Asian pickup places in Sydney?

No, I mean girls like to take pics so it’s a chance to make friends with them. They, surprisingly don’t think it’s creepy much as long as you don’t take pic of them in bikini or nude, lol. Let them think that they are in your camera by accident.
True, my friend was desperate at that time because he had bad experience with his ex that made him feel not confident about himself. He, another time tipped a masseuse $100 while I just gave $20 (legit massage) as he wanted to impress her.

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Originally Posted by ellison

This reeks of desperation. Good looking eomrn get randomly propositioned at least once every day. You have to be confident, not desperate, and lucky if she is single. But offering money for a phone number is very desperate . Offering to take their photo, and keeping a copy on your phone or camera, is very creepy. Only if you use their phone would they even consider this offer

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I have 2 grown up daughter's and they have had many of their friends over my house over the years. I also have a few close friends of the female variety.

It would be fair to say that all of them would think it was a bit weird or even creepy if a random guy tried to start some conversation with the intention of getting their number or going on a date, whilst they were out shopping, on public transport or the like. My guess is there is a stranger danger element to it all.

They may feel a bit different about it if they were at a pub/bar/club or a concert or rave/dance party but this is also where the real whackjobs think they can ply their 'trade' as well, and girls do have a knack for sensing this.

Most of them have been on dating apps and have met guys this way. I guess that it is the accepted way to meet new potential partners or suitable casual relationships these days.

For those that dont know, there has been a growing 'pick up' community online. The largest group is RSD (Real Social Dynamics). These groups hold international meetings which teach single men how to approach women. A cold approach is where you talk to a random woman on the street or in shops or where they work
Its probably creepy and now with dating apps and messaging apps, women probably have little patience or need to be approached randomly. The problem is that many men are more brazen now, and will start randomly talking to many women in an afternoon. As a result, women are now getting sick of all the unwanted approaches
Of course if you are tall and good looking, then go ahead and chat up women. Women do respond, but more women don't like it

Punting is great. You can ease your bodily needs to the extent you dont need to feel or act desperate. You become more confident and appealing to women as a result

The VAST majority of women still don't get approached.

Women generally don't mind being approached, assuming she finds him attractive, she is available and their is a genuine and fun interaction. If a girl is attracted to a guy she will stare and make very deliberate eye contact, flick her hair quite aggressively or even smile back if you smile at her. She wants you to approach!

This is where going to gym consistently over many years working on getting wider shoulders, small waist (six pack) and strong legs and glutes, basically an athletic build. A good diet, clothes that fit and good posture will all help with initial attraction then good banter/emotional connection usually does the rest.

Also approaching girls that are age appropriate. So best not to be a 40 year old hitting on a 20 year old lol.

Asking guys who pay for sex for tips on picking up women?
Hilarious!
It's like asking someone who orders take-away for cooking recipes ;)
There are reasons why punters are punters.
Most are either too old, or too ugly, or too shy, or too creepy, or too lazy to pick up pretty girls. Or some or all of the above.
Me, I am too old, too ugly, too lazy.

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This is where going to gym consistently over many years working on getting wider shoulders, small waist (six pack) and strong legs and glutes, basically an athletic build. A good diet, clothes that fit and good posture will all help with initial attraction then good banter/emotional connection usually does the rest.

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Unfortunately for the women I know that have met a lot of these guys due to the initial attraction, the good banter and emotional connection is sadly lacking because the guys are so into themselves! 🤣🤣🤣

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Originally Posted by rooter

Asking guys who pay for sex for tips on picking up women?
Hilarious!
It's like asking someone who orders take-away for cooking recipes ;)

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I haven't got a clue about picking up girls, only what girls and to some extent some guys tell me. It would have to be 20 years since i picked up a girl!

I wouldn't say I can cook either, which is why I follow recipes!

No such thing as creeps or perverts. Only uglies.

Im reminded of the time my past girlfriend had gone to the local council swimming pool for a swim. She told me when she got home, that a guy with a child randomly approached her next to the pool, and she felt strange. Women are getting approached all the time. She asked me was this normal, and I told her that this situation was creepy

The moral of the story is if you’re handsome and have a good body then go for it. It may come off as weird but not creepy.

If you’re a 40-50 year old balding fat old man approaching a a girl half your age then it’s creepy. Unless of course you have money.

Stick to dating apps and punting guys.

Im really LOLing myself here. If you ask a girl if she likes to be approached, of course the answer is going to be No! It's common sense. Do you expect her to say I like to be approached? She might as well say Im easy, Im a slut.
Just think about it for a sec, all courtships are initially approaches right? A man has been in his social circle for a while, he finally picks up his courage to ask the girl out for a date (approach). A guy and a girl got some chemistry going on in a friend's birthday party. Guy decides to risk it and ask for the girl's number (approach). The difference is speed with pick ups.

Women tend to compartmentalise a lot of their emotions. For example, if you ask a woman how many ex-bfs did she have, she is going discount the guy who fucked and dumped her as one night stand encounter as never being happened. Similarly, a princess who got picked up by a charming prince on a horse is going to say "he is the man of my dreams, this is all FATE, we are DESTINED to be together from the start." When actually it is another kind of pick up.

Then you get women groaning and complaining about their singlehood status, "oh no men has never made a move.." or "if only he talks to me.."

As a man, just go and get what you want. Isn't that what being a man is all about?

girls know how much they are worth.
looks aren't that important these days.
if you are loaded, should be easy, otherwise, good luck finding a free fuck.

