Why I take this job

[refokkused]

hey Babycat
Your honesty is appreciated and is a welcome reminder that life isn't always what we plan and always full of challenges. It is how we go through these challenges and emerge from the other side (good or bad) that defines us not the material things we own. $20 clothes from Kmart matter nought as long as we are happy. People dress themselves in high end brands but are they complete or happy in life?

[online12793]

Thanks for sharing Babycat.
You have been in the hard times now in future your life will be much better.

Babycat remember you come to Australia with nothing and a fresh start.
You can go there with nothing and do whatever you want to do.

In Chinese it is 先苦後甜
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjp-_sp9qv4

[HighFlyer]

Tearing up reading this. Thanks for the honesty and for sharing.. very sobering.

Babycat you are obviously very intelligent and have superior English ability compared to others. Hope these attributes allow you to build a good future and escape this industry.

HF.

[Natsu]

If you love movies and ice cream, we can be friend

[Lenka_X5]

Honey, you take this job for money$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

[gammera]

Your story sadly is all too common . These ratbag clients wouldn't dare do this at a bigger
establishment as they would be in big trouble but at the smaller shops they know they can
get away with it as they know they can't afford any unwanted attention . These type of men
know this and they won't do it in real life as this behaviour is called domestic violence .
You have a good heart BC and good things happen to good people in long run.

[caff3ry]

hey Babycat
Your honesty is appreciated and is a welcome reminder that life isn't always what we plan and always full of challenges. It is how we go through these challenges and emerge from the other side (good or bad) that defines us not the material things we own. $20 clothes from Kmart matter nought as long as we are happy. People dress themselves in high end brands but are they complete or happy in life?

I ask myself that nearly everyday...

[Nejums]

It's an interesting read to hear from the other perspective. Thanks for sharing, Babycat.

I've been told that a lot of punters go just to "vent". I know I do sometimes. But to me, I enjoy the interaction and getting to know the person. I feel things get complicated when you get to know an ML/WL at a more personal level, and it's hard to switch from customer to "friend". I know we'll probably never truly be friends with them, so guess it'll be best to just enjoy the company.

[Sam88]

I ask myself that nearly everyday...

Hehehehe

[CunningLinguist]

Anyway, no complaints. Obstacles are always there, and help me being stronger. I'll be okay. Cheers.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ

[Babycat]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ

Always try to look on the bright side, but I feel guilty and not know whether my mom can forgive me.

[icecool]

"I'm so lonely, broken angel
I'm so lonely, listen to my heart"
This thread is not for looking for sympathy. Just a bit sharing, and I know I'm not angel. Instead, I always call myself evil.
Why I take this job?
Well,
First. For myself.
I got my first job at an Asian shop. $100/ per day (~12 hours). Had to get up around 4am to get train at 5:10 and arrive shop at 6:20, then stand and serve customers all the time till 6:30 pm. Having 30 minutes for lunch break but no place to rest in shop so I have to walk around there or find somewhere to sit down. Normally I buy a loaf of bread for lunch as nothing else is cheaper. That’s it for nearly one month. My colleague, Amy, told me that for some personal issues, she was short of money so she couldn’t even afford 2 rolls of sushi but just a loaf of bread to eat for whole day, just like me.

Besides, I had no heater for winters 2014 &2015. And not even fan for summer 2015. Only take bus to school when I'm already late or weather is really bad. Rarely go for shopping. Spending big money just for family and friends, not for myself. 1/3 of my wardrobe is free clothes from cousin's cousins. Another 1/3 is secondhand from local market. And if they're new, they're from Kmart. Actually I still keep those habits: not shop much and buy clothes from Kmart (their kid clothes are quite nice, lol).

Then I got other jobs, better paid but still not enough until I become masseur. Better money, of course. now I can cover my school fee, spend a bit more for myself.

My English is better. Try to improve skills from conversations with clients. Life experiences is enriched as I've met various types of people. Having much experience in dealing with people.

Second, for family.
Growing up in the Asian culture, it's hard for me to be selfish, but not care about my family. Wish to be able to take care of myself and my family. When it's too late, money has no meaning - I learned that as my mom didn't have any chance to travel overseas and live for herself. so now I'm really happy that I can send money back to my father and ask him to spend on holidays and enjoy retirement time. Be happy that I can support my family partly. Be happy that I can save money for my own future and be independent. Hopefully I can be helpful to my partner ( if I can find him somewhere, lol).

Do I enjoy my job? Somehow yes, to be honest. Like my Dongseng, Caff said, somehow my social life is going on at workplaces. A breath of life. I feel lonely here. But hard to tell my family and friends that I'm tired. Don't want to make them worried so I always smile in front of them. Colleagues? Having a distance from them. Somehow it's easier to open up to strangers. So sometimes a nice talk, a nice care from client who shows his respect to my efforts, or a hug/ cuddle that make me feel better. I do enjoy his kindness. A simple talk"thankyou" is actually meaningful.

