Thanks for that, just found the post. Damn! This guy fucks!
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Thanks for sharing OP. It takes a lot of courage open up about this. Hopefully your story will help others facing similar troubles.
Sex is already addictive enough, enhancing that with stimulants would make an insane combo.
Overcoming this is a long road considering how much you've spent. That many chemsex sessions would've rewired your brain so you'll need willpower, strategies and habits to create new neural pathways to return to some normalcy. You'll need plenty of support too and it sounds like you're right track.
Relapses are setbacks, but the key is to not beat yourself up too much if you do. Chalk it down to another lesson in your journey and get back to healthy habits.
I say this coming from a family with addiction issues. As others have said, finding a more productive activity that'll give you that dopamine hit can be a part of the solution. Could be something like taking up a hobby like photography.
I've found that exercise has helped me a lot with my addictive personality. Could be running, strength training, or even a martial art like kickboxing or BJJ. Hiking and being out in nature is another great option. There are so many great trails within a few hours drive from Sydney.
Try a bunch of things out and see how it feels. Making progress in your physical ability feels awesome.
All the best with your journey to recovery and well-being. Please keep us updated.
OP: as others here have said, thank you for sharing your story.
Sharing helps spread the pain somewhat & best wishes for your recovery process mate, cheers.
You can also try some sports as recommended by other posts, I was told tennis and fishing could help with sex addiction… as fishing would give you similar stimulation to happy ending.. or while you play tennis, your body gives out some sort of chemicals.. not sure if it’s true but hopefully it helps…. Wish you all the best !!
The other sad part of this story is the girls in the shops that serve this stuff. Often they come to Australia a cleanskin. Easy money at first, with guys doing marathon sessions, but they end up addicted, developing personality disorders and unable to do much outside of working in a shop. OP struggled to find help, you'd think the girls probably would too. This post is probably the tip of an iceberg.
I once knew a bloke from our local footy team who struggled with a range of addictions. He tried everything from shrinks, alternative therapies, going cold turkey etc but his social circles and lifestyle kept pulling him back in. Then, one day out of the blue the cunt vanished without a word.
Word got around that he’d gone to some rehab health wellness retreat up north to detox. He ended up cutting ties with all his social circles and starting fresh elsewhere.
Straight up question bro - are you doing slamsex or chemsex? And has it led to any STD/STI's?
This might help you get proper referrals and the right assistance and support channels
https://stufenton.com.au/2016/11/Add...n-in-Australia
There's a very young girl I recently met who is quite the polydrug addict, since meeting her, I've been looking into medications that can help reduce alcohol and opiates addiction, Naltrexone.
I also carry naloxone as well, just in case. I'm hoping she finds her way back but she isn't ready yet.
She has hallucinations, intrusive voices, anxiety and paranoia, I suspect the lack of sleep really accelerates her decline. I was in a hotbox overnight with her once and I couldn't sleep for 4 days from the exposure.
You know it's funny certain things I did in my yoof had the opposite effect on me, made me not want to. I need a clear head for my debauchery.
Hope you all get through what currently haunts you.
FYI there is an excellent rehab facility at Concord Hospital for people that need it. I know a couple of people that have had cause to attend it.
@westsydneypunter - good on you for sharing. The first step in addressing a problem is honestly recognising you have one. You're half way home already.
How about going on one those long ass cruise trips between continents. It should almost be impossible to score ,allow you mingle with strangers, and possibly meet new friends along the way.
There would be a gym, restaurants and etc to keep you busy.
Addiction is usually the ease of access to the habit/drug. Breaking the access physically (removing yourself from the envirment/social group) is much easier than just relying on your mental state to not relapse.
Regardless of my 2 cents, I know blokes who were hardcore addicts who managed to turn their lives around completely. So you can also win OP, just need to take it day by day.
Long time lurker, first time poster.
What a sad and terrible story. Like most Im glad you're getting help and I really hope you succeed, you still have a some miles left on the clock and you want to start getting back on track.
And I don't doubt that for some reading this, you may have been a teachable moment and saved them a lot of heartache.
Best of luck buddy.
CG
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Thanks for sharing. I did have one experience that I think could've led to chemsex, older hot thai milf took out a glass pipe mid session and asked if I wanted some, I declined, she smoked it and gave me a BBBJ with the smoke exhaling all over my cock, felt a nice tingling sensation on my cock, but I have no idea what drug it was. Also another time, I was talking to a Russian WL and she told me she toured China and said there were a lot of high earning Chinese businessmen who would be high on Ice and would book 8 hour plus sessions with her. Have also heard of stories of WL getting addicted to coke with customers. I don't have personal experience in chemsex addiction, but I did develop a sex addiction after I discovered punting so I somewhat understand you.
Lost my virginity to a WL at 17 then I joined the military and suddenly I was getting paid good money for a 17 year old and didn't know how to spend the money. Had zero financial sense back then so I slowly got into punting and got hooked for a few years. I was going 2 to 3 times a week every week for a few years, mix of 30-60min sessions each time, it was just too accessible, didn't have to build confidence to talk to regular women, didn't have to worry about rejection or working on game, you just pay and get rewarded. I was also going to massage shops and getting RnT and asking if they did FS to try and get a cheaper deal. Every week I would be going through cracker and newspaper classified ads and websites in my spare time. Calling up and comparing prices, going in trial and error with shops and privates, mix of duds and good punts. Every time I had to travel for work, change posting locations or visit home I would check rosters and classifieds in the area. I don't even know how much I spent in that period of time, probably $10k plus per year conservative estimate.
At one point I did stop completely cold turkey after learning about investing and buying my first property, my focus was on paying down my mortgage rather than women, started punting again few years before and after covid and still do now, but I don't go as often, maybe once or twice a month and always 30min sessions. I have pretty good financial sense now so I focus more on investing my earnings into ETFs, Investment property and super rather than on women.