Great story Van_Allen
During the 2 months with her did she ever act flaky to suggest she was two timing you ? Or was she totally expert keeping the secret from you ?
How can we protect ourselves from the two timer ?
Unfortunately she acted exactly the same. I honestly would never have known unless that chance encounter with the other bloke happened. I guess any girl could do the same thing, however ML's have more exposure to men in sexual scenarios that I have now learned my lesson. She gained my trust and then took advantage, she is just a horrible person!
Van_Allen, she introduced you to friends and family so she probably genuinely connected with u in a special way but was it enuff to stop her from 2 timing? obviously not. She choses to keep working in this industry, the money's good, and she may genuinely like the power she has over men and all the benefits that come with someone at your beck and call. it really does our head in.
I suppose a lesson for all.
As normal as we would like to think these girls are, they sometimes are not, possibly playing you from
the onset or later down the track.
They might have the same motivations as non workers, but I assume they are quite strong,
determined, and assertive to enter and remain in this type of industry, though some might not have a choice.
For them there could be a emotion overload.. seeing/knowing/being exposed to so many intimately.
Entering into any liason with them you need to be prepared for possible consequences.
You require a level of caution and have your wits about you... hard when emotions are involved from either one or both.
Good point doc. There was one WL I was sort of seeing, more of a Friends with benefit thing. Weren't dating cause she knew I was not available but we liked hanging out together and the sex was great. But she fell for this guy that was a customer big time. he'd taken her out a few times and I think her feelings just ran away with her. I believed her because one night we were out on the town she got so drunk she just blurted it all out and cried and cried. She didn't even remember what she had said the next morning. "what did I say? what did I say?" So yeah, they do have real feelings cos they are real people.
"She chooses to keep working in this industry, the money's good, and she may genuinely like the power she has over men and all the benefits that come with someone at your beck and call. it really does our head in."
Great point
Some men feel GOOD about themselves if they have the attention of a few women, wine and dine them, all the while spending HIS money
However, attractive women feel GREAT about themselves, since they also can have the attention of several men, and SHE is wined and dined, and she has the money spent on HER - a much better type of fun
This second scenario is a much more addictive and nice situation to be in, and beautiful women will always have more fun with two timing !
Sorry to hear bro, and thanks for sharing with us. I have been through extreme heartbreak too, so I know that feel bro.Originally Posted by Van_Allen
Can I just ask, do you really think it was a coincidence that you bumped into the other guy? When I read it I was thinking maybe he had followed the two of you? Maybe he already had suspicions and decided to follow her?
All the best !
I have heard that among some Thai women there is a cultural thing whereby they like to boast about how many men they are seeing and what sort of gifts etc they can get from them...
Thinking about my own recent story, I guess I should've seen the signs when the girl cancelled on study plans at last minute. I gave her the benefit of the doubt as she told me she was sick, but in reality she was just not interested.
So I suppose being flaky is a good indication. I think if someone is really interested in you and wants to see you, they will do whatever it takes to see you, no matter what.
Great thinking
Well a 'relationship' with a WL can follow one of three paths -
1. You can treat her like a whore and date her for the sole purpose of getting cheap sex or free extras or whatever (this is the cunning linguist approach) Its really a terrible way to look at things and the arrangements dont tend to last long because girls obviously prefer to be treated as a human being rather than just a fuck hole
2. you can treat the dates as a bit of fun and a way to spend time with someone whose company you enjoy. A few people in this thread recommmended this and I also reckon its a sensible way to approach a 'date' or social outting together, no expectations just chill out together
3. you can go searching for love and relationships (the GGG and rage face strategy). This is a recipe for heartache. You place all these heavy expectations of loyalty and commitment on the poor girl in the full knowledge that she gets her face sprayed with the cum of a half dozen strange men each day - wtf?!
You know what, this is the type of shit I really hate. As guys, we all know what the manager wants. But it seems girls are oblivious to this, or at least pretend to be. They claim that it is "just friends" but we all know what's going on (I mean that the guy is interested, not that she is interested in return).
Most important thing is to never lose your cool about it. If you do, it's game over!
Bro wtf, when did I say we should search for love and r'ship with a WL?
Fair point
Yeah I wouldn't worry too much about stuff from him. What's more important is how she replies and deals with it.
Well have I got a story for you...
Girl number 1 - was a Korean ML, we met when she first arrived in Aus and we seem to click instantly. I saw her regularly for a year, exchanged Kakao contacts firstly and then phone numbers. When visiting her at work it was very passionate, GFE and many times turning to PSE. We then started seeing each other outside of her work and so I stopped seeing her there. We started out with dinners, movies, trips away etc. I met her friends (mostly ML), she told her family in Korea about me, I stayed at her placed, she cooked and took care of me. The sex was amazing!! There was always something suspicious though...apart from telling me she loved me really early in the relationship, she told me she wanted to marry me, which I found scary and doubted how genuine she was. What I did find out was there were others on the side...I was at one stage her first choice and then she changed and was 'busy with work' which I found out later was when she was meeting up with other guys she had met through work. As I started to question her about things, she told me one day abruptly it was over and she stopped loving me. It was hard to let go but time and life goes on. We still are 'friends' and we catch up monthly as friends...
Girl number 2 - was a Korean ML. I met her about a month after I broke up with girl number 1. She had broken up with her boyfriend a few months earlier whom she was madly in love with, and so we had a connection with our stories. She gave me her Kakao contact really early in the piece and was telling me she missed me and asked me out to dinner. We went on a few dates over the next few weeks and shared lots of personal stories. She was a good distraction for me, keeping me from thinking about my ex and I did the same for her. But we never went all the way. We had a serious chat about her becoming my gf and then it turned weird. She told me she couldn't date me cause of where she worked and where we had met. Also said that how could I date a girl that continued to work as a ML. She said if I really wanted to take care of her I would have to help pay for her uni fees and take care of her. She put the figure between 5-10K. I said I'd think about it...and she said if I did, she'd resign the next day from work. This is where it gets interesting...although my best friend told me not to go along with it...I said I'd help her, she said she was shocked that I would help, she resigns from work and is grateful. The following week she has an encounter with her ex, she calls me and tells me the story the next day and tells me she still has feelings for him even though he's got a fiancé. Week after that she says she's back with her ex, just until he gets married...how weird? And no I didn't give her any money.
What have I learned? In both cases they are normal people with feelings and challenges just trying to survive in a country with no family and limited friends. They can be very caring and generous. But just like any other female can lie and deceive you. I won't let this stop me from my next challenge...it's the thrill of the chase that keeps me going.
Seems to me after reading all these interesting stories that most of them don't have a happy ending.
That's because it's all fantasy and not reality.Seems to me after reading all these interesting stories that most of them don't have a happy ending.
If you want a happy ending date a ML, not a WLSeems to me after reading all these interesting stories that most of them don't have a happy ending.
If it was only that easyIf you want a happy ending date a ML, not a WL
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