I’ve been punting for a while now and more recently I’m starting to come across more and more WLs looking uncomfortable, in pain, or saying “it’s too big, it hurts” during a session and having to stop.

Personally I don’t think I’m that large, but even some of the ladies who’ve been around for years and are cornerstones of the Sydney scene have told me I’m “a bit too large to handle.”

Just last night I was with a WL (no names) who’s known for taking the bigger guys and enjoying it. She came out with “has anyone told you that you’re big? I’ll try but I can’t promise.” And surprise surprise, we had to stop halfway through the session.

Some of you might say if she’s uncomfortable and in pain that’s her problem and she just has to take it as it is — I’m a paying customer, she’s been paid for her time, that’s her job, just pound away.

Or go complain to the boss and ask for a refund or another girl.

The thing is, I don’t think it’s right to bang away on some poor girl who’s telling you to stop because she’s in pain, or she looks like she’s not enjoying it or about to cry. That’s a complete turn-off for me. Some of you might be into that sort of thing. Call me soft, but if someone asks me to stop, I stop. Otherwise is that still rape? Not having consent even after a financial transaction?

Going and telling the boss — been there, done that. In the end it always turns out to be one of three things:

• I’m told it’s not their problem and I should have taken it up with the girl, so no refund (even after explaining she was in pain and asked me to stop).

• “Just go back and finish your time with her even if she’s in pain. That’s her job.”

• Or I turn around and say “I’m not big, it’s you — you’re too small,” then walk out and never see that girl or that shop again.

What would you do or have done in this situation?