Couldn't get hard. 3 times. WTF is wrong with me?

[iikaannn]

Over 800 bucks spent on 3 different girls, still, I couldn't fuck them cuz my dick is so shy. I always managed to get hard in the shower but as soon as I lay on the bed, I feel like I don't have a dick anymore.

My Johnny is always as hard as X-man's bones whenever I'm jerking off alone. But why is it that I can't get hard when a girl is all over my body completely naked? Is it sexual performance anxiety? How do you solve it really?

I just feel bad for the girls, they think it's their fault when the reality is it's just me. I always had to tell them that I feel nervous.

If you ever been through this, how do you solve it? HELP ME. I WANT TO FUCK

[TiredOfOnaholes]

Cialis the night before will be your best friend

[DuckKnight]

I would exhaust every option possible i.e. DFK, BBBJ, DATY, B2B, cat bath, etc. It’s not over if you can’t get hard, I’ve managed to get over the line with a semi hard. On the few occasions that failed I would make use of the time by fondling her boobs.

[17012430]

Stop watching porn, stop wanking with gorilla grip

[MasterPaizuri]

Stop watching porn, stop wanking with gorilla grip

This OP

Stop doing the deed yourself and stay off porn

[bevis90]

Yes stop the wank, have a few days rest or weeks and see how you go

[nosytt]

Maybe try a male escort.

[neveragain]

Just get viagra. GP's get asked for it multiple times daily so they do not care. And it's cheap. It's not worth paying hundreds of dollars just to end up pushing rope.

[blidbla86]

Just get viagra. GP's get asked for it multiple times daily so they do not care. And it's cheap. It's not worth paying hundreds of dollars just to end up pushing rope.

this, i don't need the blue pills but i have them anyway cause when I know it's probably a multi shot session it just makes the second shot easy, no refractory period

[11Bravo]

Over 800 bucks spent on 3 different girls, still, I couldn't fuck them cuz my dick is so shy. I always managed to get hard in the shower but as soon as I lay on the bed, I feel like I don't have a dick anymore.

My Johnny is always as hard as X-man's bones whenever I'm jerking off alone. But why is it that I can't get hard when a girl is all over my body completely naked? Is it sexual performance anxiety? How do you solve it really?

I just feel bad for the girls, they think it's their fault when the reality is it's just me. I always had to tell them that I feel nervous.

If you ever been through this, how do you solve it? HELP ME. I WANT TO FUCK

Don't feel bad for the girls. EASY job for them. And don't worry, when they all get back to the breakroom, they'll tell EVERYONE about mr. limp_noodle. IF they use their index finger to demonstrate, consider yourself lucky. It'll probably be their pinky...


Your problem is obvious.

Just like Mommy told you, having sex with a girl outside of marriage, you're being a BAD BOY, a VERY BAD BOY. BAAAAAD BOY, BAAAAAD BOY, NAUGHTY, NAUGHTY, NAGHTY, SHAME, SHAME, SHAME. Now go to your room.

Or, seriously, you seem very young and immature. I'd say take the energy, money, and time and go find yourself a REAL relationship. Get some REAL life experience before P4P.

And remember: MOTHER IS ALWAYS WATCHING!! SHE KNOWS!!!

[putsputs]

Over 800 bucks spent on 3 different girls, still, I couldn't fuck them cuz my dick is so shy. I always managed to get hard in the shower but as soon as I lay on the bed, I feel like I don't have a dick anymore.

My Johnny is always as hard as X-man's bones whenever I'm jerking off alone. But why is it that I can't get hard when a girl is all over my body completely naked? Is it sexual performance anxiety? How do you solve it really?

I just feel bad for the girls, they think it's their fault when the reality is it's just me. I always had to tell them that I feel nervous.

If you ever been through this, how do you solve it? HELP ME. I WANT TO FUCK

Pause masturbation and porn, your body has gotten used to being pleasured a certain way that actual sex doesn't stimulate you as effectively.

[silly boy]

Relax, don't overthink it. Just enjoy the moment, whatever happens.

[Happy13]

Take a week or 2 off and get some good sleep. You are probably just burnt out.

[Roydemeo]

This means you are gay

[GoldfishMan]

There are 2 possible reasons and remedies, depending on which persona OP is on:
1. His dingdong is too big for his small 58kg body. This results in insufficient blood flow to get hard. Remedy: Go for dingdong size reduction surgery.
2. It's race related. His dingdong is racist, doesn't like the girls OP pays for. Heck, it doesn't even like OP's race. Remedy: Go for dingdong separation surgery.

