Seeing MLs in the real world

[Wang Wang the panda]

This just happened to me today. Was out and about with the wife and kids. We were sitting down at a Cafe for a bite to eat, when I looked over the other side of the building and saw a table of three Asian ladies. I took a second look and noticed that two of them were regulars of mine from a Thai massage shop! I tried to play it cool and not to look over at them and luckily I don't think that they saw me, although I'll probably find out next time I go in for a massage. Wife was a little curious why I ate so quick and got moving, but don't think she put two and two together.

Has anything like this happened to anyone else? Certainly got the heart rate elevated!

[SmithChips]

This just happened to me today. Was out and about with the wife and kids. We were sitting down at a Cafe for a bite to eat, when I looked over the other side of the building and saw a table of three Asian ladies. I took a second look and noticed that two of them were regulars of mine from a Thai massage shop! I tried to play it cool and not to look over at them and luckily I don't think that they saw me, although I'll probably find out next time I go in for a massage. Wife was a little curious why I ate so quick and got moving, but don't think she put two and two together.

Has anything like this happened to anyone else? Certainly got the heart rate elevated!


Your wife may soon find out now that you've posted the exact experience of being rushed eating in the cafe. Heard from a ML that one of the customer's wife found out because he posted on this forum, thinking he was anonymous, but his wife happened to have been searching for clues. Can't underestimate a girl's sixth sense!

[paulpitt69]

Ask admin to delete this asap OP
Another life challenge lol

[gpav]

My wife visited shop I have been to, albeit 2 years ago but contacted them last week for a visit as I feel they fly under the radar and the Mrs says this morning that she has a new client that works there.

[CFH]

to me that sounds exciting, a bit of a thrill in fact. so long as you didn't smirk i guess.

[Nelly69]

Yeah I see plenty of ML in the real world, actually I recently saw a young Thai ML with his short fat rich Asian BF. totally different class but money talks hey. She saw me but completely ignored me even though I am her regular and we were only sitting 2 tables away. lol. If I was by myself, I would have gone up and said hello.

[HardCore]

Your wife may soon find out now that you've posted the exact experience of being rushed eating in the cafe. Heard from a ML that one of the customer's wife found out because he posted on this forum, thinking he was anonymous, but his wife happened to have been searching for clues. Can't underestimate a girl's sixth sense!

I've been told by a regular ML I see that all ladies could be detectives. She recently said to me I think your hardcore on Aus99, haha, what can I say but guilty as charged and I've never reviewed her she just picked up on my talk and chat.

You guys with wives need to be careful unless you don't care and if so then why bother staying with her anyway.

[The Sampler]

Have experienced it a couple of times already, most of the time its at major shopping hub or the casino

Almost always taking their kids out or looking after someone elses (not inside the casino obviously).

One time i rolled up to the baccarat tables and slapped some chips down on a draw.
Didnt realise a ML i see often was sitting opposite side of the table, a draw came and i took a win home.

Saw her a week later and she asked me to share some of that luck with her by giving her extra tips...i was not impressed but got additional extras for it lol

[Jack-Jack]

Yes few times esp in city and popular dining areas that are insta friendly….

Best to just avoid eye contact and keep low key

It’s kinda a mutual understanding by both that you pretend not to know each other and I’m sure most ML and WL would prefer you not to make eye contact or say hello to them…

If you have a crazy attached and stalker wl or ml that’s a different story and good luck…. lol

[BPunter76]

Was sitting outside a restaurant with the Mrs waiting for some friends when a WL I've fucked several times walked by, we made eye contact and, thank fuck, she immediately looked down and kept walking.

[GoldfishMan]

No big deal. I've bumped into an ML I'd fucked a few times at the lobby of my apartment. She came over to have a chat and I was certain she wanted to initiate something as there was always great chemistry between us, but my wife showed up at right in the middle of the convo!

Another time, I sat down at the table in a restaurant right next to a private girl I'd fucked a few times with my then GF. She was with her realtor colleague having dinner. I made eye contact and didn't hide the fact that I was deliberately looking her way. I thought it was hot, loved the thrill of sitting there with 2 hot and sexy women whom I've fucked in the most "natural" way possible and there was a clueless dork sitting next to me not knowing anything, lol!

