marrying a ML/WL

On the topic, I think it only works if both parties can put the past behind them. Mostly one or the other can’t. I think a lot of it comes down to the fact that the situation is difficult and confusing and one or both simply cannot deal with the complexity. One or both in a moment of anger over some trivial issue will at some stage use it as an excuse to hit out of the other, which is death to the relationship.The one couple I know where it worked, both knew not to think about the past, and concentrated on creating a future. Both good natured people. Gotta love them and their beautiful children.

I have dated several WL’s and it always ends badly.

First one was young but so greedy. Was used to earning $700 cash free everyday so nothing I could do was ever enough as she would call me mean if I only spent a few hundred dollars on her

Second one started off nice but once I got to know her she was mental with a terrible temper plus up and down like a yoyo

Third was only 24 and only stayed in the industry a few months and we lost track once she returned to Vietnam.

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Originally Posted by Brothelcreeper

I have dated several WL’s and it always ends badly.

First one was young but so greedy. Was used to earning $700 cash free everyday so nothing I could do was ever enough as she would call me mean if I only spent a few hundred dollars on her

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Good point BC. A working women having sex for $$$ because of financial circumstances probably makes them all cynical about men.

But the fact the pretty ones are earning a heap of money means all relationships with punters they link to $$$

Those Romeos out there thinking they have connections with WL are usually just starting up on the punting treadmill. Once you get off the punting treadmill, you learn punting is series of hopefully blissful but transient pleasures, not a dating service

As Ahlungor said, the most common scenario is that the woman wants you for a visa or as a sugar daddy. Even in these cases better to keep your distance

But ultimately everyone on here has to make their own mistakes, noone really listens to advice

It was hard enough to be married to a non WL.

Imagine the extra baggage of a WL and a punter being married?

All the past coming back to haunt, the paranoia about past customers recognising your wife or your family finding out the truth.

But in saying that, it has worked for a few.

Maybe someone who is currently married to a WL/ex WL can shed some light on the subject.

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Everyone's situation in life is different, so I don't judge at all. If you've been single most of your life, of course you would crave having companionship. If the WL turns you on and you click with her, it's only natural for you to want to be with her "for the rest of your life" (for the time being).
What you need to do, if you're the punter side of the equation, is to figure out if THIS particular WL has the right character to carry on after doing this work. They need to understand why men have to go punting and accept that it happens. They also have to not hate themselves for doing the work. Those are the only ones worth going for if you ask me.
At the same time, you have to ask yourself if you can have the same thinking as the WL, as the above. If you can't do it, don't even think about it.
Personally, I've never taken the next step of dating a WL because the many years of punting has conditioned me into "cumming and going", so to speak. Plus, looking back at my life, I've never really had any time being single since leaving high school.... I actually crave single life and having the freedom to punt anytime I want! It's ironic. I'm a loner by nature... I like going to the cinema alone, for example... But I'm always stuck in one relationship or the next!

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Originally Posted by Riff888

It was hard enough to be married to a non WL.

Imagine the extra baggage of a WL and a punter being married?

All the past coming back to haunt, the paranoia about past customers recognising your wife or your family finding out the truth.

But in saying that, it has worked for a few.

Maybe someone who is currently married to a WL/ex WL can shed some light on the subject.

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What’s left to say on the subject?

It’s tough, for some , and for all the reasons prev suggested speculated or known , and perhaps harder when the woman /man is working, than when no longer in the industry.

Ime that been the case as trust and honesty and preparedness to forgive to be understanding giving in any situation deeply important . Applicable to any relationship .

The sex issue in this context more challenging perhaps made harder if both parties less than truthful . Again my experience .

The happily ever after bit, post industry . Itself challenging though likely to have the same success failure as any couple.

To use this or any other thread as a factual basis to form an opinion .. both impossible .

Sample group to small.

I know an active WL and her partner. He knows full well what she does and isn't shy to tell me how fit and toned she is and we even joke at times about going to the shop she works at.

From the outside looking in, she is just doing a job and he fully accepts and understands what is involved. Once her shift is completed, she goes home to him and life continues on as per normal.

I don't think this is always the case but I have seen that it's possible. i am just glad I never got round to seeing her before I met the two of them, that would have been awkward!

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Originally Posted by liminal

Ime that been the case as trust and honesty and preparedness to forgive to be understanding giving in any situation deeply important . Applicable to any relationship .

