Fails

[ReachAroundagain]

Just paid for services for the first time in my life last night

38 years old. Out of a divorce after 15 year marriage though haven't had sex for over 2 years now

First went to a massage place 161 chatswood. Paid for the hour. There was almost zero teasing or buildup. After half an hour just asks me to flip and starts giving me a HJ. She was cute but I couldn't get across the line. Eventually she gives up and I was a bit over it. Massage was decent but I was hoping there'd be more teasing or getting close to me etc to build the anticipation etc.

Ended up going home having another shower then was still horny so went to 78a Artarmon brothel. Girl was cute, gave me bbbj which was great but then she eventually lied down wanted me to fk her but I ended up going soft fairly quickly even in different positions. Couldn't get close to the finish line. Ended up her just giving me a massage till the time was up

So all up spent like 300 and basically got 2 massages out of it. Not the girls fault. Just an epic fail cause once it started happening again at 78a Artarmon and me realising I wasn't going to cum I ended up just getting in my own head and it wasn't really enjoyable at all

So frustrating as when I was married I'd often be a 1 minute man, not all the time. But other times if I'd been wanking too much I couldn't come during sex either. Now it's been over 2 years of me solely wanking and I guess the sensations just aren't the same.

Epic fail. Now I hope after all that I don't pick up some disease to really top it off


Anyway. Needed to get this off my chest. Hope others sessions were more successful

Maybe I'll hold off wanking for the next week and try again on Friday night at the Chatswood 161

[11Bravo]

Seems you're your own worst enemy. I'd suggest a bit more thought and planning. First and foremost, remember, it's just sex. There's no emotional relationship.

1. What are you really after? You just want to fuck someone? You want the tactile sensations, a slow build to release? And what release? Would an edging HJ be enough? B2B with Spanish enough? BJ enough? Or FS?

2. You want a SYT or a skilled pro?

3. Take some time here to read, check the AR's. Check the rosters, shop info threads. Does the shop have a website? Does it advertise on Locanto? Roster on https://www.xpagesforum.com/shop-list? Yea, I know, photos can be bogus, shopped, whatever. Summerville, Pink Lotus, IMO, have decent photos. Find someone you find attractive.
If tactile sensations would be satisfactory for now, I'd suggest YoYo's edging. Unfortunately, she's on holiday until early Oct. . Read the thread (yea, start back 10 pages, then read).
https://www.aus99forum.com/showthrea...=1#post3660993


Mimi@Croydon is another. Not FS, but nuru, she is skilled. Not a SYT, but skilled professional, you betcha. https://www.aus99forum.com/showthrea...9-Nuru-Massage
https://www.aus99forum.com/showthrea...e-hype-is-real
https://www.locanto.com.au/croydon-n...ROM-JAPAN.html


Go to Summerville Massage, Pyrmont. Talk to Summer, the mamasan. Tell her what you're looking for. Or Pink Lotus, West Ryde. Talk to Sophia. LSM Croydon. Kings Massage, Hurstville. Check out the AR's, rosters.
Search here:
https://www.aus99forum.com/showthrea...=1#post2805733
Yes, takes some homework.

In an RnT, during the massage, chat with the girl. Don't be shy, tell her what you're looking for. Same in a brothel. They're not mind readers. In an RnT especially, just relax and enjoy. Think of it as an adventure, enjoy the trip, don't concentrate on the destination.

Good luck.

[bung72]

Maybe 1 hour sessions are too long for you too.... Why not 1/2hr FS, and grab some viagra.....

[fixatedperson]

My first time was a fail. Couldn't keep it up. I kept extending the time. Eventually she finished me off with a HJ.

Since then I have fucked a fair number of girls including doubles and multiple cumshots so I would say nervousness was the cause.