Other incidents were kinda underwhelming. Some of the girls I've seen just out of the blue would tell me that they saw me out and about with my family or my GF. I never lie about my status to the girls so I was never intimidated by these things, but whenever it happens I'm left thinking "am I supposed to act in a certain way because she said that?". I mostly just mumble something and move things along.

[jedibear]

This just happened to me today. Was out and about with the wife and kids. We were sitting down at a Cafe for a bite to eat, when I looked over the other side of the building and saw a table of three Asian ladies. I took a second look and noticed that two of them were regulars of mine from a Thai massage shop! I tried to play it cool and not to look over at them and luckily I don't think that they saw me, although I'll probably find out next time I go in for a massage. Wife was a little curious why I ate so quick and got moving, but don't think she put two and two together.

Has anything like this happened to anyone else? Certainly got the heart rate elevated!Panda mate, you have to play it cool. Chances are they dont want to out you cos it would out themselves either. The unwritten rule is not to acknowledge each other in public if either of u are in the company of another person.

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[ditchtheboss]

So I came across one of my SBs in a restaurant. We were both waiting for our respective take aways but I was with 2 friends. SB was alone. She walked past me and winked at me. My friend noticed and thought this hot young Asian girl was hitting on me 🤣🤣🤣🤣. I don’t have any problems with that. I earned some points with my friends 🤣🤣🤣

[JuneC]

i don't think they remember who they give a hand job to. Those girls have bad memories

[ditchtheboss]

i don't think they remember who they give a hand job to. Those girls have bad memories

If you are a regular and have built a rapport they do remember.

[Big boneR]

I've been told by a regular ML I see that all ladies could be detectives. She recently said to me I think your hardcore on Aus99, haha, what can I say but guilty as charged and I've never reviewed her she just picked up on my talk and chat.

You guys with wives need to be careful unless you don't care and if so then why bother staying with her anyway.

Ha, my regular ML knows who I am as well from a comment I made, busted. With respect to her I have amended my posts for her anonymity, she is a really nice adorable lady, and her life is private. I think she knows more about the real me than I do of her though.

[Abracadabra]

I've been told by a regular ML I see that all ladies could be detectives. She recently said to me I think your hardcore on Aus99, haha, what can I say but guilty as charged and I've never reviewed her she just picked up on my talk and chat.

You guys with wives need to be careful unless you don't care and if so then why bother staying with her anyway.

Agree with this and have mentioned on other threads that quite a few WLs I see/have seen have mentioned the "forum" in passing and have made some comments about content referring to them and sometimes a punters session with them.
None have stepped anywhere near into asking my forum name or guessing it but a couple have said they don't want ARs about them.

[11Bravo]

It’s kinda a mutual understanding by both that you pretend not to know each other and I’m sure most ML and WL would prefer you not to make eye contact or say hello to them…
The girls are NOT stupid; they understand it's outside of business. She's not coming over to your table, you're not going over to hers (have some smarts there; just like you, she could be out with some civilian friends/family). If I do happen to make eye contact, like in passing on the street, just a barely perceptible nod as an acknowledgement, more of an eye dip; to any other observer, just a glance down at the street to make sure it's clear in front of you).


i don't think they remember who they give a hand job to. Those girls have bad memories
Au contraire... they do remember, though some they just choose to forget.

[Timeis629]

I was helping a ML out one day - long story - got spotted and busted - that was the end of my punting dalliances - guess just as well I was on that addiction path. Memories as sweet as …….

[flyingfish]

saw one with her husband and young kid in public, she didn't see me but it was just strange seeing that her and MLs in general sometimes just live a normal life

[Johny77]

Yeah I see plenty of ML in the real world, actually I recently saw a young Thai ML with his short fat rich Asian BF. totally different class but money talks hey. She saw me but completely ignored me even though I am her regular and we were only sitting 2 tables away. lol. If I was by myself, I would have gone up and said hello.

Why would you have gone up to her knowing her bf is with her?

[tommyb]

yeah i've seen WLs at the local shops a couple times, almost didn't recognize them with no make up and casual clothes! one WL from ginza told me she sees clients all the time out in the real world with their partners/wives/children but just ignores them. So they prob see you too!

