Trapped and helpless

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Originally Posted by Harp0

How many different profiles have you had in this forum Vinnie?

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Maybe six banned? I cannot remember. There’s another four or so to be activated. Plus a couple sitting idle. The numbers are approximate as I’m too busy to really care.

It’s irrelevant. What’s more important is the fact I have three SW on the go plus a GF. They’re my number one concern. They’re all “finicky” and I cannot tar them with the same brush. Perhaps it’s the age difference, not physical as I’m in good shape but mental age difference. They are all younger by at least two decades. Maybe that’s a reason?

I’m too controlling and I’m told I overthink.

One mate told me I should date J girls as they are more subservient, which I have done previously but I do like Thai women for their nature, Anyway I’ve kinda bailed on activities with the guys as I don’t have the time and now I’m getting flak for that. It’s all about priorities and what makes you happy. Besides I’d rather spend time with women than a bunch of guys.

Getting back to forum profiles I know a core group of Aussie guys here run multiple accounts. They even go as far as masking their personality on each account so they present as different people. I can only hope it’s financially worth it.

Thanks brothers for sharing your thoughts. It’s really a common problem with marriage and I’ve come to peace with it.

Stay strong and look after yourselves.

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Originally Posted by GoldfishMan

Well, it really depends on what you call "fair", no?

And when you say "protect yourself", I'm assuming you mean protect your assets and finances. The first step in doing that is to minimize the use of lawyers as much as possible. If you can talk to her and work it out among yourselves, that's the first win you can get.

Now let's say you haven't used lawyers, all the money stays in the family. Now comes the split. If we go by the book, divorce law in Australia is actually quite fair. Assets are split right through the middle. One spouse pays the other spousal support depending on which one does or does not work. Once the other spouse gets remarried, the spousal support ends.

Child support is allocated based on your percentage of care towards the child. In other words, if you don't want to put in the hard work to look after a child, you pay for it. I think that's fair. The only part that may not be fair about it is how the courts give custody of the child. In that regard, the woman definitely has the upper hand.

Of course, there are women who don't want the burden of raising a child. Then you don't have to pay for any child support because you'll be the primary carer.

Now here's the part that you might find unsavoury. The scenario is if you have spent a good chunk of your money on punting or mistresses, the divorce happens, and then your ex finds out about it. She could then say that you've been plundering the family coffers for your own benefit and therefore, you should cover for those monies from your share. If you think about it real hard, that's actually fair. Fucking around is not a good thing for a marriage. It feels like shit to be in that position, but unfortunately from a neutral standpoint it is the fairest outcome.

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Nah, my 4 year experience some 10 years ago was a blight on Australia's family law court and how it allowed my wife's lawyers to distort and apply ridiculous provisions and assertions in the discovery process associated with a property settlement.

I was still located overseas when the process began and it became apparent early, and was in fact said to me by my lawyers, that the perception would be I had the ability to have money squirreled away all over the world and the really stressful and worrying aspect of it was I had to prove it wasn't the case.

In the asset base assessment my ex-wifes lawyers came up with an amount of $750k that they said was consistent with my position and which hadn't been included despite the numbers not adding up overall.
They contended I had likely received unlisted bonuses and incentives, that were not listed, despite being unwilling to engage with my overseas employer where they would have needed a language translator and need to do some work.
This deemed amount wouldn't go away in numerous court appearances and I was held as not meeting disclosure requirements.

I recall one mediation session where I had walked in with 2 wheely bags and a backpack of disclosure documents and analysis.....and my ex wife sailed in with her hand bag. At lunch time, she and her lawyers went out to a restaurant while I was left to work through defending and refuting a series of questions that had little foundation but which were designed to pressure me into accepting a 60/40 settlement before final court appearance.

It was a stressful and appalling situation, characterised by the "Friday email bombardment" ....at 5 pm on most Fridays I would receive a series of emails containing numerous questions requiring answers in what was usually a short deadline.

It all resolved fortunately when my case was assigned to a new judge, who I was told was "good" for us, which in itself was a concern, but who took a different, fairer approach to disclosure and my ex-wifes lawyers were forced to front up!

