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Posted byu/bubblerush
1 day ago
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The potential ugly side for SBs.

Vent/Rantnsfw'

I’ve been a SB for a few years and I’ve met quite a few SBs along the way. I’ve seen an increased interest with these relationships since the pandemic, and I just wanted to share some things with aspiring/new SBs. One thing I can not stress enough is the fact that this is NOT easy. You come to learn very quickly that everything comes with a price, which is why I wanted to make a post about the uglier side of sugar dating because I find it’s not really talked about. Here are some of the things that many SBs experience. Obviously it’s very dependent on what type of SD you have but here are some common ones I’ve seen women struggle with.

You’ll get a lot of very judgmental looks while out in public with your SD. Looks of disgust or pity and it’s something you’ll have to get used to.

Depending on how long you do it; you’ll most likely lose friends and family. At the very least it will change the way they see you.

There will most likely come a time where you meet someone that you genuinely want a relationship with and you might need to walk away from it because of the lifestyle.

You’ll meet men that use financial support to manipulate you. You’ll need to have strong boundaries and a savings account or your mental health will take a hit.

If you’re doing this because you’re desperate for financial support, you’ll find yourself laying on a hotel bed with a man you’re disgusted with, staring at the ceiling and waiting for it to be over so you can take a hot shower. (Trust me you don’t want to get here)

Using things to cope with the lifestyle. I’ve seen this a lot and it’s a very dangerous habit. It’s not uncommon for girls to develop addictions while doing this.

Not being honest with yourself. I’ve seen many friends of mine try to talk themselves into having a better outlook on their sugar relationships. Be honest with yourself, if you’re unhappy take care of your mental health. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re enjoying anything just to make it a little easier.

If you find the right SD it can be amazing but it takes time. Don’t rush anything out of desperation. Take care of yourself girls, nothing is worth damaging your mental health over.
Another interesting viewpoint in that thread…

Posted by Zealousideal-Emu:

“This post is soo soo important. SA is filled with literal hobbyists and men using it for discounted sex work services. These men take advantage of internalized whorephobia to get you to do the most for the least amount of compensation or you're not an SB you're a hooker.

If you're only getting paid to have sex, getting paid 3 figures, you know you can't ask your "SD" for anything significant financially then you don't have a sugar relationship. These kinds of guys are also super risking health-wise because they are having sex with other desperate people.

A great litmus test, are you getting 4 figures per date, do you have dates that don't involve sex, do you receive your allowance even if something comes up and you can't meet, can you ask your SD for significant help financially, emotionally, professionally and know he'll say yes without a quid pro quo request.”