This forum is spiralling into lunacy. It's like a madhouse in here lately, lollll

[JethroToll]

Stop alcohol as well - porn, wanking, thinking, the Mummy factor (they even watch from beyond the grave in some cultures) are all good advice as already provided. Some people need hypnosis for this issue but a doctor can also probably help, because they will ask you about your lifestyle etc which takes the emotion out of the picture. Dr Feelgood used to give advice over the radio on these matters, too. Perhaps there are articles of hers online you could consult? Good luck and consider the practical help as good natured and sincere.

[fixatedperson]

Don't make a big deal out of it. Shrug it off and say "oh well better luck next time".

Healthy diet, good sleep, regular exercise no masturbation, no porn.

If you got soft lying down try a different position. Find a position that works for you.

[themort]

I dunno how old you are but it happens and the worst thing is when it gets in your head.

I have sort of the opposite problem with retarded ejaculation and it that gets in your head you are toast, and for the girl this is probably worse.

If you're over 40, I don't think your doctor would blink an eyelid to give you blue pills, and even if you don't actually need them, they are a wonderful blue placebo that will get it out of your head.

I do agree with posters above, jerkin off to porn is like studying for an exam stoned, if you're not stoned when you turn up for your exam, you can't remember shit. State dependent learning is the phenomenon. Go easy on the jerkin the gherkin.

[Blackie]

When this happened to me I realised I was punting when I had the opportunity rather than when I was horny. I don't watch porn and masturbate 2 days before a punt, I don't punt more than once a week. problem solved.

[magnumforce]

Happened to me when I was tired after work or if the girl doesn’t click.
If the girl doesn’t click I’ll try and use more imagination, but it’s a bad idea to punt when tired. All the comments about not wanking is very true for me too. Likewise for hard wanking…Wet pussies aren’t as tight as your grip.

[iikaannn]

I dunno how old you are but it happens and the worst thing is when it gets in your head.

I have sort of the opposite problem with retarded ejaculation and it that gets in your head you are toast, and for the girl this is probably worse.

If you're over 40, I don't think your doctor would blink an eyelid to give you blue pills, and even if you don't actually need them, they are a wonderful blue placebo that will get it out of your head.

I do agree with posters above, jerkin off to porn is like studying for an exam stoned, if you're not stoned when you turn up for your exam, you can't remember shit. State dependent learning is the phenomenon. Go easy on the jerkin the gherkin.

Im only 20 bro do u think i should take cialis? I dont even know what that is

[JerkedShmeat]

Im only 20 bro do u think i should take cialis? I dont even know what that is

I experienced some performance issues in my early 20’s as well.

Theres so many contributing factors as to why.
It’s tough to get over the performance anxiety and constant thinking “Will i actually get hard this time”

I cut back on porn/masturbation and made sure i was actually getting enough sleep as i would normally get a few hours a night.

To ease the anxiety i ended up getting a script for Cialis and it definitely helped… A lot. Just don’t overdo it. The effects last 72hrs, strongest in the first 24. You won’t be walking around everywhere with an erection but you’ll find it incredibly easy to get one.

Think of Cialis as Viagra’s little brother.


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[PJD]

It's probably just a mental thing of some sort, don't reach for the pills at 20. Worst case you need to go see a Dr. to get a couple free therapist sessions.

But yeah, also stop jerkin the gherkin for a bit, then try again to rule that out.

[Relax dont do it]

I agree your cocks like a dog you have trained it

[holi_day]

Mental thing does come in play. When I have distractions (e.g. if I am filming) or I am with a super beautiful girl and have high expectations of performance, I get limp.

I was rock hard when I saw J Ivy. She makes me pressure free and I was like releasing the beast...

[11Bravo]

Im only 20 bro do u think i should take cialis? I dont even know what that is

You're 20. Like I thought, young and immature (just a fact of life). What are you doing looking at P4P? You should take your time, your money, your energy and be out at the bars, clubs, events, looking to date, to score. You don't have to have a gf, just some who are also looking to have some adult fun. Those are much more fun than P4P as they're real, not business. You go to school - check your classmates. Work - your colleagues. Mix, hit the events.

Prostitution might be legal, but there is a societal barrier to patronizing. Why we use handles, why so many are interested if a shop has a back door, is too public.

Seems you're not ready to cross that line, your brain telling your body "no". I'd listen. Once you cross that line successfully, it can become all too easy to continue; it's no longer that big a deal (never was, but you know, social conditioning has some reasoning...) IMO, you need real life relationship experience to give you a foundation so later on you can keep sex and relationships in perspective. Horny gives you energy, courage, to break out and extend yourself. It's just all TOO easy to take that extension to a P4P shop rather than taking ego risks ("The Agony of Defeat" making "The Thrill of Victory" all the MORE sweet). And with too much P4P as a base, that real relationship, too hard, too much work, just make a booking. Bad habits hard to break.