[AGS1980]

Just paid for services for the first time in my life last night

38 years old. Out of a divorce after 15 year marriage though haven't had sex for over 2 years now

First went to a massage place 161 chatswood. Paid for the hour. There was almost zero teasing or buildup. After half an hour just asks me to flip and starts giving me a HJ. She was cute but I couldn't get across the line. Eventually she gives up and I was a bit over it. Massage was decent but I was hoping there'd be more teasing or getting close to me etc to build the anticipation etc.

Ended up going home having another shower then was still horny so went to 78a Artarmon brothel. Girl was cute, gave me bbbj which was great but then she eventually lied down wanted me to fk her but I ended up going soft fairly quickly even in different positions. Couldn't get close to the finish line. Ended up her just giving me a massage till the time was up

So all up spent like 300 and basically got 2 massages out of it. Not the girls fault. Just an epic fail cause once it started happening again at 78a Artarmon and me realising I wasn't going to cum I ended up just getting in my own head and it wasn't really enjoyable at all

So frustrating as when I was married I'd often be a 1 minute man, not all the time. But other times if I'd been wanking too much I couldn't come during sex either. Now it's been over 2 years of me solely wanking and I guess the sensations just aren't the same.

Epic fail. Now I hope after all that I don't pick up some disease to really top it off


Anyway. Needed to get this off my chest. Hope others sessions were more successful

Maybe I'll hold off wanking for the next week and try again on Friday night at the Chatswood 161

Hey mate, disappointing you couldn’t get over the line on both occasions.

Not that I want to speculate, but perhaps there could be underlying matters regarding your inability to get over the line. What I mean by that is as you stated, you’ve only just come out of a long term relationship, haven’t had sex for quite a period of time and you might have a bunch of stuff happening in the background which can cause added stress.

Not to insinuate you’re in a similar situation previously to myself, but mental health can also impact you in these situations as I have experienced in the past. Thankfully I’m managing that aspect of my life through various means including talking to someone along with medication to assist 😉

All I’m saying dude, is don’t put too much pressure on yourself and if what I just mentioned could be the case, then reach out to a either a friend to chat, or other alternatives for support. Fingers crossed it’s purely a minor hiccup having recently separated.

All the best mate.

[trampslikeus55]

Expectations is what got in your way. Life has been tough on you this past period and you felt that you could change things around. Nothing wrong with the idea. Work hard this week and next weekend go one morning for a massage. Pick a low key shop in Artarmon. Have zero thoughts other than a massage and see where it takes you. Results will happen and building routines will take you to along the road. Punting may not be your long term future. Good luck 😎

[CFH]

yep, what can i say? it happens.
next time will probably be better.

[justincase]

You can’t hit it off instantly with an unknown woman unless you prepare yourself mentally to be able to do just that.

For starters are you even horny before you attend the shop or do you expect them to make you horny whilst on the massage bed?

Why not decide you’re going for a punt in a few days time and think about it sexually and how good it’s going to be. Think about it a lot.

Check out her online pics if they’re available and read some reviews on her. Then decide if she’s the right girl/nationality for you.

You have to be in the right psyche before you go in, all positives no negatives. Then after success happens go again in a few days time and make it a positive reinforcement.

[neveragain]

Get some viagra mate. If you've been faithful during your 15 year marriage I assume you haven't fucked with a condom for 15 years right? So now you're fucking with them again get some viagra to stay hard with the reduced sensation

[AGS1980]

Expectations is what got in your way. Life has been tough on you this past period and you felt that you could change things around. Nothing wrong with the idea. Work hard this week and next weekend go one morning for a massage. Pick a low key shop in Artarmon. Have zero thoughts other than a massage and see where it takes you. Results will happen and building routines will take you to along the road. Punting may not be your long term future. Good luck 😎

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.

[Wlso]

Welcome to the forum mate and good on you for taking the time to share your thoughts. No shame in that and better to sound board your experience than to feed into anymore anxiety. As others have said, it sounds like youÂ’re caught up in your thoughts and it takes time to find regulars that play into your needs/expectations. Energy is reciprocated in this game so bat the nerves away and treat it like a social outing. A good question youÂ’ve posed and something IÂ’ve experienced a few times myself - is it always a dud punt if you donÂ’t finish? Sure, if the ML/WL isnÂ’t to your taste, but when you genuinely click with the girl thatÂ’s not always the case. Lately IÂ’ve left satisfied even without a finish. All a by product of letting yourself actually relax and putting a little effort into getting to know the girl.