[Bunningsnag]

A few years ago I took my wife to the club for a few drinks. Later she wanted to play video roulette. I put in a 50 dollar note and left to play the pokies. About 15 mins later I return to see how she's going and I see right next to her is my regular thai massage lady. I almost shit my pants. The Thai girl recognised me but said nothing. I then told wife I was going back to pokies and chose a pokies where I could see them both and see if they talked. My heart was racing ..... eventually the ML got up and left and I beat it back to the wifey and tried to play it cool. Fortunately they didn't chat.

[Zoobender]

saw one with her husband and young kid in public, she didn't see me but it was just strange seeing that her and MLs in general sometimes just live a normal life

Strange why? They are regular people. They just stroke cock for a living

[ColesBag]

The way I figure it everyone has to buy groceries or whatever. Happened to me a few times & recognition has happened on those occasions. Luckily we are both professionals & nothing more came of it at the time.

[AlistairG]

Had probably one of the worst situations possible happen, a friend of mine was trying to get me into a new card game and I had a punt planned with a private lady before meeting up with that evening to play for the first time, well turns out she was going there as well and my friend also knows her.
She didn't see me at first as I had my back turned to the door and we were waiting on someone to arrive (her) and when she came in she said that she got caught up at work, had a client who took a bit too long and had to stay a little later and I was just looking at her mortified, noticed me a few seconds later, didn't miss a beat and introduced herself as if we were just meeting for the first time.

My mate asked me if I was into her because he saw me staring a little, he didn't know the half of it.
Saw her a few more times after that as well.
Turns out her comment during our first session "you really seem like the kind of person I would be good friends with, most of my clients aren't like that" was a little too spot on.

[xboyx]

A few years ago I took my wife to the club for a few drinks. Later she wanted to play video roulette. I put in a 50 dollar note and left to play the pokies. About 15 mins later I return to see how she's going and I see right next to her is my regular thai massage lady. I almost shit my pants. The Thai girl recognised me but said nothing. I then told wife I was going back to pokies and chose a pokies where I could see them both and see if they talked. My heart was racing ..... eventually the ML got up and left and I beat it back to the wifey and tried to play it cool. Fortunately they didn't chat.

lol I bet you got hard when seeing her

[tommyb]

A few years ago I took my wife to the club for a few drinks. Later she wanted to play video roulette. I put in a 50 dollar note and left to play the pokies. About 15 mins later I return to see how she's going and I see right next to her is my regular thai massage lady. I almost shit my pants. The Thai girl recognised me but said nothing. I then told wife I was going back to pokies and chose a pokies where I could see them both and see if they talked. My heart was racing ..... eventually the ML got up and left and I beat it back to the wifey and tried to play it cool. Fortunately they didn't chat.

haha yikes what did she say next time u saw her for a massage? or did you guys just not bring it up?

[ReginaldBubbles]

Strange why? They are regular people. They just stroke cock for a living

Maybe it's like when you're a kid and you see your teacher on the weekend at the supermarket or something and it hadn't occurred to you that she had a life outside the classroom.

[mmservices]

Haha, that’s a wild coincidence. Aren't you worried you posted this here?

[Zoobender]

Maybe it's like when you're a kid and you see your teacher on the weekend at the supermarket or something and it hadn't occurred to you that she had a life outside the classroom.

Yeh this makes sense. I met a teacher of mine way after I had finished school in Coles once. And I called her miss so and so and she was like call me Sarah.... It's was wierd. But thinking about it after I was the wierd one. Because offcourse outside of the class room she is a normal person with a first name

[bleekpit]

I saw a WL on the dating app Hinge. She still works at the same shop but now suddenly stopped doing BBBJ, CIM and DFK. Only works once or twice a week and not every week either. Maybe she found someone. I wonder if he knows.

[Bunningsnag]

haha yikes what did she say next time u saw her for a massage? or did you guys just not bring it up?

To be honest I don't think I saw her again. I think she packed up and moved.

[faruk]

Maybe it's like when you're a kid and you see your teacher on the weekend at the supermarket or something and it hadn't occurred to you that she had a life outside the classroom.

