When someone wants you to wait for them, standing the test of time means that they want you to be patient and let the love grow within because they believe that the more they miss a person, the more infatuated they'll become and meeting after a certain amount of time away from each other becomes "orgasmic".

The problem is that this ends up becoming an issue where separation becomes imminent. What causes the separation? Not enough communication, not given something to remember about (unfortunately "good sex" isn't enough as other girls can provide the same type of stimulation) and not sharing intimate details equally.

Some "long distance" couples normally do certain unique things to make their relationship work - calls/txt privately, giving each other "souvenirs" (some guys keep their partner's underwear, believe it or not), photos together, exchanging selfies once in a while etc. Without any of that, most long distance relationships normally dissolve as the lack of intimacy turns into resentment.

It's important to check your relationship priorities - are you in a relationship just for procreation or are you learning to accept yourself by accepting your partner? The psychological reasons for monogamous sex is to have your partner validate you as a person - the more he/she loves every physical and mental aspects of you, the more validated and accepted you feel and this brings out the "orgasmic" feeling of love that many couples are striving for. Once you stop validating one or more aspects of your partner, the relationship is at the brink of dissolving. This is why cheating mostly ends up with breakups or divorce because the gf/wife feels invalidated.

Many modern women were told to "date like a man" - play hard to get, have many options and invalidate men so that they simp. Unfortunately this only makes things worse. A man who breaks out of his simping shell will start to realise that the girl he's been working hard to impress just isn't going to change - like a mamasan who shortchanges her customers and does a bait+switch on them, she will never change her ways. She might disappear from the industry but later on she will reappear and do the exact same thing. The guy who worked hard trying to get the attention of a certain girl will eventually stop and move on if she doesn't reciprocate enough.

When guys stop simping, it doesn't mean that they totally resent the girl they were chasing. They do hope that the girl changes and apologises for her mistake so that they can resume the relationship. But when they stop simping there's normally a small timeframe he will wait before he finally moves on and forgets about her - for some it could be months, the rest could be weeks. If the girl is afraid of losing him, she should make her move within weeks to rectify her mistakes and drop her ego. Using the example of a gf/wife initiating a breakup/divorce out of an affair, guys feel cheated when their feelings aren't reciprocated by their partners.

My conclusion to this rant - women should learn to accept themselves more. They should start thinking that they're worthy of a man with the same level of physical and mental attractiveness. By thinking themselves worthy and accepting themselves more they are capable of reciprocating feelings rather than make guys chase after their affection. Learn to apologize and make up for any past mistakes. Act fast, as if they might die tomorrow and not get second chances. Give the person they're infatuated with what they want - a phone call, a text message, a selfie, a pair of underwear to keep, whatever - as long as it makes him feel like he's dating a mature lady not a toddler/loli. And stop being vague about certain topics - if there's a timeframe she wants him to wait for before reuniting physically, let him know when exactly. If women don't do all of these things they will regret losing the person they love out of their own faults.