Guys In Committed Relationships

[tezzaman18]

It's a myth. I even posed this to my Specialist ......... he politely grinned . I'm comfortable to let him know I punt. LoL! LoL!

Im more on the health route.

Blowjob a day keeps the prostate cancer away.

[andrewv]

The comforting news is you are not alone in that situation, although your wife is a bit young to be switching off the sex. It gets much worse when they are in their late-40/early-50s, just ask some of the boys here. It's why men come to this forum and share experiences.

What is sad is in most cases we men are not able to talk about it with our women in a way that would not become warfare.
I've not found why that is. Why can't men be able to have a gentle chat with their wives/partners and explain their needs for regular sex, then come to an agreement about how to meet each other's needs. If anyone managed to do this, please do share the experience!!!!

Married and wife is young, 34 and im 43.

Shes just not into it these days and its frustrating but we got a little guy so i find ways to get by. Previously my punts like pokie wins, poker wins etc id just give her the money as its free money sort of. Nowadays as shes not putting out ive stopped winning ahahahaha and just keep those funds to get myself sorted.

I mean, its bloody frustrating. They don't want to put out but than expect you to not look elsewhere.

Anyone else in the same boat and wanna share their dilemmas 

[1inchguy]

Sorry to say, that is a myth for many of us 😎

shhh dont let the ladies know.
seriously its for health reasons!

[keebab]

Married and wife is young, 34 and im 43.

Shes just not into it these days and its frustrating but we got a little guy so i find ways to get by. Previously my punts like pokie wins, poker wins etc id just give her the money as its free money sort of. Nowadays as shes not putting out ive stopped winning ahahahaha and just keep those funds to get myself sorted.

I mean, its bloody frustrating. They don't want to put out but than expect you to not look elsewhere.

Anyone else in the same boat and wanna share their dilemmas ��

I get your frustration and my advice is simple. It will not get better if you do nothing.

Punting provides you with a fun and simple alternative to get your needs met and release some dopamine but it won't bring you closer to your wife.

Unfortunately, maintaining sexual attraction in a long term relationship is hard and requires a few things:
1. She has to know that other people find you fuckable. You do this by being fit, charismatic and capable in your circle of friends. Her friends should be jealous of her.
2. You have to build routines around fucking. Date nights, steak and bj night, whatever is fun for you both and sets a mood. Your job is to keep this fun, fulfilling and organised on a weekly basis as women are fucking lazy.
3. She has to feel sexy and desired. Women thrive on attention and validation. If she's getting that from coworkers, gym buddies, and randoms on the internet instead of you. That's a big problem. Show her off, remind her that she's chosen. Fuck her well.

[trampslikeus55]

shhh dont let the ladies know.
seriously its for health reasons!

Ok. Got it. The secret is safe. 👍

[Linq]

Your mistake was marrying someone with that large of an age gap.

She's cheating on you and no longer (if she had ever) found you attractive.

She's just in the marriage to keep up appearances because it's easier than a divorce.

So go punt and just don't make it obvious to her. She doesn't actually care so long as you don't make it obvious. Welcome to life of those who marry when they shouldn't. It fizzled out but because you're married and likely have kids, you're stuck with this arrangement.

Luckily i dislike large age gaps so I'll never end up like those people who married based off physical appearance. If you wanted an eye candy you should've kept it casual the whole time.

But Op, you're one of the better ones. Everyone here is cheating on their wives with no remorse, not that it matters

[Linq]

I get your frustration and my advice is simple. It will not get better if you do nothing.

Punting provides you with a fun and simple alternative to get your needs met and release some dopamine but it won't bring you closer to your wife.

Unfortunately, maintaining sexual attraction in a long term relationship is hard and requires a few things:
1. She has to know that other people find you fuckable. You do this by being fit, charismatic and capable in your circle of friends. Her friends should be jealous of her.
2. You have to build routines around fucking. Date nights, steak and bj night, whatever is fun for you both and sets a mood. Your job is to keep this fun, fulfilling and organised on a weekly basis as women are fucking lazy.
3. She has to feel sexy and desired. Women thrive on attention and validation. If she's getting that from coworkers, gym buddies, and randoms on the internet instead of you. That's a big problem. Show her off, remind her that she's chosen. Fuck her well.

That advice is only valid if she still finds op attractive. The fact she doesn't want to have sex (with him) answers the question.

[Double_Adapter]

The biology of sex

The biology of sex is that someone is entering and someone being entered....or put another way; someone’s doing the knocking and someone’s opening the door. It don't get any fucken simpler than that!

Allowing entrance into one's body is like a locked box and key.
If a key can open multiple boxes then it's considered a master key. Plenty of blokes here believe they're a master key of sorts.

