Sugar dating

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Originally Posted by gthgrt

I haven't posted anything about it not being good value.
I was just after a realistic understanding of what it would actually cost.
I don't have a better alternative for you.

Thanks to all the SD's for the information provided.

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All good. I tried to use smiley face to show it was lighthearted.

I understand you were asking for factual information and I was just trying to help based on very little knowledge of what you were specifically looking for.

I prefer to give specific feedback rather than just general feedback. Punting appetites are different, capacity to spend is different and guys land girls at different prices.

The least I have paid for a one off meet on SA is $nil (that's happened three times, so it's rare). It was more sexting and hooking up. The most I have ever paid is $500 for a meet.

Sugarbabes are not uniform. YMMV with pricing and what you get.

Being a SD is definitely not for me, I don't have enough time to do the meet ups. When I feel the urge I just punt, simple as that and to be honest I couldn't put up with the shit that most of the younger generation go on about.

Good luck to all you guys that can.

I'm not trying to be nasty Benny, but this is beginning to look like an infomercial. Do you get anything out of it? And if you have all of these lovely young SBs that you like to spend many hours with why are you here so much?

Been reading this thread with great interest. Just thought I’d share an interesting viewpoint from the other side that I came upon:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifest..._side_for_sbs/

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Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou

Being a SD is definitely not for me, I don't have enough time to do the meet ups. When I feel the urge I just punt, simple as that and to be honest I couldn't put up with the shit that most of the younger generation go on about.

Good luck to all you guys that can.

I'm not trying to be nasty Benny, but this is beginning to look like an infomercial. Do you get anything out of it? And if you have all of these lovely young SBs that you like to spend many hours with why are you here so much?

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Hi DCDIY (excuse the abbreviation but I did not want to stuff it up)

Do I get anything out of it? I like helping people, so that makes me feel good. No one is paying me, and I am not getting any kickbacks - you have advertisers on the forum for that.

Equally, you don't have to read it - and I'm not being nasty either - you can just change the channel? I'm just responding to what is asked. If the forum members on here don't find value in what I've shared please tell me. I don't want to waste anyone's time.

But to give you a bit more colour - when I started punting, it was after a sexless relationship break up. I spent way too much money on escorts and brothels. Like way too much. When I jumped onto Sugarbabes there was no information out there and no forum for it. I'm just sharing what I wish someone had taken the time and effort to share with me.

Isn't that what forums are about? Sharing...?

p.s. Did you like my Niko Delevingne review? I'd love to read some of yours too.

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Originally Posted by DireStraits

Been reading this thread with great interest. Just thought I’d share an interesting viewpoint from the other side that I came upon:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifest..._side_for_sbs/

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Hey Dire Straits (great band btw) I posted it here for you for discussion

Posted byu/bubblerush
1 day ago
Wholesome

The potential ugly side for SBs.

Vent/Rantnsfw'

I’ve been a SB for a few years and I’ve met quite a few SBs along the way. I’ve seen an increased interest with these relationships since the pandemic, and I just wanted to share some things with aspiring/new SBs. One thing I can not stress enough is the fact that this is NOT easy. You come to learn very quickly that everything comes with a price, which is why I wanted to make a post about the uglier side of sugar dating because I find it’s not really talked about. Here are some of the things that many SBs experience. Obviously it’s very dependent on what type of SD you have but here are some common ones I’ve seen women struggle with.

You’ll get a lot of very judgmental looks while out in public with your SD. Looks of disgust or pity and it’s something you’ll have to get used to.

Depending on how long you do it; you’ll most likely lose friends and family. At the very least it will change the way they see you.

There will most likely come a time where you meet someone that you genuinely want a relationship with and you might need to walk away from it because of the lifestyle.

You’ll meet men that use financial support to manipulate you. You’ll need to have strong boundaries and a savings account or your mental health will take a hit.

If you’re doing this because you’re desperate for financial support, you’ll find yourself laying on a hotel bed with a man you’re disgusted with, staring at the ceiling and waiting for it to be over so you can take a hot shower. (Trust me you don’t want to get here)

Using things to cope with the lifestyle. I’ve seen this a lot and it’s a very dangerous habit. It’s not uncommon for girls to develop addictions while doing this.

Not being honest with yourself. I’ve seen many friends of mine try to talk themselves into having a better outlook on their sugar relationships. Be honest with yourself, if you’re unhappy take care of your mental health. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re enjoying anything just to make it a little easier.

If you find the right SD it can be amazing but it takes time. Don’t rush anything out of desperation. Take care of yourself girls, nothing is worth damaging your mental health over.

Whenever someone tells me their trying to help me "because they like helping people" I check to make sure my wallet is still in my pocket.