The sex issue in this context more challenging perhaps made harder if both parties less than truthful . Again my experience

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Talikng about WL not ML, how does a WL see the importance of sex in her life? Can she go home to her partner and not see sex as a work related activity and a chore ?
Or does condomless sex still bring a thrill?
Am I wrong in saying that womens interest in sex over time falls, and interest over time is not as strong as mens? Do WL honestly see sex as fresh and a joy when they have it with their partner if they are working fulltime in the industry?
I dont know, Im just asking

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Originally Posted by moby

Talikng about WL not ML, how does a WL see the importance of sex in her life? Can she go home to her partner and not see sex as a work related activity and a chore ?
Or does condomless sex still bring a thrill?
Am I wrong in saying that womens interest in sex over time falls, and interest over time is not as strong as mens? Do WL honestly see sex as fresh and a joy when they have it with their partner if they are working fulltime in the industry?
I dont know, Im just asking

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U saying a ML is not a WL.. 😂

Like a sugar baby ain’t a WL in a different name.

I don’t see a distinction and even if saying one job you have to fuck, the other you are able to pick and be selective . IMO does not alter this , not again can it be more than a generalisation (yours), as sometimes , some ML’s are doing a lot of FS and sometimes some WL’s are doing a lot of talking and touching only.

All the voices you’re hearing here ... are male (aren’t they ???) and are offering a general opinion an idea and anecdote etc etc etc

Best two ways perhaps for you to get your answers is A have a WL/Ml Or a ML/WL come on the forum and answer

And B have a serious relationship / marry a WL/Ml and then tell us

Even then it is only going to give you one persons perspective. Interesting perhaps. But in no way conclusive.

Sample group to small.

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Originally Posted by liminal

U saying a ML is not a WL.. ��

Like a sugar baby ain’t a WL in a different name.

I don’t see a distinction and even if saying one job you have to fuck, the other you are able to pick and be selective . IMO does not alter this , not again can it be more than a generalisation (yours), as sometimes , some ML’s are doing a lot of FS and sometimes some WL’s are doing a lot of talking and touching only.

All the voices you’re hearing here ... are male (aren’t they ???) and are offering a general opinion an idea and anecdote etc etc etc

Best two ways perhaps for you to get your answers is A have a WL/Ml Or a ML/WL come on the forum and answer

And B have a serious relationship / marry a WL/Ml and then tell us

Even then it is only going to give you one persons perspective. Interesting perhaps. But in no way conclusive.

Sample group to small.

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Most level headed comments on this thread ! ;) ;) ;)

This is an interesting topic. Have there been any punters who have dated or married girl’s in the industry?

How did it work out? Short or long relationship? Married and divorced? Married and still together?

I assume any married guys probably don’t visit the forum anymore.

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Originally Posted by Panerabread

This is an interesting topic. Have there been any punters who have dated or married girl’s in the industry?

How did it work out? Short or long relationship? Married and divorced? Married and still together?

I assume any married guys probably don’t visit the forum anymore.

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No, there arent any married guys on the forum from what I understand

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Originally Posted by moby

No, there arent any married guys only the forum

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[emoji1787] more like 80% are married or in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by moby

No, there arent any married guys on the forum from what I understand

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100%. It would be criminal for married guys to visit this forum right?

😁

I’m having a wank and not thinking about this thread

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Originally Posted by NormalGuy

Im dating a ML. Still going strong.

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Enjoy. This thread is about marriage. So when are you planning to propose?

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Originally Posted by moby

Enjoy. This thread is about marriage. So when are you planning to propose?

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Can't he propose and keep dating the ML?

Implication being propose to Non ML!

But best of luck to anyone who makes these relationships work

I married a WL.... well she was dipper of toe in the job.
She stopped working, and has zero interest in returning.
We made a family.
Happy days.

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Originally Posted by BuryYourDead

I married a WL.... well she was dipper of toe in the job.
She stopped working, and has zero interest in returning.
We made a family.
Happy days.

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now that's what we want to hear, real people real experience, not just speculation. did you meet her in the shop (I presume so)? Have you stopped punting too? I guess not because you're on this forum. how is trust issue between you two?

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Originally Posted by BuryYourDead

I married a WL.... well she was dipper of toe in the job.
She stopped working, and has zero interest in returning.
We made a family.
Happy days.

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So it was her first day and you were her first customer ;)