Anyone uses punting as escapism from work?
Eg: going to a punt to forget about all work related trouble
I have a friend who blows 1/3 of his net after tax pay on punting
How do you stop this addiction from getting worse
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Anyone uses punting as escapism from work?
Eg: going to a punt to forget about all work related trouble
I have a friend who blows 1/3 of his net after tax pay on punting
How do you stop this addiction from getting worse
As Nietzsche said; alcohol is the opium of the masses. However he may have also agreed that punting is the opium of the male masses. He did think that sex was a great thing to partake in and perhaps contracted syphilis from it which killed him at 42. His point was alcohol makes it harder for people confront and address what makes them unhappy. Similarly, punting can be a form of delightful and expensive escapism from things that you want to avoid or make you unhappy.
Maybe your friend should spend the money and time he spends punting on looking for a better fitting or exciting job, or tackling the work issues that bother him.
Nietzsche would have frowned on regular punting as he probably thought it was better spending the money and time on addressing issues or seeking out a hot relationship, or on spicing up an existing relationship. The delights of a punting quickie are so short. In a proper relationship, even if not a long term one, there are other dimensions of sexual fulfilment that can be explored.
Dopamine levels can be low for a range of reasons including depression. Punting can induce a dopamine spike to counteract this but it is not a long term solution.
I’m 2 weeks and 1 day clean now. Pulled out 100 at the atm today but couldn’t think of a shop where I wanted to get a half an hour nhj so that particular desire has passed now. As the above poster said it’s like alcohol, you gotta taper off and then extinguish it. I’m sure at some stage I will fall off the wagon and punt again but for now able to keep the demon away. The more I punt the more I want to punt but the opposite is also true, the less I punt the less I want to punt. There’s no optimum level where I can find balance
there are a lot of advantages from punting, you get to fuck a lot of different younger looking women without any headaches of having a girlfriend
the disadvantage is you tend to spend so much money and risk getting an sti, and there is no mental fulfilment
the only solution is to go cold turkey and find a girlfriend, or multiple fuck buddies, the hunt to find one in person or online can be a great solution to this issue, because you know you need to invest in yourself first, going to the gym and getting fit, grooming, and any other self improvements,
Seek spiritual enlightenment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Michaelli2000
Interesting. When it comes to fulfilling our sexual desires we often chase it down the rabbit hole and end up not satisfied. We always want more.Quote:
Originally Posted by OLD SNAKE
From condom sex to bareback sex, then from any pussy to a really tight kitty cat, then progress to butthole, then to a man's butthole. And the next thing we know is that we're going nowhere.
Self-improvement is probably the best way to get rid of sex addictions and to also get a better job. The only reason some people are stuck in a job they hate doing is because of mental poverty. Thinking rich involves generosity without judgement - how many people working in the city blatantly ignores the line of homeless people begging as they walk to the train station eager to get home from work?
The homeless who beg for money and can't even afford to punt like us has the worst mental poverty - they see a $1 coin as if it's a piece of worthless rock.
If anyone can reach the level of self-improvement where they can see a $1 coin as if it's worth billions, and believe that by giving it away they can help countless others with their problems, they can live a life having a girlfriend/wife and have sex with other girls as well if they really want.
You're welcome to troll me for this. I'm speaking out of experience, although these days I'm slowly finding myself focusing on my partner rather than trying out new girls every other day.
I would of thought all punting spending would of been after tax, unless there's some salary sacrifice thing for brothels that I don't know of?Quote:
Originally Posted by Michaelli2000
Well, I can’t really tell if I’m addicted to punting or not. Been doing this for the last 27 years. Sometimes I’d really get in the mood and absolutely had to get one in. Those times, for sure the urge was there, but the real question is would I have become feral if I had been deprived? I would never know because nothing stood in my way. I always had a way to get what I wanted.
Anyway, here I am having gone completely dry for April. I don’t feel a thing! No extra urge to go punting. Instead I’m feeling extra horny for my wife!
Go figure!
Some guys actually treat WL like a lifeless doll, f; f and Nick off
Looks like they are venting out their frustration (work) via sex with WL
Imagine being a WL and getting stuck with rough guy for 1 hour, can they actual cancel the session if they think the punter is being too rough?
Watched documentary the other day that some WL is actually getting Trafficked into the country, sobering yeah?
That sounds like a monster child upbringing. Would be a disaster if you end up not getting what you wanted.Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
Oh wait, I remember now that we are in real life where absolutely no one will get what they want at the time and place they want it!
Get real mate. You're gloating on a story that you've made up thinking someone here is going to read it and think you're an awesome person. Your every word sound like a conman ready to build another FTX blunder.
