first time reading this thread and tbh it's quite interesting
I have always heard those sugar babies saying "no intimacy" but from what lostinblonde said, it seems these girls are always up for sex, it's just another form of money in exchange for sex.
I can relate as I've been in similar situation where I wonder about what I want the most in my life and what I should look for, but I've got out of that situation.
my advice is to "have a clear goal" and work towards it, nothing else matters, the goal being your career, or your family, or your love life, pick one and go for it, everything else along the way can't interfere.
I find it interesting to hear about your experience with blonde/caucasian girls, wonder how it works out for asian guys with caucasian girls.