Some providers are damn good actresses (that's what they're paid for), and without real life perspective, some punters lose track of reality. You're a train, rushing down life's track. Without past relationship experience ties, those rails can come lose, and off the track you go. Not saying it'll happen, but you're missing some great things in life by taking the easy way.

You've got your whole life ahead of you. No rush for anything.

[Punt2Win]

When I was 20 the less sexual experience the girl had, the more I desired and wanted her, whereas the bicycles really turned me off. Was totally a mental thing. Maybe subconsciously you know 746 penises have already been there so there's no conquest to be had.

[themort]

Im only 20 bro do u think i should take cialis? I dont even know what that is

Younger is more prone to anxiety and like I said once it's in your head it's all over.

As other people said - no jerking, go a week without punting, find a girl you like and relax, don't be tired, don't be dehydrated and all that.

[CFH]

you could try wearing a Cock-Ring.

[OmniMime]

Take zinc supplements as well to kill your cortisol levels and boost your testosterone level, among other things others mentioned above.

[Hiptohip]

Check your prostate isn't warning you of pending problems

[trampslikeus55]

My advice if it matters. Find an older WL that takes your fancy. Tell her your problem and if she has any interest in helping, you should be good to take on the world in about 3 visits. You dick isn't working because at 20, you really don't know what you need to do. Good luck 😎

[IDOTHAT]

I would exhaust every option possible i.e. DFK, BBBJ, DATY, B2B, cat bath, etc. It’s not over if you can’t get hard, I’ve managed to get over the line with a semi hard. On the few occasions that failed I would make use of the time by fondling her boobs.

If you have erection problems this is terrible practice. Wanking, or fucking with a semi causes venous leak google it.

[DuckKnight]

If you have erection problems this is terrible practice. Wanking, or fucking with a semi causes venous leak google it.

I donÂ’t have ED, I just refuse to finish with only one round in a sesh and have to make do with a low refractory period. Good to know I should think twice with a semi.

[andrewv]

Hey @iikaannn (https://www.aus99forum.com/member.php?81494-iikaannn) One thing most of the guys here will not tell you is that many men do not become or remain aroused just with any girl for sex. These men need to feel some emotional connection with a woman before they can have sex for a period of time.
Going to brothels is transactional. You pay and they get naked and open their legs. There is no emotional content in it. It's a piece of meat and you fuck it.

In conclusion, in your case it might not be an issue of needing Cialis or Viagra, or stopping watching porn and wanking... It may well be that you are one of the men who needs to feel an emotional connection first. Try to date women and see if it works when you have sex after you got to know them for a couple of weeks and several dates first.

[iikaannn]

Hey @iikaannn (https://www.aus99forum.com/member.php?81494-iikaannn) Try to date women

why do you think i go to brothels bro :( still, thanks for the insight

[random punter64]

mate know the feeling am 70 taking half a v half hr b4. Get bared up and dies at the end. Happen a couple of times recently on bb sex. couldnt blow worker tried the bbbj and when hard did fucking and died. maybe not enough sleep b4 the deed. Well this happens when u get older. Any one has tops for old cunts like me

[ironmonk]

Anyone suggesting pills, supplements, cockrings etc is missing the point. If you can already get hard in the shower then that proves it's purely psychological.

Just stop wanking and watching porn OP, then go to a cheap $150 shop so you're not worried about wasting money. You'll be so horny it won't matter anyway.

[iikaannn]

then go to a cheap $150 shop so you're not worried about wasting money. You'll be so horny it won't matter anyway.

you have any shop recs?

[jxlee]

important to remember that viagra works best when taken on an empty stomach

[lipengr]

My advice go to see your gp it's the best way to help u bro

[OScarOS]

If you're young and you have erections on different circumstances then the problem in psychological. If you have erections in the shower then try it there.

[Night Owl]

I would stop going to brothels until you get your confidence back. Go to a Chinese massage store with windows you cant see inside (not in a shopping centre). Get a 30 minute massage - if the lady says "happy ending for $$$" - just say yeah maybe but I will decide towards the end ( dont pay for HE unless you get a boner). This will make her work hard to tease you and most of these massage ladies know how to tease. Then if you get a boner pay her the extra, if no boner then just leave at the end of the massage. This way the pressure is off you and you have very little to lose. Try this at 3 or so different Chinese massage stores if still no luck then see your doctor and ask about Viagra. And dont feel bad for the ladies - they still got paid and they never think its their fault no matter what they say. Then when you go back to a brothel (before paying the money) ask the lady to shower with you as suggested in the above post. PS, get fully naked when she tells you to undress and lie down, 1 - it signals to the lady you there for a tug and 2 it makes it easy for her to play with your junk while she massages.