And you're welcomed to argue about my views in regards to self-improvement if you think you have better methods to avoid addictions. Because your fake gloating isn't even helping with the issue discussed in this thread.
27 years? You probably enjoy a 2 income family.Quote:
Originally Posted by GoldfishMan
I did not punt in my entire adult life until 2 years ago. My wife didn't work and I had a young kid to raise and a mortgage.
I've called it an "early retirement" to run a small business and only now have the financial means and time to punt. Still I don't want to blow away my nest egg on MLs.
I think I'm beginning to get jaded with punting. The standard of the physical appearance of the MLs is pretty low. I speak this from a photographer who has shot models from Germany, France, Italy, Canada, USA and South America etc. We are lucky in Australia to have so many of them from so many countries.
Having it out with a stranger lacks the spark of doing it with someone we know intimately. Hence I normally stick with 2-3 regulars. Still it's transactional and mechanical sex. I can't escape the feeling of being a dirty old man.
I hope there's a light at the end of tunnel for me. I think I may actively embrace Zen Buddhism after being a non-practising Buddhist for so long. It has to be something higher, transcendental and spiritual for me to stop punting.
Another thing I'm not getting younger and I'm not sexually driven as in younger days.
Hey Sibon good to see your wife is back in your stories, but I thought you had 2 kids???
Lol, chill out bro. Don't take that sentence out of its context. Read the rest of what I wrote above it. I was only referring to punting. If I wanted to punt, I had a way to make an excuse to go punting even if I was married / had a partner.Quote:
Originally Posted by JohnJones
Everything else in life, yeah of course I had to go without what I wanted if I didn't have the means for it.
Real talk there! Self improvement is the only way but it must focus on the - physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. Unfortunately this is way too deep for some punters; so it's best to keep the dialogue shallow and superficial.Quote:
Originally Posted by JohnJones
Anyway some people punt to escape work, others to escape loveless and sexless marriages, others to escape stagnant relationships, some to escape a boring and monotonous life, some to make up for wasted younger years and lost opportunities, and others to get a fix of oxytocin and dopemine.
I see punting more as an escapism from life really, the shitty life that I'm stuck in, mostly stress and family related (sometimes work as well but mostly family), don't get me wrong I'm big on self-improvement, I look after myself physically, exercise + clean diet as best as I can, that's the part I have control of, but mentally...that's another story, there are some things in life you just can't escape from...
Prepare for the rush of google experts to get you through this, you should get advice from a professional not the numbnuts here.......Quote:
Originally Posted by l337dude
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Originally Posted by l337dude
Numbnut here to give you some advice. The best way to deal with mental health issues is to bottle it up inside and never talk about it. Trust me it's solid advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by warwick1
Even great jobs have long moments of sheer boredom while you wait for the system to catchup or someone to reply or payments to be made, etc... That's when I go for a punt... Pure escapism. beats doom scrolling, watching porn, etc. for me.
Yea believe it or not I never talk about it with people around me, most people probably wouldn't get it anyway, I just bottle it up and get on with life, no point complaining or being negative, just feels a bit lonely sometimes (don't we all), since the op mentioned the topic of escapism I thought I'd bring it up, that's honestly one of the main reason I punt, I believe deep down we all have our own inner demons, some worse than others...Quote:
Originally Posted by Meng
The same goes with porn addiction, I guess there's a fine line between escapism and addiction. Eventually this'll become an addiction if people don't control it or justifying they need to punt due to their circumstances.
Thanks for the great advice for Warwick1.Quote:
Originally Posted by Meng
Artarmon Mental Hospital should lock him up. :)
Strange thing to say from a creepy middle aged man who's whole aim in life is to post BS stories on the forum which by his own admission are "nonsensical ramblings",a total fruitloop living in Disneyland...........Quote:
Originally Posted by Sibon
Still fapping. Have a dead bedroom with the missus so I gotta fap to stay sane. I’m trying to exercise more but stamina is way down on when I was younger so there’s only so much I can do. Not gonna push heavy weights or run a marathon. Just lots of walks and clean eating to try to stay out of the depressive funk that inevitably comes from quitting punting.Quote:
Originally Posted by StartedAgain
Been watching some YouTube videos on stoicism and trying to practice gratitude for simple things in life like the beautiful country we live in, clean air, green parks, clean water, fresh produce. I’m having ups and downs at the moment but pushing through so far
You've said it very well.Quote:
Originally Posted by Potluck2.0
I'm also grateful of the opportunities this country has given me and my kid.
Well done. When you come out of it please tell us more so that we could learn from your journey.Quote:
Originally Posted by Potluck2.0
Out of punting we could achieve so much in life.