Heart broken

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Originally Posted by The Stealth

Because they aren't attractive, no social skills, prospects etc to meet a great girl in real life so they only meet attractive/nice ones etc in shops.

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Hmmmm......is punting not real life???

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Originally Posted by manjuice333

Hi All,

First, sorry that I have not posted many reviews, hopefully the reasons for that will become clear. I just have to get this off my chest, somehow, if it is at all possible.

I’ve been secretly punting for years. Secretly, because I’m married with 3 young kids.

Anyway, I’ve had it all, hot, not-so-hot, high end, low end blah blah... This has been going on for eleven years I must have been with easily over 70 women, maybe more than 100 lost count. It was an addiction I had developed, one I wanted to be rid of.

In all this time I have not developed feelings for any of them even though with some I had good chemistry and very much enjoyed them. I thought I was immune to catching feelings, until recently.

I met this young Japanese ML and only saw her twice but I was smitten hard, like seriously considering the option of leaving my poor family. I do stress the words ‘considering’ and ‘option’. I found myself missing and yearning to see her. Feelings I have not felt in Probably 15 years.

I was going to see her today and planning on getting her contact details, which I believe I would have been successful in doing as I could tell she really liked me too. I was planning this for fear that the shop would be closed down and she’d return to Japan. Well they were open till just now and I had a bad feeling which was confirmed when they told me they’re closing indefinitely. I will probably never see her again, which is good for my marriage, I suppose lol

My heart has been rent asunder. I wandered the streets near the shop vainly hoping that our paths might cross but it was not to be.

Just as I thought I was beyond romantic feelings, I also thought I was beyond romantic heartbreak, but I can now feel its painful sting, rather acutely.

I really don’t think I can ever punt again, which is a good thing I suppose.

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manjuice my man

you have sympathy from more than half of this forum members, who all have been on the same boat, including myself lol

don't be upset, let's all gather for a group hug, share our stories, cry on each other shoulders...
...and let coronavirus kill us all

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Originally Posted by manjuice333

gannicus, sent you a PM. Your experience sounds a lot like mine!

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Hope it ain't the same chick

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Originally Posted by krnboy

Hope it ain't the same chick

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Nah, I checked with him, not the same girl, all japanese girls will say kimoji a lot

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Originally Posted by The Stealth

Because they aren't attractive, no social skills, prospects etc to meet a great girl in real life so they only meet attractive/nice ones etc in shops.

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This!

And in almost all cases these “hot” chicks wouldn’t give you the time of the day in normal everyday situations.

Don't for 1 second thought Japanese girls in general are how you perceived them based on their culture and mindsets, some of nastiest or manipulative girls i came across are Japanese. Some will literally stay with you just because of sex, not love.

But not to say all of them should be generalized so, you could be lucky to find a genuine girl.

At the end, you can either find happiness or fall into a world of pain

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Originally Posted by max_power

Power of pussy.....seen a random twice and contemplated leaving his wife and 3 kids

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Amen Brother haha

Been there too mate - a few of my favourite WL’s over the years (though they were all regulars by the time I did that). It was amazing, but so hard to juggle (married with three means tricky times making time). That’s one of the great things about punting at establishments - no strings and availability when u need it . Not any more hey 😢

Definitely fallen in love several times, much as you describe. Very hard to let go but as with all loss you do get over it.

I still find myself imagining how things wound be if u up and left with one of them. Have heard some horror stories about guys doing this though. Best to keep it as an obsession on the side I rekkon 👍.

Don't let small head think for big head bro. All the best in getting over this.

Thanks for all the support and sympathy, and Xboy’s comments to hug and let Coronavirus kill us all lol.

I do appreciate it sincerely. It’s been tough, trying to move on. One day at a time.

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Originally Posted by manjuice333

Thanks for all the support and sympathy, and Xboy’s comments to hug and let Coronavirus kill us all lol.

I do appreciate it sincerely. It’s been tough, trying to move on. One day at a time.

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We know it's difficult for you and I'm sure many punters have been in your situation at one time. When you get burnt or someone takes advantage of your generosity and emotional feelings, it makes you more cautious not to let your guard down with these girls again. There are many fish in the sea! Move on and have your fun but don't get too romantically linked to these girls because in most cases, it's the guy who gets screwed (not sexually) but emotionally and financially.

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Originally Posted by asiafever

Very true.
And if your evil genie grants your wish, and you end up in a relationship with said girl, in 99/100 cases you'll end up a mental case, or devastated, or a cold heartless shell of a man..
It is nothing like you think it is going to be. Even in the "good" relationships it is a mindfuck. Oh you think you're going to save her? So does every single other guy currently lusting after her, and all those that went before you.
You make the mistake of reading a review about her, you think you're cool and understanding, you promised yourself you wouldn't read, but curiosity gets the better of you, it says she did something that she promises she doesn't do with customers.. you have to believe her as relationships are built on trust, but... that doubt eats away at you, gnawing on your mind like a cancer. So you disconnect from forums, best thing to do for your mental health. You don't need them anyway, I mean, you're not really punting anymore, right?
You need supreme self confidence, because when you're out together some dumb fuck can't help but let it be known he's seen her in the shop. You brush it off, she CHOSE to be with you, right? After a while it grates on you both though, so you tend to stay in, or hang out in a really tight group. Guys text her at all hours on her work number. Most massage girls have a work phone in my experience if they have been in the game a while. You hear the "brrrrrb" of it on vibrate consistently, and after a while you want to chuck the fucking thing out the window. She switches it off, you feel like a cunt because that is her work, you knew this going in, you bought into it. Hell you were that guy texting! Yeah...
But those tender moments, her falling asleep with her head on your chest while you watch tv together, the smile and giggle you know are her genuine one's, not those she gives to customers, when she sings to you, the kind of things only you can appreciate, surely they make it worthwhile?