I have many reviews, just click on my tag and scroll through. The longest was for girlclub there are many other short ones (good and bad) only because I'm not as eloquent as your good self. But thank you for your effort in trying to make it seem like I don't contribute here in an attempt to deflect from my point that you spend a lot of time on here countering negative comments

I agree that forums are for sharing that's why I'm here on a punting forum and not on SA. From what I see your advertising here and not paying for it, if I were an advertiser on this site I'd be complaining to admin about it. It seems some punters have stopped going to brothels and signing up to SA because of your selflessness, just one example Riff was a good customer of number 5 Marrickville but now he has a lovely Italian SB among others and doesn't seem to visit anymore.
That's why I think

Thanks for your helpful reply DCDIY.

If more guys are out punting Sugarbabes then this will be a boon for you. Prices of WLs / MLs will come down and you will be the beneficiary.

You can buy me a beer one day as thanks.

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Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou

It seems some punters have stopped going to brothels and signing up to SA because of your selflessness

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Are they though? You’ve given one example, which hardly seems significant… are you aware of hordes more who’ve “stopped going to brothels and signing up to SA”, or are we getting a bit carried away there?

Assuming for the sake of argument though that it’s true… It may not be the direction that brothels like to see their regulars taking. But it is unquestionably giving punters more choice and from the sounds of it, more bang for their buck if they do it right. To me, that’s not a bad outcome for a punter, which I believe the vast majority of us here are :-)

Mates pls chill.

It’s a forum to discuss on everything and anything. I have seen lot of posts with some cool stuff and no so cool stuff as well.

Each one will have his own entitlement to pursue new options. Let’s be respectful of what each of them want to do and how to proceed. It’s their remit. No one is telling them what to do.

Healthy conversation always keeps our forum to grow and we learn from each of our mistakes and learn some new things to try such as review - 2 hole massage table. I have been browsing the 2 hole table after the review. It’s so new only a few places-have it.

Would I ditch my regular no way. But I would try it for sure.

Weather is great outside. Few beers and bbq for all of us!

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Originally Posted by BennyB

Hey Dire Straits (great band btw) I posted it here for you for discussion

Posted byu/bubblerush
1 day ago
Wholesome

The potential ugly side for SBs.

Vent/Rantnsfw'

I’ve been a SB for a few years and I’ve met quite a few SBs along the way. I’ve seen an increased interest with these relationships since the pandemic, and I just wanted to share some things with aspiring/new SBs. One thing I can not stress enough is the fact that this is NOT easy. You come to learn very quickly that everything comes with a price, which is why I wanted to make a post about the uglier side of sugar dating because I find it’s not really talked about. Here are some of the things that many SBs experience. Obviously it’s very dependent on what type of SD you have but here are some common ones I’ve seen women struggle with.

You’ll get a lot of very judgmental looks while out in public with your SD. Looks of disgust or pity and it’s something you’ll have to get used to.

Depending on how long you do it; you’ll most likely lose friends and family. At the very least it will change the way they see you.

There will most likely come a time where you meet someone that you genuinely want a relationship with and you might need to walk away from it because of the lifestyle.

You’ll meet men that use financial support to manipulate you. You’ll need to have strong boundaries and a savings account or your mental health will take a hit.

If you’re doing this because you’re desperate for financial support, you’ll find yourself laying on a hotel bed with a man you’re disgusted with, staring at the ceiling and waiting for it to be over so you can take a hot shower. (Trust me you don’t want to get here)

Using things to cope with the lifestyle. I’ve seen this a lot and it’s a very dangerous habit. It’s not uncommon for girls to develop addictions while doing this.

Not being honest with yourself. I’ve seen many friends of mine try to talk themselves into having a better outlook on their sugar relationships. Be honest with yourself, if you’re unhappy take care of your mental health. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re enjoying anything just to make it a little easier.

If you find the right SD it can be amazing but it takes time. Don’t rush anything out of desperation. Take care of yourself girls, nothing is worth damaging your mental health over.

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Another interesting viewpoint in that thread…

Posted by Zealousideal-Emu:

“This post is soo soo important. SA is filled with literal hobbyists and men using it for discounted sex work services. These men take advantage of internalized whorephobia to get you to do the most for the least amount of compensation or you're not an SB you're a hooker.

If you're only getting paid to have sex, getting paid 3 figures, you know you can't ask your "SD" for anything significant financially then you don't have a sugar relationship. These kinds of guys are also super risking health-wise because they are having sex with other desperate people.

A great litmus test, are you getting 4 figures per date, do you have dates that don't involve sex, do you receive your allowance even if something comes up and you can't meet, can you ask your SD for significant help financially, emotionally, professionally and know he'll say yes without a quid pro quo request.”

