Banter is in the eye of the beholder. This is banter. No explanations needed, no apologies needed. You disagree with a post, don't apologize, just make your case (or not). Don't take to heart everything you read on the net; take everything with a large grain of salt. Yours is a sad story, but that's life. Look on the bright side: you're here, any number of people aren't. Bit of advice - forum friends are no replacement for the real thing - just ask your forum friends to come over and help you move a piano... Don't confuse punting with real relationships, punting is just P4P sex, nothing more. Don't let any melancholy get you down. As we say, "Two tears in a bucket, if that don't fill it, motherf*ck it".
MY experience, punting here is expensive, the advantage is there is a variety of nationalities to choose from. Post your experiences and lessons learned, contribute (or not, but contributing helps you engage). Follow the user guide, read for actionable intel here, and you'll have more good punts than bad. And even a bad punt makes a good war story; that's the difference between a fairy tale and a war story. A fairy tale starts out "Once upon a time"'; a war story starts out "Shit, I was there".'
Good luck.
For people that want to try to see ghosts, take the Q station ghost tour. Being suggestable helps, I'm not, but interesting to see the facilities by night, especially if it's a full moon.