happy to cheat yourself also.
b) she is able to put money above all else (not judging her btw), but fact is, where theres more money, theres opportunity.
they all lie, they all cheat, they all know how to manipulate men.
we too, we men, also lie, cheat and manipulate them and the situation for our on goals.
it might be genuine, feel good, be safe, be mutual, but remember always, it is a transaction (both short and long term). Translations have conditions, trust issues, jealous, they aren't unique, hav an expiry date, and most of all, have power (supply demand) imbalances
Im talking about the definition of transactions generally, eg business, same thing is happening with WL ml relationships
Cynical yes
True, matter of opinion
Have I been burnt and hurt ? Yes
Solution= compartmentalize and separate. And be pragmatic as possible
I have came close to liking a ML but didn't fall in love with her.
She was very nice and young girl. Beautiful
Some people realise with their real eyes know that they're real lies...Quote:
Originally Posted by bigfatkilo
Glad you did