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Originally Posted by DireStraits

A great litmus test, are you getting 4 figures per date, do you have dates that don't involve sex, do you receive your allowance even if something comes up and you can't meet, can you ask your SD for significant help financially, emotionally, professionally and know he'll say yes without a quid pro quo request.”

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Hang on, this is throwing red flags... If you're there for you SB and help emotionally when they need it, are you really an SD or just in yet another relationship?

Both parties have to realise that this is a transactional relationship, and just like any other, you need to draw the lines.
I'm going to sound like a masochist, but if you find yourself being the emotional tampon for someone it's time to bail as takers never know when to stop.

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Originally Posted by BennyB

Hi DCDIY (excuse the abbreviation but I did not want to stuff it up)

Do I get anything out of it? I like helping people, so that makes me feel good. No one is paying me, and I am not getting any kickbacks - you have advertisers on the forum for that.

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On yer Benny!

Mr Dire Straits...I wrote "some" you wrote "hordes" If you want to put words in my mouth then you'll have to stick you arm up my arse.

Thank you so much Benny for trying to reduce the cost of a punt for me, if it works I'll buy you a remy martin xo..or two.

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Originally Posted by DireStraits

Are they though? You’ve given one example, which hardly seems significant… are you aware of hordes more who’ve “stopped going to brothels and signing up to SA”, or are we getting a bit carried away there?

Assuming for the sake of argument though that it’s true… It may not be the direction that brothels like to see their regulars taking. But it is unquestionably giving punters more choice and from the sounds of it, more bang for their buck if they do it right. To me, that’s not a bad outcome for a punter, which I believe the vast majority of us here are :-)

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That's what I think. If you are going to drop a thousand or so a month on car repayments you want the best bang for your buck (pun intended - its a tits and ass forum) and as many options as are available before you empty your wallet?

Since when did knowing all that was available to you be a downside on a punting forum? This is one thread in thousands of active threads. Let's have some perspective.

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Originally Posted by kiddoh

Mates pls chill.

It’s a forum to discuss on everything and anything. I have seen lot of posts with some cool stuff and no so cool stuff as well.

Each one will have his own entitlement to pursue new options. Let’s be respectful of what each of them want to do and how to proceed. It’s their remit. No one is telling them what to do.

Healthy conversation always keeps our forum to grow and we learn from each of our mistakes and learn some new things to try such as review - 2 hole massage table. I have been browsing the 2 hole table after the review. It’s so new only a few places-have it.

Would I ditch my regular no way. But I would try it for sure.

Weather is great outside. Few beers and bbq for all of us!

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2 hole massage table? I'm guessing this is a milking table and not one where you are sharing with another cock? (no judgement from me of course) :-)

I’d say he’s referring to a milking table

Guess the right term is milking table.
No thanks 🙏 I’m not interested in those mate!

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Originally Posted by buster

I’d say he’s referring to a milking table

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Thanks buster! There was a review from Al on that !

[QUOTE=BennyB;2312621]2 hole massage table? I'm guessing this is a milking table and not one where you are sharing with another cock? (no judgement from me of course) :-)[/jjQUOTE]



Guess the right term is milking table.
No thanks 🙏 I’m not interested in those mate!

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Originally Posted by DireStraits

Another interesting viewpoint in that thread…

Posted by Zealousideal-Emu:

“These men take advantage of internalized whorephobia to get you to do the most for the least amount of compensation or you're not an SB you're a hooker.

If you're only getting paid to have sex, getting paid 3 figures, you know you can't ask your "SD" for anything significant financially then you don't have a sugar relationship.

A great litmus test, are you getting 4 figures per date, do you have dates that don't involve sex, do you receive your allowance even if something comes up and you can't meet, can you ask your SD for significant help financially, emotionally, professionally and know he'll say yes without a quid pro quo request.”

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Men and women signing up to Sugar dating sites are volunteers. No one forces you to meet anyone and certainly no one can make you sleep with anyone. Some people make bad choices out of greed - money, sex, etc. we know what that’s like every time we go ahead with a bait and switch?

When I hear of women accepting ridiculous offers of money, I wonder if they have thought through the person offering them huge amounts of cash and what they expect of them? If it seems too good to be true…

If someone only gives you three figures it's not a sugar relationship...where is this written in stone?

An arrangement is at the convenience of two people and whatever they agree to. You are not entitled to anything, except to make a choice about what you enter into. If you feel a sense of entitlement when you are talking to someone on SA, just hang up.

And of course, don't be a dick yourself - be respectful, be a gentleman or you just give fuel to these kinds of views.

Any tips on how to make a good profile. I'm not exactly wealthy but I'm 6 figure income earner.