Reply With QuoteErr growing attached to MLs? Ahh no. That's why we pic who we fuck with our money. Ive only repeated visits once in my long career of punting. I'm not there to be their friend.
Well this was kind of unexpected. I read the initial one where you went wild and thought 'great, another fuckwit who is abusing the ML's, no wonder when you're the last customer of the day they just curl up on your chest and close their eyes'...
But the background makes sense. And there's a lot of solid advice. Find a ML/escort that you can get your freak on with. Be nice and respectful to the others. Don't be a cunt.
First ML I went to ever, was an awesome experience. Older woman, great tits, awesome TT, great conversation. When I went to book back in, she said no. I was a bit taken aback, so asked why. She said she wasn't comfortable with the conversation we had (had no indication at the time, whatsoever). Was bummed because it was so damned good. But moved on, found better (and a whole lot more that were worse!!!). I like to chat to some of them, they all have a story and some of them like to share it. It's nice. But like others have said, you're there for half an hour, an hour. But don't confuse physical with intimacy. If you want intimacy, get a girlfriend. Then you're back to square one. If you just want physical touch and a different hand on your cock, punt away.
Above all else... Have fun sampling the very large menu out there!
Err growing attached to MLs? Ahh no. That's why we pic who we fuck with our money. Ive only repeated visits once in my long career of punting. I'm not there to be their friend.
Thanks for sharing the experience. The ML I lost is a total gem in my eyes. Not sure how long it will take to find another ML that matches her as I am quite picky in my taste. Will keep trial and error…Originally Posted by Cmnothingelse
It seems like you've got over your little brain attack already. That all makes perfect sense– unless you're lying and are really inescapably emotionally tethered to this ML. No shame in that though. Happens all the time. Why wouldn't it? A certain stoicism might register further on down the line. Or maybe you're just an eternal softy. Everything is temporary. She'll probably end up leaving sooner or later anyway (at least I'd hope so). Just be happy that you're free of her– though it looks like you've already concluded this. Because let's be honest, regulars are kind of burdens. Happy sampling!
I know what you are going through mate. I've been there.
How long was she was your "regular"?
Best advice I can offer along with everything else already suggested is to avoid the urge of going back to that shop where you will hold onto the memories and times you had with that ML.
Keep in mind the longer these girls work in this industry the harder they become. They may start out sweet and can stay that way but with a harder edge where all they care about is the next dick through the door and the $$$
It's a service industry where they are paid by the hour. There can be some exceptions that do care about you as a person but very few.
Biggest thing to remember is always treat the girls with respect and before doing anything different check that they are ok with it or you get any sense they are incompatible stop.
Don't restrict yourself to one lady either. Lots out there with different quirks and fun to be had.
After my own experience I was determined to never get too attached to a ML again.
You know what? I'm having more fun, relaxed and girls notice and the service I get is awesome. Also get to see some outside which never would have happened when I had a false sense of loyalty to one ML.
Good luck mate
Thanks mate for the good advice. She’s a new regular and I just visited her for a couple of weeks. I was visiting another girl regularly previously, who’s also very attractive. I cancelled my regular visits to her to see the new one because I felt she can offer and satisfy me more. And this is the hardest part because I lost her suddenly when my feelings towards her were still very fresh and intense, which is totally different from the experience of losing a regular ML after seeing her for a long time.
It’s actually my doctor’s advice to visit one or two MLs regularly to keep up a relatively normal sex life. It really felt this way when nothing happened. But when it broke, it’s a totally different feeling. Maybe a much better way is to keep seeing 2 to 3 ML regularly, so when anything happens to one, there are still others to turn to. However, even when there are 2 to 3 regulars, there will only be 1 favorite among them. This is an unfortunate truth.
Great advice. It's a shame but so true with regards to "Keep in mind the longer these girls work in this industry the harder they become. They may start out sweet and can stay that way but with a harder edge where all they care about is the next dick through the door and the $$$"
Just like doctors and nurses they become hardened to illness and death. Same with MLs with sex and love
"Maybe a much better way is to keep seeing 2 to 3 ML regularly, so when anything happens to one, there are still others to turn to. However, even when there are 2 to 3 regulars, there will only be 1 favorite among them. This is an unfortunate truth."
There you go mate
Exactly right, have 3 or even 4 regulars all with different styles or service levels.
Of course we have our favourite but as you say if it doesn't work with one you aren't starting all over again
You do get favourites because after a few visits they trust you more and might allow more action. But don’t get too attached!
Thanks mate. I feel I have found a new regular now. But still need time to build rapport.
What were the "unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable" that you did?
The key is staying self-aware. If you can enjoy the moment without confusing it for something deeper, there’s no harm. But once you start thinking you’re “different” or that she might make an exception for you — that’s when it gets dangerous.
Catching feelings for an ML or thinking you’re special to her is honestly just foolish. The truth is, for most clients, if you weren’t paying at the massage shop, these girls wouldn’t even look at you.
Yep, obsessed with a regular is not good. She probably does more with the next guy.
Couldn't agree more, the nicer you are to them, the more of a punk they think you are and the more bullshit they try to pull.
Ive fallen into the trap of being nice regular, thinking it would be appreciated, the girl who was an excited little sex kitten months ago, drifted into expecting me to care about her problems and moods, once told me she was tired didn't feel like doing too much today.
I'll love to have a regular who kept same energy long term, but for me it's always ended the same, her many months later taking me for granted and service effort slowly declining, so true the randoms coming through the door end up getting it better.
My experience is a little different. My regular ML provides amazing extras for her regulars. This has been proven by her other regulars on this forum. She told me once that she’s not doing this to everybody, which I honestly do not believe. At the same time, she also mentioned that I am not special to her when I asked her if I am a little special which I don’t care as long as the service is good. Yes. Sometimes she would say “I am tired” at the beginning. I think she’s being honest. She’s a human being, not a machine. We would lie down to each other and I would give her a little massage in an erotic way. I think the time spent with regular ML is very relaxing. I don’t expect each session to be memorable. My regular ML had been very generous to her regulars including me. She would actually allow me to go a little wild on her as long as it’s still within her accepted boundaries. She would definitely not do this to a random walk-in or first time customer.
Ain't that the truth brother.
We've all been there.
Appreciation of having you as a regular only lasts so long.
Soon enough things gradually change.
They start getting comfortable — not in a good way — in a taking-you-for-granted kind of way. You're no longer the priority. You're the “regular,” which somehow turns into “they'll understand".
New clients? They get all the effort, all the perks, the version of service you used to get.
And when you set a boundary, suddenly you're the problem. That’s the mind game — guilt-tripping, emotional hooks, pretending it’s still mutual when it’s not. But deep down, you know when something’s shifted from respect to convenience.
So yeah, cutting that off when you feel the imbalance, that’s not harsh. It’s protecting your time, energy, and value. You're not chasing validation anymore. You're just done with playing the fool.
Nothing wrong with moving on to the next “pretty thing,” so long as you’re doing it on your terms.
Very different to the first post
And hard to follow the bouncing ball too.
Not sure anyone here, inc me, is qualified to provide professional or semi- professional advice/ help to Wineglass. The answers are not on this forum and one would suspect we all realise that
Thanks guys. The post is now outdated. All the suggestions well deserve all due respect. I am just saying that now I am enjoying the service of my regular ML, whom I actually visited long before I saw the one I had issue with. That ML has recently left the industry, so I am now relieved. Meanwhile, my sessions with my regular are getting better and better.
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