Quote Originally Posted by andrewv View Post
Wives/partners will only catch you when you drop your guard and become complacent. Also, when you develop a regular routine like going to the same shop on the same day every week or parking your car at the same spot.

From all the stories I've heard over the last 30 years, a handful of men got caught when their wives' friends saw them walking near a massage/brothel shop. Then the wife gets a call saying "I saw your husband near Westfield Parramatta this afternoon. He didn't notice me. But I thought he hates going to shopping malls."

Another man I worked with got caught when his wife discovered carpet fluff stuck to his socks. He had a regular fling with a co-worker, and he used to go to her place (carpet on the floor).

In addition to the comments above about apps and browsers, always delete your browser history when you finish browsing any websites.

As for accidentally coming across your favourite WL/ML at the shops while you have your wife with you, simply don't make eye contact, nod or smile. WL/ML themselves do not wish to be identified or be associated with their customers outside work.

I've left the best till last: I know a man who forgot to wear his Apple Watch to work. His wife got home before him and saw it. She decided to scroll through it and an expensive divorce (he lost 75% of everything) ended that marriage.

Apple Watches are very dangerous.... they sync with your iPhone, Mac, iPad, etc.

You probably heard of the Indian wife on a flight with her husband to a holiday destination. He fell asleep, she unlocked his iPhone using his sleeping face. That too ended up badly. I think the newspaper article is still online.
Not only Apple devices. If you have an Android tablet at home and use it with the same Google account as on your phone, any reminders and appointments you create on either device will flash up on the other when it's near the appointment time.
All your photos and videos will also sync.

My solution to this problem is I use my own "code" when I need to save a reminder for punting or any rendezvous that the SO might not approve of. Something like "appointment with accountant" instead of "Ginza booking for Coco", for example.

I also do the same thing with contacts of girls including WLs/MLs/hookups/shops. I put their real names (ie the names that I'll actually call them by) but I make it look like a work contact or a harmless business and add a "prefix" to obfuscate it. This way I don't have to remember who it is on that contact, yet nobody will know who it really is except me.