[neveragain]

Get a 30 minute massage - if the lady says "happy ending for $$$" - just say yeah maybe but I will decide towards the end ( dont pay for HE unless you get a boner). This will make her work hard to tease you and most of these massage ladies know how to tease. Then if you get a boner pay her the extra, if no boner then just leave at the end of the massage. This way the pressure is off you and you have very little to lose.

This is actually a great tip if you don't wanna go down the viagra route for some reason.

On the "rollover" you can ask her to massage just your chest and the front of your thighs while you check her out and see if that gets your pencil moving without her touching your junk. If it does then go ahead with paying the extra for the tuggy. If not then just continue without.

[H2O]

Have you tried seeing Milin in Sydney Baby Massage. Just do massage and she is very2 good but if you cant come with her then yes maybe you have a serious problem.

[Franker]

It may be hard to admit but punting may not be for you. You said no issues when masterbating but any trouble with hardness when you fuck girls outside of punting?

[putsputs]

Have you tried seeing Milin in Sydney Baby Massage. Just do massage and she is very2 good but if you cant come with her then yes maybe you have a serious problem.

Good solution actually. Her teasing and edging have always been effective for me.

[SxC boy]

Have you tried seeing Milin in Sydney Baby Massage. Just do massage and she is very2 good but if you cant come with her then yes maybe you have a serious problem.

I second this, the way she teased and dances with her hands, should get you over that mental hurdle OP

[Night Owl]

I second this, the way she teased and dances with her hands, should get you over that mental hurdle OP

Okay, you guys have won me with this Sydney Baby Massage - roster etc looks great. Even though its a fair drive for me I want to check it out. The name of the place had me double checking with the google search results

[H2O]

We were talking one specific girl Milin and she does not work on the weekends. Not sure about other girls in that roster today. I did try Fiona in the sister shop Sydney Girl Massage, she is also good.

[H2O]

Okay, you guys have won me with this Sydney Baby Massage - roster etc looks great. Even though its a fair drive for me I want to check it out. The name of the place had me double checking with the google search results


We were talking one specific girl Milin and she does not work on the weekends. Not sure about other girls in that roster today. I did try Fiona in the sister shop Sydney Girl Massage, she is also good.

[GoldfishMan]

Okay, you guys have won me with this Sydney Baby Massage - roster etc looks great. Even though its a fair drive for me I want to check it out. The name of the place had me double checking with the google search results

I'd suggest you give Sydney Girl Massage a go first if you're driving in from out of town. Better facilities and arguably easier to find parking. They're under the same owner / management so you'll get the same girls at different days.

[neveragain]

Okay, you guys have won me with this Sydney Baby Massage. The name of the place had me double checking with the google search results

Lmao I've always seen this shop name and imagined it was where people take their newborn for a relaxing massaging after a long day of sleeping and shitting itself :shout:

[ergoproxy]

Lmao I've always seen this shop name and imagined it was where people take their newborn for a relaxing massaging after a long day of sleeping and shitting itself :shout:

Bahahahaha. Almost spat my coffee out.

[Night Owl]

Bahahahaha. Almost spat my coffee out.

haha,, I would have thought "Sydney Babes Massage" would have been better - maybe


I'd suggest you give Sydney Girl Massage a go first if you're driving in from out of town. Better facilities and arguably easier to find parking. They're under the same owner / management so you'll get the same girls at different days.

Thanks for the tip


We were talking one specific girl Milin and she does not work on the weekends. Not sure about other girls in that roster today. I did try Fiona in the sister shop Sydney Girl Massage, she is also good.

yeah, will try and book either one, thanks

[Jay_Blink]

Milin also works at Parramatta Blossom Massage if that suits better.

[11Bravo]

Be careful what you ask for. Decades ago, read a book by an emergency room doctor about doing his residency, the OJT.
Guy comes in with a problem, same problem as yours (though from the story, seems it was alcohol induced). Seems his GF of the night was a bit disappointed, so (also, hopefully alcohol induced), said "I know what it needs... a BACKBONE, and lo-and-behold, there was one right there, aka a swizzle stick.:startle:

Once in, couldn't get it out, hence the trip to the emergency room. Even cringe as I typed this.:horror:

Didn't bother looking at my bookshelf, but believe it was: The Blood of Strangers : True Stories from the Emergency Room by Frank Huyler

[urmumsurdad]

If you get the dick pills, don’t rely on them too much. They are pretty bad for you health wise…

[Zenxxx]

So how has it been going OP? Have you made any more subsequent visits? Any improvement?