It took me a few goes to learn, I should have listened to wiser heads, it's not a winning game.

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Asiafever, you have just put into reality what I feared the most. fist punch brother! Lots of support and advice here, sets my heart straight again...

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Originally Posted by Nelly69

Asiafever, you have just put into reality what I feared the most. fist punch brother! Lots of support and advice here, sets my heart straight again...

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Ah the memories.
Fist bump gladly received and reciprocated.

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Originally Posted by asiafever

Ah the memories.
Fist bump gladly received and reciprocated.

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Those memories are my life, thank you very much! Jokes.. Well, my life is the joke lol

If anyone was following this thread I did actually successfully engage in a relationship with this girl. Technically, it still hasn't finished, but I also can't say it looks very promising either.

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Originally Posted by manjuice333

Those memories are my life, thank you very much! Jokes.. Well, my life is the joke lol

If anyone was following this thread I did actually successfully engage in a relationship with this girl. Technically, it still hasn't finished, but I also can't say it looks very promising either.

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Manjuice, so you guys are on long distant now?

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Originally Posted by toysrus

Don't leave us hanging! What happened in chapter 2?

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lol love your username.

Long story short I got busted, she went back to Japan.

Nelly, yes long distance but things are kind of fizzling out. Messages are getting few and far between and although she semi-recently said she wants to come back and see me I can’t say that either of us are really committed to making it happen.

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Originally Posted by manjuice333

lol love your username.

Long story short I got busted, she went back to Japan.

Nelly, yes long distance but things are kind of fizzling out. Messages are getting few and far between and although she semi-recently said she wants to come back and see me I can’t say that either of us are really committed to making it happen.

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Manjuice, sorry to hear mate, probably better for your family. I had the same with a Jap girl I met at one of those Jap bar places there they charge you $800 to drink with you for a couple of hours. I ended up going out with one of those girls and thought it was genuine but realized she only wanted someone to pay for her dinner and show her around town. After she moved back to japan, got two msg from her and silent...

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Originally Posted by Nelly69

Manjuice, sorry to hear mate, probably better for your family. I had the same with a Jap girl I met at one of those Jap bar places there they charge you $800 to drink with you for a couple of hours. I ended up going out with one of those girls and thought it was genuine but realized she only wanted someone to pay for her dinner and show her around town. After she moved back to japan, got two msg from her and silent...

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Thanks Mate. She went back like 4 months ago and we had still been in regular contact texting, called her a few times and did some video chat but can't be bothered making the effort anymore. I actually thought she was going to ghost me as well but kept up regular contact telling me all about her life, just lately it's getting quiet. If I message her she'll message back, still calls me by my pet name lol

I'm a bit conflicted though, I think I should just let it die and while my feelings for her have subsided, it's a bit bruising to the ego to be no longer seeing message notifications, probably a very poor reason to want to keep a relationship alive!

Be strong my dude

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Originally Posted by niva321

Be strong my dude

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Thanks bro appreciate it!

So quick update. Felt messages were getting a bit meh and I was doing most of the chasing a few weeks ago. Didn't message her for 2 weeks and then she messages me.

She's upset I didn't message her, I'm back in the game! lol

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Originally Posted by manjuice333

So quick update. Felt messages were getting a bit meh and I was doing most of the chasing a few weeks ago. Didn't message her for 2 weeks and then she messages me.

She's upset I didn't message her, I'm back in the game! lol

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haha, game on! Will you be asking for nude pics? lol

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Originally Posted by Nelly69

haha, game on! Will you be asking for nude pics? lol

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lol I asked her for a booty pic a while back cause her ass is absolutely perfect.. but she has not delivered

I will ask again but maybe not tonight.

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Originally Posted by Momoe

Don't for 1 second thought Japanese girls in general are how you perceived them based on their culture and mindsets, some of nastiest or manipulative girls i came across are Japanese. Some will literally stay with you just because of sex, not love.

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Quite true. I have had several relationships with J girls (not in this game). They are quite happy to live with you here in a de-facto type arrangement, but when their time is up, they are quite unemotional in packing up and going. Even when they have suggested marriage. Once they get back home, the Japanese culture is too hard to leave again.

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Originally Posted by aussiegaigin

Quite true. I have had several relationships with J girls (not in this game). They are quite happy to live with you here in a de-facto type arrangement, but when their time is up, they are quite unemotional in packing up and going. Even when they have suggested marriage. Once they get back home, the Japanese culture is too hard to leave again.

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This reminds of my experience with this same girl, we had even talked marriage and I’m like 99% certain she would have moved in with me, were I not already married lol.

I saw her off at the airport and I was pretty sad and she didn’t seem to care at all! Anyway, now she’s still messaging me so I don’t know what to make of it all. It’s been almost 5 months since I saw her last.