Sorry, a long regurgitation!
10 years ago and still angers me!

Thanks for sharing your experience, bro Abracadabra. I guess at the end of the day, it depends on how wicked your ex-wife was, how far you would go to defend your rights, and most importantly, how much is at stake.

In my case, I wasn't rich. I'm not a millionaire with lots of assets to be divided with the ex. So it was impossible to justify incurring the legal costs to defend the little money that was at stake. I would've spent a big chunk of what she was asking for on the lawyers. So I just gave her what she wanted. We're still very good friends to this day.

A good woman doesn't keep her options open. She will test your patience but not your loyalty, if she really wants you to be the one she will first be the one for you.

The problem with women these days is that they're treating relationships as if it's a job. Many "dating advice" from women are derived from job seeking advices which is stupid. And this is why you get sexless marriages. It's like a jobseeker who lied on their CVs, got hired and end up behaving like clowns - most sexless marriages are caused by wives who lied about their caringness and end up throwing bitch fits as soon as they're married.

There's no good dating or marriage advice out there but there is an advice I found works in many long lasting marriages - the couples who don't fight (or throw bitch fits) are the ones who last. They may get cheated on by each other but because none of them throw bitch fits like clowns, they're more likely to forgive one another and resume the relationship.

Spanky69 unfortunately can't shake off his bitch fits, acting like a clown the whole time in real life and online. Sad to see an older person behaving like that, many nursing homes houses demented old folks who throw bitch fits 24/7.

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Originally Posted by Spanky69

Maybe six banned? I cannot remember. There’s another four or so to be activated. Plus a couple sitting idle. The numbers are approximate as I’m too busy to really care.

It’s irrelevant. What’s more important is the fact I have three SW on the go plus a GF. They’re my number one concern. They’re all “finicky” and I cannot tar them with the same brush. Perhaps it’s the age difference, not physical as I’m in good shape but mental age difference. They are all younger by at least two decades. Maybe that’s a reason?

I’m too controlling and I’m told I overthink.

One mate told me I should date J girls as they are more subservient, which I have done previously but I do like Thai women for their nature, Anyway I’ve kinda bailed on activities with the guys as I don’t have the time and now I’m getting flak for that. It’s all about priorities and what makes you happy. Besides I’d rather spend time with women than a bunch of guys.

Getting back to forum profiles I know a core group of Aussie guys here run multiple accounts. They even go as far as masking their personality on each account so they present as different people. I can only hope it’s financially worth it.

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This post screams a clown who would throw bitch fits as soon as someone forgets their birthday as karma for making others purposely forgetting other people's birthdays as a "dating advice".

Like a monkey who just can't figure out the reflection in the lake is his own and not another monkey mimicking his moves.

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Originally Posted by kayofa

This post screams a clown who would throw bitch fits as soon as someone forgets their birthday as karma for making others purposely forgetting other people's birthdays as a "dating advice".

Like a monkey who just can't figure out the reflection in the lake is his own and not another monkey mimicking his moves.

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I’m hopeless with dates, everyday is the same. Your point is lost on me. It means nothing, you mean nothing, now do you understand where I am coming from?

What a window licker.

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Originally Posted by kayofa

Like a monkey who just can't figure out the reflection in the lake is his own and not another monkey mimicking his moves.

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Brilliant, absolutely brilliant. RESPECT.

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Originally Posted by kayofa

This post screams a clown who would throw bitch fits as soon as someone forgets their birthday as karma for making others purposely forgetting other people's birthdays as a "dating advice".

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Myself, I do have trouble with dates, but... the calendar on my smart phone covers that gap very nicely. Single event, scheduled annually... QED.

Guess I'm just lazy, no doubt, but TOO much trouble to have multiple accounts. Sure, e-mail, a personal, another or 2 for signups, but forums... WeChat... Line... just too much trouble to keep track of. Is it THAT hard to stay within the rather generous lines... Guess I'm just guilty of the sin of hubris... but I stand by my posts, and I don't mind being known for them, liked or disliked.