Excellent analogy, spot on haha

[Zoobender]

I saw a WL on the dating app Hinge. She still works at the same shop but now suddenly stopped doing BBBJ, CIM and DFK. Only works once or twice a week and not every week either. Maybe she found someone. I wonder if he knows.

I actually matched with one on Tinder some years back. She is still around but has alot of plastic surgery. Also risky services offered. We matched but never went further. I had seen her at her place once before. Was quite a surprise when I saw her profile come up. She is still working as a private now.

[flyingfish]

I actually matched with one on Tinder some years back. She is still around but has alot of plastic surgery. Also risky services offered. We matched but never went further. I had seen her at her place once before. Was quite a surprise when I saw her profile come up. She is still working as a private now.

started reading and thought I knew who you were talking about since I saw a girl on tinder too with heaps of plastic surgery now.. than saw your last comment about going private and realised its probably a different girl.

[Bman619]

I saw a WL before walking on the street with her friend crossing the road. Didn't recognise her at first! And don't think she recognised me

[vitamin]

Working girls are professionals. Even if they recognise you they have enough sense to act like they don't know who you are.

[Zoobender]

Working girls are professionals. Even if they recognise you they have enough sense to act like they don't know who you are.

As they should. Alot of clients also don't want the girls to talk to them IRL.

[1inchguy]

Working girls are professionals. Even if they recognise you they have enough sense to act like they don't know who you are.

This viet wl didn't get that memo.
I was at the shops where she recognised me and messaged me. At that time I was like why she messaged me out of the blue. Turns out she was at the shops too and I bumped into her at the markets. We greeted and that was it.

[Bman619]

This viet wl didn't get that memo.
I was at the shops where she recognised me and messaged me. At that time I was like why she messaged me out of the blue. Turns out she was at the shops too and I bumped into her at the markets. We greeted and that was it.

She may have feelings for you or could just want to see you again

[vitamin]

This viet wl didn't get that memo.
I was at the shops where she recognised me and messaged me. At that time I was like why she messaged me out of the blue. Turns out she was at the shops too and I bumped into her at the markets. We greeted and that was it.

Why does she have your number? you guys are obviously close to exchange personal contact details.

[Abracadabra]

Why does she have your number? you guys are obviously close to exchange personal contact details.

I tend to think having a WLs contact numbers is not all that unusual among punters who are regulars.
Not saying it's an altogether good idea, just that it does happen a bit.

[JJBlows]

I tend to think having a WLs contact numbers is not all that unusual among punters who are regulars.
Not saying it's an altogether good idea, just that it does happen a bit.

I have a few, it's just to ensure you get a priority booking on busy days or her to keep you updated on her movements between shops

[11Bravo]

I have a few, it's just to ensure you get a priority booking on busy days or her to keep you updated on her movements between shops

Punters are spoiled these days. When one started in the dark ages, before cell phones, not smart, but before PLAIN mobiles were cheap enough for the providers to have, only way to see her again was to go the her office and look for her, hoping she was there. If not, hoping that one of her co-workers recognized you as her friend and would pass along the new office. Once cheap mobiles arrived, having the ability to SMS made life so much easier. Yes, she might not be that conversant in English, but she'd always have a co-worker who was, to translate and respond. These days, with smart phones, apps (some with built-in translation capability), it's SO easy. But yet, but yet, there are still the plaintive wailings of "anyone know what happened to _____?", "anyone know where _____ is working now?" Sad really.

It's a win-win for both parties - the smart provider knows it's just good business to have a client list that moves with HER from shop to shop. And if you've been on hiatus, dry-docked (pun intended), a pandemic, or suffering from that dreaded disease of fundus-depletus, easy to reestablish the connection when you've been returned to service, be it weeks, months, or years.

[Niceguy11]

I tend to think having a WLs contact numbers is not all that unusual among punters who are regulars.
Not saying it's an altogether good idea, just that it does happen a bit.

Of course. If the WL / ML likes you as in you are a decent punter, she will exchange contact details.

[F0x]

I've seen 1 WL and 1 ML in my time.

WL I actually ended up helping get off the train she had one of those Asian Wheelie carries which was full of groceries and I helped her get it off as and moved on.

I don't think she recognised me at all, I had sat next to her on the train.

