I don't think that support and guidance is what this thread is about. It's an explanation that the person that you are seeing is not just a sexual object but also a human being, with everything that comes with that. There's likely a certain percentage of the people here who will find that a little confronting, but I'd like to think more of my fellow man and that this adds to the perspective of the people who do a hard job for our satisfaction.
Having a degree of understanding of that, in an ideal world, works for both sides. We treat the people that serve as as people and as service providers with the respect and understanding they deserve. They realise that we're decent, respectful people, and feel open enough to trust us more and work harder to make their service better for us. We all win!