[keebab]

Finishing for blokes is just as much mental as it is physical. I'll make an assumption that throughout your previous dead bedroom, any time you did have any fun, you were lazer focused on making sure she had a good time as opposed to yourself. That's a pretty big mental hurdle for most blokes.

Now you're punting with not only the awkwardness of the situation, but a timer added into the mix and probably adding pressure to perform as well. Its only natural that your rhythm is affected. Just remember that you're there paying for a service. It won't be perfect, but if you relax and enjoy yourself, you'll get what you ultimately pay for.

You're not there to perform and you're not obligated to please anyone but yourself. Don't be a dick, and have fun.

[keebab]

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.

Check out Artarmon90, great value shop.

[CharlieM]

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.

Did I miss something? Which Mimi are we talking about?

[Bman619]

Practice makes for a perfect stranger boner, keep trying and you'll eventually feel comfortable enough to achieve it.

[ReachAroundagain]

Wow thanks a lot for all the replies and support. Makes me feel heaps better about it all though today I sort of laughed it all off and went for a walk in the sun

Definitely a few things going on

Mentally I'm a bit shot. Miss my kids when I'm not with them and when I masturbate even with porn my mind still goes back to my ex and I a lot of the time. Which I know is messed up and not something I try to do. Part of the reason I tried to move on and go and see someone.

Dont really have a friendship circle outside old friends who have all moved away and one of my best friends who died unexpectedly from an accident earlier this year. Most of my social life was with my ex etc

So I think I was missing the connection more than the fkng itself I think.

And yeah first time with a condom in 15 odd years. My penis isn't particularly long but it is a bit thicker than average so I always used slightly larger condoms but maybe the one she used was just normal size too as i felt almost nothing

I think maybe fs isn't for me. It seemed a bit too mechanical for what I'm looking for. Maybe later on when I'm more comfortable with it all

Next time I think I'll just abstain from masturbating for a week or so and try again with a massage hj and try and find someone through the recommendations here who is great at edging, that would be great

Thanks again for all the advice I really appreciate it. Hope everyone had a good weekend

[John11]

Take some meds and find girls who can relax you and turn you on - they do exist

[ColesBag]

Wow thanks a lot for all the replies and support. Makes me feel heaps better about it all though today I sort of laughed it all off and went for a walk in the sun

Definitely a few things going on

Mentally I'm a bit shot. Miss my kids when I'm not with them and when I masturbate even with porn my mind still goes back to my ex and I a lot of the time. Which I know is messed up and not something I try to do. Part of the reason I tried to move on and go and see someone.

Dont really have a friendship circle outside old friends who have all moved away and one of my best friends who died unexpectedly from an accident earlier this year. Most of my social life was with my ex etc

So I think I was missing the connection more than the fkng itself I think.

And yeah first time with a condom in 15 odd years. My penis isn't particularly long but it is a bit thicker than average so I always used slightly larger condoms but maybe the one she used was just normal size too as i felt almost nothing

I think maybe fs isn't for me. It seemed a bit too mechanical for what I'm looking for. Maybe later on when I'm more comfortable with it all

Next time I think I'll just abstain from masturbating for a week or so and try again with a massage hj and try and find someone through the recommendations here who is great at edging, that would be great

Thanks again for all the advice I really appreciate it. Hope everyone had a good weekend

Ease your way into it. Divorce is one of the biggest mind fucks of a mans life and lack of sex during the marriage is a mind fuck all in itself. Point being that we're not robots and just can't flip a switch and get back on the fuck trolley after sustained emotional trauma and lack of intimacy. It'll come ( literally ) but give it time and yeah like someone said go see Mimi at Croydon, a true professional.