things like stability in the house, and maybe a kid to continue your genetics. but in australia, its just plain rude that marriage takes half of your income and more.. depending on how things go.

I enjoy most of my SO and we have been living together for 6 years, only recently i started to experiment on what i was missing out on and yep, i'm SOOO was missing out :'(. But life is about the ups and downs. Should i have called off the wedding, yep, but its too late now. If the sex was there, i may not go looking elsewhere but sadly it seems marriage cuts whatever supply there was to nil or very little, so thats why i look elsewhere.

For me, i'm under 30 and i think that is still too soon.

Its also interesting that in my SO's family, there is males related to her that have a mistress (known to the rest of the family) as well as a wife and things she says just seem so strange.