You know it's funny certain things I did in my yoof had the opposite effect on me, made me not want to. I need a clear head for my debauchery.
Hope you all get through what currently haunts you.
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You know it's funny certain things I did in my yoof had the opposite effect on me, made me not want to. I need a clear head for my debauchery.
Hope you all get through what currently haunts you.
FYI there is an excellent rehab facility at Concord Hospital for people that need it. I know a couple of people that have had cause to attend it.
Yoof! Made me chuckle bro... Thank you very much, you really are a treasured member of this forum and I mean it!Quote:
Originally Posted by ColesBag
Thats the true object of fishing...Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
@westsydneypunter - good on you for sharing. The first step in addressing a problem is honestly recognising you have one. You're half way home already.
then I guess you can possibly consider the time you spent waiting to catch a fish as a meditation session .... which may help with head space... win win situation really..Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
I gotta confess, I dont do fishing myself..
How about going on one those long ass cruise trips between continents. It should almost be impossible to score ,allow you mingle with strangers, and possibly meet new friends along the way.
There would be a gym, restaurants and etc to keep you busy.
Addiction is usually the ease of access to the habit/drug. Breaking the access physically (removing yourself from the envirment/social group) is much easier than just relying on your mental state to not relapse.
Regardless of my 2 cents, I know blokes who were hardcore addicts who managed to turn their lives around completely. So you can also win OP, just need to take it day by day.
Long time lurker, first time poster.
What a sad and terrible story. Like most Im glad you're getting help and I really hope you succeed, you still have a some miles left on the clock and you want to start getting back on track.
And I don't doubt that for some reading this, you may have been a teachable moment and saved them a lot of heartache.
Best of luck buddy.
CG
Rises in chemsex in melbourne https://www.smh.com.au/national/vict...07-p5ns9x.html
Thanks for sharing. I did have one experience that I think could've led to chemsex, older hot thai milf took out a glass pipe mid session and asked if I wanted some, I declined, she smoked it and gave me a BBBJ with the smoke exhaling all over my cock, felt a nice tingling sensation on my cock, but I have no idea what drug it was. Also another time, I was talking to a Russian WL and she told me she toured China and said there were a lot of high earning Chinese businessmen who would be high on Ice and would book 8 hour plus sessions with her. Have also heard of stories of WL getting addicted to coke with customers. I don't have personal experience in chemsex addiction, but I did develop a sex addiction after I discovered punting so I somewhat understand you.
Lost my virginity to a WL at 17 then I joined the military and suddenly I was getting paid good money for a 17 year old and didn't know how to spend the money. Had zero financial sense back then so I slowly got into punting and got hooked for a few years. I was going 2 to 3 times a week every week for a few years, mix of 30-60min sessions each time, it was just too accessible, didn't have to build confidence to talk to regular women, didn't have to worry about rejection or working on game, you just pay and get rewarded. I was also going to massage shops and getting RnT and asking if they did FS to try and get a cheaper deal. Every week I would be going through cracker and newspaper classified ads and websites in my spare time. Calling up and comparing prices, going in trial and error with shops and privates, mix of duds and good punts. Every time I had to travel for work, change posting locations or visit home I would check rosters and classifieds in the area. I don't even know how much I spent in that period of time, probably $10k plus per year conservative estimate.
At one point I did stop completely cold turkey after learning about investing and buying my first property, my focus was on paying down my mortgage rather than women, started punting again few years before and after covid and still do now, but I don't go as often, maybe once or twice a month and always 30min sessions. I have pretty good financial sense now so I focus more on investing my earnings into ETFs, Investment property and super rather than on women.
2-3 years Dagestan and forget.
Thanks for sharing though op, hope you get through it.
Why the soft approach?Quote:
Originally Posted by HiredGoon
We’re talking about a guy who is being controlled by a powder. A fucking powder!
He has no self control. Think about it, a bit of powder is controlling how his life unravels, he isn’t in control and neither are his friends. If they were they’d be taking nothing, no drugs, no alcohol and no junk food.
Too many people attempt to take the easy way out and never get anywhere.
You dump the current lot as they’re a bad influence and no doubt accepting of his behaviour. Wipe the slate clean.
I don’t see why he has to hang onto anyone who uses. Get rid of them as they’ll only reinforce his bad habits.
It’s a self supportive self perpetuating cycle. Very few make a clean break.
He either walks or succumbs and gets dragged back in.
Nah bro, that's a stupid way about it. "Current lot" doesn't correlate with "who uses". What do you know about who the OP knows, his circle of friends? Do you know that his friends and loved ones use?Quote:
Originally Posted by justincase
Without this knowledge you are in no position to give advice on who to dump and who to keep. Just stay the fuck away from that shit, as much as we all know you like to spout BS "advice" from your armchair or whatever you sit on.
PS I reckon the first step OP has to take is stay the fuck away from this forum. His sex addiction is entwined with his substance addiction. He has to realise this.
Now if OP really does stay away, that brings up the question.... Is there any point in continuing this thread?
I for one would hope that OP doesn't come back. Walk into the sunset and heal, brutha. All the best to you. As for the rest of us, you can shit fight all you like. I'm out of this thread.
His circle of friends are users I’d guarantee it. Club scene, rave scene, whatever, it’s everywhere.Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
If he doesn’t need money I’d suggest going to a place where he cannot be close to anyone that feeds his addiction.
Sign himself in and stay there till he’s clean.
Only he can do that.
Being soft and nice just doesn’t cut it.
What if he has no friends?Quote:
Originally Posted by justincase
With substances like lsd, magic mushrooms, Buddha sticks et al you can have a ton of 'imaginary' friendsQuote:
Originally Posted by Mark Cassin
HaHaQuote:
Originally Posted by Double_Adapter
Or you can imagine the WLs are your friends
Soft and nice? Wtf are you talking about? OP probably got introduced to the drugs through a wl, not his friendship group. Becoming more isolated is terrible advice in a situation like this.Quote:
Originally Posted by justincase
Do you actually have friends Vincent?
Perhaps Vinnie would rather have no friends than fake friends....just sayingQuote:
Originally Posted by HiredGoon
AA, GA, NA...Quote:
Originally Posted by andrewv
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Originally Posted by westsydneypunter
Like Rlks1 says, it's your peers, those that KNOW your experience, whatever that experience is. Sure, it might not be the full compound experience, but they know at least half of it. I'd say look for a different meeting, find a sponsor that you can bond with. When you get those urges, someone who you can call, can come see you, get you through the "night".Quote:
Originally Posted by Rlks1
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Yea, Justincase assumes the OP had no straight friends before he went off the rails (no disrespect), or that they all abandoned him when he did, or he cut them lose when he did. Obviously you cut off the enablers, but thing about TRUE friends is that they'll always be there for you. An entourage, not so much...Quote:
Originally Posted by Double_Adapter
Spot on - it was introduced by a by WL and not my friends.Quote:
Originally Posted by HiredGoon
Sounds like OPs mental health is all over the shop. I was like him once, but starting a dog walking business has done wonders for my finances and my mental health.
It always gives me a boost when the dogs give glowing feedback...
OP maybe something like my business for yourself can help you direct your passions and energy in a different direction. All the best
It got Tom too
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kz9nku_qp2Q
Mate. I sincerely hope you get yourself sorted. Good Luck. All the Best.Quote:
Originally Posted by westsydneypunter
Perhaps I should not say this but I gather the place where this all happened is Artarmon 90.
Just wondering which ML was the one that introduced you to the "Shit".
Personally I don't need any type of Drugs or Alcohol to have a "Good Time".
Have tried "Shit" in my younger years but some of the stuff out there nowadays. No Thanks