Need some advice of what to do next…..

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Originally Posted by Tommyp63

Something needs to be very wrong for any business to tell (probably) its number 1 customer to never return. There’s two sides to every story

OP - as much as it sucks you’ve invested clearly lots of money & time into this place, I think it’s time to start fresh. It’s a business at the end of the day and if they don’t want your thousands of dollars each month, take it elsewhere

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Thanks Tommy,

You definitely think you’ve hit the nail on the head mate.

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Originally Posted by fnmfnmfnm

Two questions

- what do you do for work to spend 45k on punting in a year, and travel a lot
- how can I get a job doing it

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Hi Fnmfnmfnm,

Good question(s)…..

1) International Shipping.
2) Keep your eye out for jobs with the major players in the industry for any job openings. Sometimes set the search to “worldwide”, and you never know what you could find…..

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Originally Posted by jedibear

Bro sorry to hear that. Don't be taken for granted. Enjoy some Thai punani.

Sent from my SM-S911B using Tapatalk

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Nice one Jedibear - will definitely have a San Miguel light in your name when I’m over there next.

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Originally Posted by hornedbeast

You overstayed your welcome, loitering around and pottering about. They don't want you there anymore. Pretty clear. They deal with transactions, not entertaining those hanging around to chat etc. Name and shame them as a parting gift. As the saying goes... a fool and his money are soon parted.

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Sorry Hornedbeast, but a gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell. Would love to “name & shame” , but what would that solve?

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Originally Posted by AHLUNGOR

same here, but I'm more interested in the $7K tax return ?

Like, what did he claim to get so much back ?

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Just filled in a “FITO” form at the ATO.

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Originally Posted by tezzaman18

That's good analytics!!! Shop owner may have wised up to that.

Plenty of good advice and a reality check from the Bros ...... 11Bravo, Folcis, Blitz, hornedbeast etc

You sound like a real decent bloke.

Rogerram has made a very good point. There is something not quite right in your life if your are spending so much time at the shop . Only natural to be pissed off , a feeling of injustice since the shop owner has put you out. If you are feeling angry , it's good . Helps the healing process.

You have to move on. Feel satisfied with what you have done! Does not matter if there is not appreciation or gratitude shown.

All the best!

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Thanks tezzaman, your right about how I feel and that something is not right.

18 months ago I was a totally different person to what I am now.

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Originally Posted by Rogerram

That sounds like an excuse to me of the WL not wanting to do the booking...

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Trust me when I say, no. Definitely not.

Mate glad to hear you are sorting yourself out. Sex addiction is as bad as any drug, can ruin your life as easily. Ive seen plenty of blokes at work fuck their reputation, marriage, and career through not getting help. Good luck to you and I am really pleased to hear you have taken the steps to recovery!

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Originally Posted by andrewv

Hello @westsydneypunter.

If you want a professional opinion, here it is: Disregard all the comments that other punters pontificated here. Go to see your GP and ask for a referral to a psychologist, for your own sake.
It will be the best thing you will do for your well-being. Your issues, based on what you wrote, are multi-layered, and much deeper and wider than being just a bloke who enjoyed going to brothels and "being nice and kind". I expect you will require counselling for at least 12 months to work out your issues, with appointments every 10 days or so.

Good luck.

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Hi AndrewV,

Finally someone with some proper advice. Thank you & you are 100% right.

There are underlying issues within myself that I need to resolved properly first to over come this and these have been address. Some of the biggest issues I now face is how to deal with the CBT along with the Stockholm Syndrome. Also trying to replace “that” with something else that brings me joy and happiness. That the challenge.

If you go to brothels more than once a week, you are a giant fucking loser to be honest. I'm sure the girls see you that way too. They probably pity your lonely poor self..

Imagine having money, but blowing it all up on hookers instead of doing something with your life. That's why you're a giant fucking loser. Zero respect.

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Originally Posted by andrewv

Psychological Analysis:


1. Emotional Dependency & Attachment Substitution

There are clear markers of parasocial or pseudo-intimate attachment—a one-sided emotional investment toward sex workers and the brothel community that substitutes for real emotional connection.
The “comfort” he describes functions as an emotional refuge, likely filling unmet needs for acceptance, belonging, and validation.