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Originally Posted by 11Bravo

Brilliant, absolutely brilliant. RESPECT.


Myself, I do have trouble with dates, but... the calendar on my smart phone covers that gap very nicely. Single event, scheduled annually... QED.

Guess I'm just lazy, no doubt, but TOO much trouble to have multiple accounts. Sure, e-mail, a personal, another or 2 for signups, but forums... WeChat... Line... just too much trouble to keep track of. Is it THAT hard to stay within the rather generous lines... Guess I'm just guilty of the sin of hubris... but I stand by my posts, and I don't mind being known for them, liked or disliked.

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Who cares where you stand, do you feel intimidated? You shouldn’t be. Just for your info el Blocko I’ve now started up with an additional SW this morning. That makes four Thai’s on the go now lol. Luckily they’re all scattered around Sydney and don’t work together. Perhaps I should learn a few words?

Yes she’s Thai and even though we’d been chatting I completely forgot about her these last two months. Lo and behold she messaged me and she’s only 15 min away. I couldn’t believe my luck. I thought she’d gone OS but no. It’s just her bio that says Phuket. Anyway she’ll either percolate on the back burner or I’ll bring her up to the front of the stove.
Decisions decisions. One ML (guess who) and three WLs.

Hell even my mate was shocked when I sent him
her pic this morning. Perhaps times are tough and even though I am what I am I still seem to be fortunate. Better the devil she knows, right?

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Originally Posted by ColesBag

What a window licker.

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Perhaps you could get a job at AusPost.

[QUOTE=Spanky69;3062434]Maybe six banned? I cannot remember. There’s another four or so to be activated. Plus a couple sitting idle. The numbers are approximate as I’m too busy to really care.

It’s irrelevant. What’s more important is the fact I have three SW on the go plus a GF. They’re my number one concern. They’re all “finicky” and I cannot tar them with the same brush. Perhaps it’s the age difference, not physical as I’m in good shape but mental age difference. They are all younger by at least two decades. Maybe that’s a reason?

I’m too controlling and I’m told I overthink.

One mate told me I should date J girls as they are more subservient, which I have done previously but I do like Thai women for their nature, Anyway I’ve kinda bailed on activities with the guys as I don’t have the time and now I’m getting flak for that. It’s all about priorities and what makes you happy. Besides I’d rather spend time with women than a bunch of guys.

Getting back to forum profiles I know a core group of Aussie guys here run multiple accounts. They even go as far as masking their personality on each account so they present as different people. I can only hope it’s financially worth it.[/QUOTE

So you’ve had a dozen or so accounts on this forum.

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Originally Posted by Harp0

So you’ve had a dozen or so accounts on this forum.

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I’m not counting, you are. Some people count steps, other people count punts, I’ve stopped counting pretty much everything. No need. Why clutter your mind with useless information?

You're talking to yourself again vinnie

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Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou

You're talking to yourself again vinnie

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I only have two active accounts. Harpo isn’t one.

[QUOTE=dotcumdotinyou;3065070]You're talking to yourself again vinnie[/QUOTE

Im definitely not Vinnie/Spanky or whatever other names he uses.

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Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou

You're talking to yourself again vinnie[/QUOTE

Im definitely not Vinnie/Spanky or whatever other names he uses.

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To be be Vinnie or not to be Vinnie, that is the question!

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Originally Posted by Spanky69

I’m not counting, you are. Some people count steps, other people count punts, I’ve stopped counting pretty much everything. No need. Why clutter your mind with useless information?

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What’s really exhausting is you choose to write a whole paragraph just to say the word “no.”

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Originally Posted by Footballpunter

What’s really exhausting is you choose to write a whole paragraph just to say the word “no.”

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Rattling off a few extra words is neither here nor there in the overall scheme of things. I do because I can, others don’t because they cannot.

[QUOTE=Spanky69;3066642]

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Originally Posted by Harp0

To be be Vinnie or not to be Vinnie, that is the question!

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Yeah no thanks