GGGreg, I sympathise with you. Although my circumstances are different from yours I also visit WLs for more than just sex.

If you have read anything that I have posted you would see that I normally mention that I enjoy the breaks between the action. This is a great opportunity to really get to know the lady and find out about her life away from work. Most of the ladies that I have been close to, have Boyfriends or Husbands and in some cases they have children.

Despite all the warnings and sad stories on this forum,
I did have a special relationship with a WL. Just like most other guys in this situation "this one was different" !!

She was beautiful and her actions over a long period of time proved that she did have strong feelings for me.
However, I am not free.
Who knows what would have happened if I had been?
Could I have dealt with the fact that she was a WL ??

Eventually someone else came along who was free and our relationship tapered off.

I still think about her and miss her.

She still keeps in touch, I am not sure that this is a good thing.

There is a You Tube video made by an American guy who has lived in Thailand for many years. It is called something like 10 mistakes to never make in Thailand. He has another video about Rules to follow. I can only remember 3 of them offhand. Although he is talking about Thailand I think that his rules are relevant here.

His number 1 rule. Do not get emotionally involved with a Working Lady.
His number 2 rule. Do not look for the love of your life in an establishment catering to men.
His number 3 rule. You can take the girl out of the Bar but you can't take the Bar out of the girl.

I think that it is sad that there are so many lonely people in the world, both Male and Female.

Sorry GGGreg. I have rambled on and I am not sure that it is relevant to your post.

With most ladies I think that it pays to not come across as Too Needy.

Good luck mate I am sure that there is someone out there for you. You will probably meet her when you are not looking.