2. Compulsive or Addictive Sexual Behaviour

The frequency, duration, and financial outlay suggest possible compulsive use of commercial sex:

Recurrent high spending despite negative consequences.

Preoccupation with maintaining involvement.

Escalation in time commitment (multi-day bookings).

Intense distress when access is disrupted.
These are hallmarks of behavioural addiction, not purely transactional use.

3. Defended Vulnerability and Cognitive Dissonance

His insistence that he’s “not in love” and “not crazy” reflects defensive rationalisation—protecting against the painful recognition of emotional dependency or rejection.
The language (“I just help out out of kindness”) masks a need for significance and reciprocal care that he cannot admit within the transactional framework of a brothel.

4. Rejection Sensitivity & Narcissistic Injury

When the owner abruptly cuts him off, he experiences it as a betrayal of loyalty and worth. The subsequent indignation (“After all I’ve done for them!”) indicates narcissistic wounding—a collapse of self-esteem tied to perceived unfair treatment.

5. Possible Underlying Factors

Patterns suggest:

Loneliness and low relational self-efficacy (difficulty forming mutual, non-transactional bonds).

Possible depressive or dysthymic traits, masked by activity and “helpfulness.”

Compensatory behaviour through control, spending, and “being needed.”

Summary
This punter exhibits traits of loneliness, dependency, and compulsive sexual behaviour masked as altruism. He appears emotionally invested in transactional environments that provide temporary acceptance. The abrupt rejection by the brothel has destabilised his sense of belonging, revealing underlying emotional vulnerability. Therapeutic intervention is advised to address attachment repair, emotional dependency, and self-worth regulation.

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I have to agree and disagree with some of your comments.

In order for you to give your “professional opinion” , wouldn’t you normally sit down with a client and try and understand the bigger picture and work out the underlying issues that way instead of what you read online.

If you are a “professional” , and do have any suggestions or advice of how to move forward, any help or tips are much appreciated. Pleas feel free to DM me.

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Originally Posted by Paison

Hookers are hookers. Its unfortunate, but you aren't going to find any loyalty or repayment - and at the end of day, they dont owe you nothing - its all transactional

Just save ur money and use it to travel the world instead mate. For 7k, you'd have a blast at Thailand.

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I heard a saying in China when I was working out there, it was something like 妓女冷酷無情，演員漠不關心 ( translated into English is something like “ Whores are heartless and actors are indifferent...”).

If anyone out there knows the correct saying, let me know.

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Originally Posted by ditchtheboss

Dude you need serious help and you became a liability for the shop. Leave this site, quit punting and seek help pronto

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Thanks for your kind words of support ditchtheboss.

I'm not looking for judgment or lectures - I'm looking for real talk from people who get it, or at least won't kick someone when they're down. I know I fucked up. I'm looking for understanding, maybe some guidance from others who've walked this path.

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Originally Posted by RogerWood

I find its best to keep trying new ladies, by sticking with regulars they will exploit u. It's fine to have regulars, but u dont want them thinking you're only seeing them alone.

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Good words of advice, thanks RogerWood. A few people have said the same.

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Originally Posted by ChadThunderrcock

My professional diagnosis of OP is he most likely suffers from condition called "Not-Handsome & Not-Attractive"

He most likely does not look like Brad Pitt, Chris Hemsworth, BTS Jimin, Jackson Wang or Super-Junior Siwon.

Thats why he spends all his time at a brothel and paying for transactional sex

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Hi Chad,

Q. Is there any reason why you use the same line in over 50% of your 255 post? It’s ether something about “Brad Pit” or “old fat men” - you come across as a bit of a keyboard worrier to me with a complex of being rejected yourself.

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Originally Posted by AUSSIEHOTGUY

OP you're the biggest simp ever. Dude WTF. Man the fuck up for fucks sake. You're such a fucking loser.

Its blokes like you the reason the rest of us get so many roots, bareback all inclusive for $150-170/hr.