If a box can be opened by many keys, the box is considered low value and/or low quality. See Chad posts for a more detailed explanation.

If a key can only open one box, it represents an exclusive one-to-one pairing with tightly restricted access. Ask any of the happily married blokes.

If the lock is rusty and fucked you don't keep jamming the same key into it but you replace the box - ask any of the divorced and re-married blokes.

But if box is perfectly fine and it's the key that's broken, you don't throw out a good box...you find an alternative key; and that's when cuckolding comes into its own.

[Djuchina]

xconceptx - do you get at home any action at all?

[tezzaman18]

A very sensitive issue. Best to get help from a qualified mental health professional .You would require a third party that would know how to handle the OP and his wife's circumstances. I believe they are called a relationship psychologist.

No offence but I would totally disregard Linq's advice. He is only a young fella , probably still single and unmarried with no young kids. Way out of his depth. LoL! LoL!

The comforting news is you are not alone in that situation, although your wife is a bit young to be switching off the sex. It gets much worse when they are in their late-40/early-50s, just ask some of the boys here. It's why men come to this forum and share experiences.

What is sad is in most cases we men are not able to talk about it with our women in a way that would not become warfare.
I've not found why that is. Why can't men be able to have a gentle chat with their wives/partners and explain their needs for regular sex, then come to an agreement about how to meet each other's needs. If anyone managed to do this, please do share the experience!!!!

[de69]

Married and wife is young, 34 and im 43.

Shes just not into it these days and its frustrating but we got a little guy so i find ways to get by. Previously my punts like pokie wins, poker wins etc id just give her the money as its free money sort of. Nowadays as shes not putting out ive stopped winning ahahahaha and just keep those funds to get myself sorted.

I mean, its bloody frustrating. They don't want to put out but than expect you to not look elsewhere.

Anyone else in the same boat and wanna share their dilemmas 😉

Winnings from poker is the best way to go punt without her getting suss ur bank account lol just make sure you dont come home smelling like youve been to the shop or she finds condoms in u clothes or you forget to delete the shop location on ur GPS and get a burner phone... if ur thinking about cheating or got the urge to punt and frustrated with the missus you've already taken the hardest step lol

[Rodrigo]

Shame shame shame!

[keebab]

That advice is only valid if she still finds op attractive. The fact she doesn't want to have sex (with him) answers the question.

Its official then. Linq says you should just get fat and give up.

Enjoy!

[Jaded69]

Hell yeah !

That's why it's more entertaining having sex with milfs boys !

They just enjoy cocks & the more of them the better. In a session or through out a day.
Hence if you find the right one Anything Goes 🥳😉😉 & bring a mate o Spit roast her or give her the DP or Ultimate adventure of Air tight her holes & she go wild !

[xconcepx]

100% spot on there mate.

As calm as i am about the topic it always ends with 'well thats me, dont like it than walk!' than i get the sex isn't everything speech everytime.

Yeah, im so over it. Nowadays i just get myself sorted how i need to do so, than move on. She wants a divorce so be it but I can't be stuffed with all the formalities so just do what i need to enjoy life for myself and the little guy these days (as in son, not the other little guy ahahahahah)

Work long hours, early starts (3am), still clean and do housr chores when i get home, still spoil her (well just recently toned it down heaps), always going out and when we do do it, shes always getting off first. Anyway, in a nutshell, ive done my bit and hey, if im not appreciated ill just get myself sorted elsewhere and whatever happens happens.......

[xconcepx]

Nah been punting for years before meeting her but toned it down to almost non existent, and now just picked it up again. But yeah, know all the dos and don'ts but thanks for sharing too 😉😊

[xconcepx]

Yeah but it's like once in a blue moon and even than its starfish mode bro, i get her off than i do my thing than thats it. No oral for me, nothing.... May as well do a doll lmao

[xconcepx]

9 years is hardly that big a gap but definitely not cheating. Always at home and doesn't go anywhere. Plus i work local and duck in and out all the time (toilet breaks, lunch etc) so would be too hard for her to sneak around. Plus seems like more 'into mother mode' and off sex like others have suggested.

[VERY VERY_HARMSUP]

Yeah but it's like once in a blue moon and even than its starfish mode bro, i get her off than i do my thing than thats it. No oral for me, nothing.... May as well do a doll lmao

ur next BBBJ will be phenomenal then... make sure to find one that offers ball sucking and rimming too it'll be like 5 star spa package for the lil one.

[xconcepx]

ur next BBBJ will be phenomenal then... make sure to find one that offers ball sucking and rimming too it'll be like 5 star spa package for the lil one.

Hahahahaha for sure bro, gonna set up a nice VN trip next year and have the time of my life. Will definitely get everything checked off the list 📃😉