"I'm faded. So lost. The monsters running wild inside of me"
But it's hard job. It takes my energy and trust in life. Becoming doubtful a d scared of everything. And sensitive. Bad clients act like wild animals, and treat me like animal too. Have to choke anger back many times but keep smiling, even when they strangle or slap me. Or being abused by dirty talk. Some asked me if I like to be tied up and raped. One told me about his incestuous relationship with his best friend and sister in two hours. So hateful but still try to finish sessions nicely.

I think I'm coward. Many people are hungry for money but they choose normal/proper jobs. But I'm not strong enough to accept a difficult way to go through (actually this job is not easy to deal with and tiring too). I'm still preparing for my retirement day, when I have a proper job and a normal life. Be strong enough to get the first step of a long journey. And hope to find someone who not let me stay in shadow nor want sex from me only.

Anyway, no complaints. Obstacles are always there, and help me being stronger. I'll be okay. Cheers.

Good story ,but i just dont get the idea that you don't have enough money for your basic living cost and you still willing to spend money on yours friends and money for your parent holiday . If your parent knew that you dont have enough money for yourself then they wouldnt accept the money from you so they can just to go for a holiday . why would you need to spend money on yourfriends .if you need to spend money on your friends then you are buying a friendship . You said your grew up in an asian culture , i assume not china right , the new generation of chinese don't think like they use to anymore , as a for bad clients they are in every industries , they only about 5 % . i what i do is tell them to get fuck i never want to deal with them again . also i find your english is quite good considerate you only being in australia afor a short time .

[cici1233]

Me too.
i've worked in this industry for 3 months and I have money for a few months worth rent already.. I will work for another year and go back to Thailand

[Babycat]

Good story ,but i just dont get the idea that you don't have enough money for your basic living cost and you still willing to spend money on yours friends and money for your parent holiday . If your parent knew that you dont have enough money for yourself then they wouldnt accept the money from you so they can just to go for a holiday . why would you need to spend money on yourfriends .if you need to spend money on your friends then you are buying a friendship . You said your grew up in an asian culture , i assume not china right , the new generation of chinese don't think like they use to anymore , as a for bad clients they are in every industries , they only about 5 % . i what i do is tell them to get fuck i never want to deal with them again . also i find your english is quite good considerate you only being in australia afor a short time .

My father spent whole youth time on supporting family, now I want him to enjoy life. After my mom's death, I realise family is important and we should enjoy before it's too late. I don't need to spend much on myself as my needs is quite simple. I'm willing to spend money on people who is important to me. Also, I don't want to my friends or anyone feel that their benefits is affected. Trying to give more than I can receive in a relationship. That's what my mom taught me about relationships. "Don't take advantage of a relationship. Be genuine and not be regret to be a good person ". I know I can be fooled but it's hard for me to take advantage of people. I've been here 3 years only but I studied English before. Assignments did help me to improve my English, lol.

[AHLUNGOR]

Me too.
i've worked in this industry for 3 months and I have money for a few months worth rent already.. I will work for another year and go back to Thailand

Well, I guess you are Not working in a legit massage shop then !

[CunningLinguist]

Always try to look on the bright side, but I feel guilty and not know whether my mom can forgive me.

Hey no one is perfect, just don't tell her, even if you did I am sure she loves you unconditionally and would forgive you for anything.
Everyone has secrets, so don't dwell on any moralising advice you read here.
I think you are brave and are doing what you think is best, based on your upbringing, culture, and experiences.
It is easy for others in different circumstances to pass judgement etc but be true to yourself and don't let them bother you.

[Babycat]

Hey no one is perfect, just don't tell her, even if you did I am sure she loves you unconditionally and would forgive you for anything.
Everyone has secrets, so don't dwell on any moralising advice you read here.
I think you are brave and are doing what you think is best, based on your upbringing, culture, and experiences.
It is easy for others in different circumstances to pass judgement etc but be true to yourself and don't let them bother you.

No, I can't hide it from my mom as she follows me everywhere and knows everything. She's my angel. My soul guardian.

[Massage King]

Honey, you take this job for money$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

That's the bottom line.

Lots of girls out there that are students/tourists surviving with a normal job. I'm sure most of them don't enjoy their normal jobs but neither do most people out there. That's life.

[poundher]

Honey, you take this job for money$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

It's not about the money money money
We don't need your money money money
We just wanna make the world dance
Forget about the price tag
Ain't about the uh cha-ching cha-ching
Ain't about the yeah b-bling b-bling
Wanna make the world dance
Forget about the price tag

[shootermcgavin]

^ Not sure how the lyrics above apply seeing as how Jessie J earned an estimated half a million that financial year, but ok.