You call yourself a punter you son of a bitch?

Just listen to yourself how pathetic you are:

"The thing is, over the 16 months of going to this shop, I have never asked for a discount and always pay full price, even though some customers from certain backgrounds get a discounted rate of $40 and up to $180 on their doubles. I know; I’ve seen, heard, and even taken payment when working as requested by the owner while helping out.

With all that said, the way I have been treated. Who do you think is in the wrong? And what should I do?

What should you do? You should MAN THE FUCK UP. Stop being the sissy simp you are and take fucken control. YOU OWN THE WHORE WHEN YOU PAY YOU IDIOT!!! Get this through your head and if you can't ask your friend to piss in your ear to clear it. OK.

"...the way I have been treated..."

Oh you poor diddums. You sound like a fucken faggot. Maybe you should try sucking dick.. just for a change. You might like the taste. Maybe it'll put things in perspective for you.

You think this is abuse? YOU THINK THIS IS ABUSE YOU FUCKEN COCKSUCKER???!!

Coming here expecting us to blow sunshine up your ass.

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Nah mate, I came here for a conversation. What about you?

Kick a man when he’s down and going through a dark patch in his life only to be taken advantage of by others. You got kids? Well, when it all comes out, think about what you said and then think, would you do if someone did that your kid. Grow up mate, you got to be over 18 to join this site.

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Originally Posted by RodgHerMoore

Apart from the last post this thread is interesting and lots of bros have made good points.

I'd add to brother aussie hot guy tho. OP considers himself kind and nice. How about obsessive and a weirdo?

Who goes to the same place over and over? I agree with the posts that say he's deflecting/hiding his clear emotional attachment to the place.

Fk n leave as the saying goes in this forum.

About the no money comment, some bright brother did the maths. Yes OP paid the whole day but if you average it out, the WLs could have earned more per customer than the average rate you paid to "book them the whole day".

To OP, think about it from their perspective. You reduced their earnings and some may be living day to day on their takings. Even if it isn't this, you're ruining their earnings. It's a business at the end of the day and you're just another cock to them.

Glad to know you're moving on but don't get attached to the next place. No girl or business owes u anything.

It's a brothel/RnT FFS.

The other advice you're getting here is a good one....treat yourself to a good trip in Thailand or Philippines.

If u have cash and crave personal connection but cannot get a proper talk relationship then a sugar baby is better for you than these shops. You buy a better GF experience that way.

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Who goes to the same place over and over? You’ll find out why soon…

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Originally Posted by thunder545454

Why don't you just invite the girls overnight to your place, I am sure they rather pocket the shop fee themselves and hang out at your place go for dinner etc, rather than just spend 6 hours in a room with you where they work all day.

Ive taken many girls from shops out, they are always keen to get paid and go out and about rather than stay at the shop.

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Good point - and I did on a few occasions. I was even promised by some that we would go to OSS together.

But that’s the thing, it was all part of a act along with other actions to keep me coming back for more. I fell for the act.

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Originally Posted by cplurt2

It's a painful thing but it's time to move on. I think coming to a forum of degenerates may be a bad idea but a few of them did tell you to find some help too. find a hobby other than this hobby. Maybe a girl will fall into the picture. You don't want a working girl. They are broken wonderful creatures who will take all your money and leave you wanting to give them more with nothing in return.

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Hi Cplurt,

Thanks for the words of support. To be 100% honest, I've hit rock bottom with a addiction, and I need to be accountable to someone other than myself. If this post helps even one person recognize the signs before they get where I am, then it's worth the vulnerability. The worst part is there's barely any support for this kind of addiction out there. But all will be revealed soon…

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Originally Posted by jedibear

I have had a shop stuff me around...told me to go, arrived and told to wait 1.5 hours later or try some other boiler. I left, went to another nearby shop and had the best root. I hate when a booking gets stuffed around, and definitely won't be back in the first shop.

OP, you're a good man, but don't be taken advantage of. Go take your dollars elsewhere and don't let yourself be taken advantage of

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True words of advice. Thanks mate for your support and kind words