Look it’s a gold digger’s paradise out here. So many guys dreaming, myself included. Just maintain your guard.
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"Some", (I'd say a FEW), but MY experience, you treat them as a person, that gets returned; they're a very good mirror. Most return the trust. Mutual understanding of what the relationship is. I'm straight with them, they're straight with me. Different MO here, but same demographics; I had no trouble with "I'm off to work at O-dark hundred so no morning wake-up, you sleep, I'll be back for an afternoon delight".
What's that saying? Do unto others...
Or maybe I've just experienced some unique subset...
Thanks 11Bravo. I think the saying is:" Do unto others..." but I get your drift...
Exactly right bro. WL's have told me that punters that treat them like shit, will often treat the punter the same way. You show respect, you'll get respect. So many girls have blacklisted certain punters for the way they treat them as well. That's why most shops have CCTV cameras with TV's in the waiting rooms so the girls can see who comes in.
THANKS for pointing out I should ALWAYS wear my reading glasses. I'll correct in the original, but I really do appreciate the error check. :smile:
Like I say, I always look at the other side of the coin, what if the situation were reversed? How would I feel?
As a punting buddy once pointed out, be thankful for the shitheads - they make us basic guys look great in her eyes.
Like you say, I'll risk another ancient saying: respect begets respect. :smile:
I feel sorry for any partner/BF of a WL/ML who is also a forum member.
Imagine reading all the reviews of your girl.
Can a girl have a normal life after this industry? I think it changes them forever.
Yeah man, it would totally suck reading review after review of your WL GF on the forum.
I have spoken to a few WL's about this and asked them what are their plans after they leave the industry and how they will go with the transition. All of them basically said once they leave, they will cut all ties with everyone and I mean everyone connected to their work. Regular customers, WL friends, pimps, shop managers etc, everyone will be cut from their life including you. Despite having a number of regulars, there is no way in hell they will be your friend once they leave the industry.
And I agree with Riff. They are changed for the rest of their lives. Once they have achieved what they are there to achieve (pay off debt as example), they will leave. And trust me, the brutal truth is that 99.9% of WL's hate the job.
Unfortunately this is true, I fell big time for a ML, she always stayed over at my city apartment, we were inseparable. But her husband pretty much called her home and that was it. Since then, she’s changed all her numbers and hasn’t reached out to me at all. I’m okay with this but I lent her some money and it would be nice to get it back. I know enough about her to find her but I want to respect her wishes to move on. (Plus I follow her husband on twitter lol)
Lent her money. I give money but never expect it back. There’s a difference.
An acquaintance attempted to pay out a matrimonial debt on a SW to a Chinese guy in Burwood. He married her so she could come into the country and she was stuck paying him every week till the debt was repaid.
A fight ensued in the main street of Burwood, over the amount to clear out her debt. The Chinese guy stupidly took on this acquaintance who is a thug and an ex boxer. It didn’t end well and the debt was written off. It wouldn’t have gone that far but he didn’t want to rescind the marriage either.
I laughed at the time because I told the acquaintance to date her in the first place. If I hadn’t of told him to go for her she’d still be paying off her debt and be married…
Yeah man, totally get it. Despite how much we get along with WL’s, reality is that once they have left the industry, that’s it. Even when us punters hang out with WL’s outside the shop, it’s only for their benefit as in companionship or to keep us as punters. I asked one if we could still be friends after she quits and despite being a long term regular, she was like “no, once I’ve finished, I will not be in contact with anyone” which is understandable.
If I was in a WL’s position, I would do the same thing. New number, delete social media and move on with life. WL’s know what punters are like so why would they continue being friends after they quit ? Just my perspective. And I’m the same. No way would I want to be their friend knowing full well their history.
Yep Soccerfan & Niceguy: once everyone's moved on, that's it. All over red rover...