The ML I walked by as she was on a girls night (didn't recognise the other girls but probably assume same shop) and she saw me and just looked down for a bit so our eyes didn't meet for long.

They know the score, no need to panic. Will it affect their performance if for example they thought you were 'easy' prey and realised might not be after seeing you IRL?

Maybe.

So if you get a sudden drop in service and can't understand why, maybe they've seen you IRL and 'circumstances' changed.

- F0x

[massage addict]

Nothing to worry about that is the entire reason we pay them, so we can leave after and not have to worry about them calling our texting us.

[Maxxx13]

Yep, blood drained from my face and the Mrs asked if I was ok, I just said that I’d just remembered something I was supposed to do for work and I’m gonna be in deep shit. She dropped it after that

[11Bravo]

Yep, blood drained from my face and the Mrs asked if I was ok, I just said that I’d just remembered something I was supposed to do for work and I’m gonna be in deep shit. She dropped it after that

Why would you have any reaction? If you have that big of a tell, don't ever play poker. You know each other INSIDE the shop. OUTSIDE? You're strangers. Bush league.

[gpav]

Decided to go for a punt today and we were relaxing and chatting and I mentioned being married with kids and she says “I know I’ve seen your kids, I’m friends with your wife on Facebook”. I’m tidying up my financial affairs for what could happen.

[tezzaman18]

My instinct would have been to see evidence of her friendship with your Mrs. Maybe on your next visit?

Sounds a little far fetched. Would need to know your Mrs personal details, make the connection you are married to her, etc.

If she is smart she wouldn't upset the apple cart , unless she wants to extort you.


Decided to go for a punt today and we were relaxing and chatting and I mentioned being married with kids and she says “I know I’ve seen your kids, I’m friends with your wife on Facebook”. I’m tidying up my financial affairs for what could happen.

[11Bravo]

Decided to go for a punt today and we were relaxing and chatting and I mentioned being married with kids and she says “I know I’ve seen your kids, I’m friends with your wife on Facebook”. I’m tidying up my financial affairs for what could happen.

More believable if she and you wife are of the same nationality/heritage.

[gpav]

They are both thai, same region.

[Revenant]

Decided to go for a punt today and we were relaxing and chatting and I mentioned being married with kids and she says “I know I’ve seen your kids, I’m friends with your wife on Facebook”. I’m tidying up my financial affairs for what could happen.

Why tell a SW anything that could be used against you?

[11Bravo]

They are both thai, same region.

That's a BIG BIG PROBLEM because Thai's tend to be close knit, especially if they share a region, say Isan. I'd say if your wife posted pictures of the kids on Face Book, she's probably posted some full family photos...


Why tell a SW anything that could be used against you?
ALL depends on the girl...

[Revenant]

Why tell a SW anything that could be used against you?


ALL depends on the girl...

Trust is earned and given. If she’s a regular it may be earned but if she’s a random it shouldn’t be given. Even outside of their work I still think every SW doesn’t tell her full story, consequently why put your cards out on the table? Maybe if you were to visit their real home overseas it’s a different story but here a lot is smoke and mirrors.

[11Bravo]

I think "used against you" sounds a bit harsh. "Bite you in the ass", now...

I'd say the BIG mistake was seeing someone of the same nationality/heritage as the significant other. And the same region from a small country? Hell, even if PRC (don't EVER discount the CIA for intel sharing), don't ever discount the pull of 2 countrymen in a foreign country. Even if the significant other was native born, heritage is a strong bond. Famous saying: You can take the Thai out of Thailand but you can't take the Thailand out of the Thai.

And I certainly wouldn't be blabbing personal details to just anyone. Common sense seems to be in short supply in today's world (no offense gpav, but really...)

[mn69]

I'd say the BIG mistake was seeing someone of the same nationality/heritage as the significant other. And the same region from a small country? Hell, even if PRC (don't EVER discount the CIA for intel sharing), don't ever discount the pull of 2 countrymen in a foreign country. Even if the significant other was native born, heritage is a strong bond. Famous saying: You can take the Thai out of Thailand but you can't take the Thailand out of the Thai.

I believe its more like, "you can take the girl out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the girl"

And never discount your Thai wife's "brother" or her "uncle". Its almost always her Thai boyfriend