This is hilarious .. mostly ... and exposes the furphy and flatulence that inhabits the mores and excesses of our febrile minds...

presume less... try more ..

I do not see any moral to this tale , excepting the majority of comments here are by guys who do not , or cannot , or have not

No offense meant ,

Carry on

They say you learn something new everyday, I had no idea furphy and mores were even words yet alone what they meant.

I guess I'm +1, and the day is still young.

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Asking guys who pay for sex for tips on picking up women?
Hilarious!
It's like asking someone who orders take-away for cooking recipes ;)

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Hahahaha agreed

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Hahahaha agreed

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There are many guys on here who date and also punt on the side

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Originally Posted by ellison

There are many guys on here who date and also punt on the side

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Yeah but once you become a regular punter your picking up days are over.
You lose the edge, the hunger, the thirst. You get fat, lazy, spoilt etc ...
It's like the transition from a hunter gatherer civilisation to a agricultural civilisation

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They say you learn something new everyday, I had no idea furphy and mores were even words yet alone what they meant.

I guess I'm +1, and the day is still young.

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Important words in Ozlish.

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Originally Posted by Newbie_Sydney

A common belief of creeps and perverts... you.

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Just calling it what it is brah.

It’s also the reason why those girls keep trying to get away from you everytime you come near them but I’m guessing you already worked that one out. :)

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Originally Posted by CockoftheRoot

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...eet-harassment

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Thanks for this article. Who said cold approaches were a good thing?

Female journalists words, as she watched men approaching random women in the street:

'As a young woman who has experienced street harassment throughout my life, it is an extraordinarily uncomfortable thing to observe

I know that, on a fundamental level, women do not want to be approached in this way by strangers on the street. Not when they are running errands, or chatting on the phone, or on their way home from work. We want men to leave us alone.

I think I am witnessing street harassment

This behaviour has a profoundly negative impact on women

It’s often excused as flirting, or seen as good-natured. And on the individual incident level, I can understand why you might think that: someone came and spoke to you in the street, what’s the big deal?

For many women, these aren’t one-off experiences, but are repeated constantly, often from childhood. They add up.” She sighs. “I don’t think men live with this experience of being intruded upon and having people feel entitled to your time.”

But they are denying women the chance to exist in public spaces without being treated as objects of desire. Just to be free, without lying to strange men, saying you have an imaginary boyfriend or lying about a place you need to be to avoid the harrassment'

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Wow, I almost feel sorry for you that you think men and women engage purely on a transactional level.
You're missing out on a lot of fun mate.

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No need to feel sorry for me, I had my share of fun in my 20s (there were maybe 5 - 6 girls over the years; overseas, not in AUS) and yes those experiences were much better than punting, i agree.

But reflecting on why they decided to go out with me, i can confidently say the weight of different factors could be broken down into:
60% - economic reasons: well paid stable job; career-wise a bright future ahead; good education →　ability to advance & earn more
20% - personality: honest, respect for them, compatible with their personality
10% - family background: similar to theirs
10% - looks & appearances: (slightly below?) average but nothing obviously wrong.

I came into contact with them from business or friends(never in a bar), and every time it was the girl who gave clear signals of her interest first and I never had to go out of my way to learn any pickup tricks.

In the 2020s, my belief is that economic reasons will weigh even more (maybe 70-80%).

One classic way a love story unfolds is like this:
1. a pretty but naive girl finds a guy with good looks and a funny way of talking, but not much else, and somehow got sweet-talked into dating him
2. a few years of frolicking, beach going and overseas trips, they were madly in love and got married
3. the initial fun fades and the burden of raising a family makes the girl sulk every day
4. she starts blaming the guy for not being able to give her a better life that her female friends (who married smart and prosperous guys) enjoy
5. with 3 kids and no life of her own, she became a bitch that he could hardly recognize
6. they stopped having sex and he resorts to punting
7. either loveless family life or divorce awaits them

In this day and age, with social media, books, tv shows, doramas & internet news, most girls know this bad result and have become much smarter. Yeah, there are still naive ones, but lets face it, they are a dwindling minority.

P.S
I speak from experiences in Asian countries, maybe Aussies/Europeans/Americans are different? i don't know. Caucasian bros here please enlighten.

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One classic way a love story unfolds is like this:
1. a pretty but naive girl finds a guy with good looks and a funny way of talking, but not much else, and somehow got sweet-talked into dating him
2. a few years of frolicking, beach going and overseas trips, they were madly in love and got married
3. the initial fun fades and the burden of raising a family makes the girl sulk every day
4. she starts blaming the guy for not being able to give her a better life that her female friends (who married smart and prosperous guys) enjoy
5. with 3 kids and no life of her own, she became a bitch that he could hardly recognize
6. they stopped having sex and he resorts to punting
7. either loveless family life or divorce awaits them

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Nice thoughts. Is it fair to say majority of men always have an interest in sex, but that woman can complete turn away from it?

With women choosing to have children later in life, and grandparents then often too old, or no longer around, I don't know how people can raise multiple children on their own, and work as well to pay all the bills, in dual income families

You must be really scraping the bottom of the barrel if you're looking at an article authored by a feminist from a lefty out let.

Must girls are not the perpetual 'victims' who hate men and are socially and sexually repressed like most feminists today.

Ask a group of women if its an issue if a man politely and respectfully approaches her in the street, especially if she finds him attractive which she let him know by her body language. Has a fun and light hearted conversion and asks for her number and feels just as comfortable saying no as she does yes.

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Must girls are not the perpetual 'victims' who hate men and are socially and sexually repressed like most feminists today.

Ask a group of women if its an issue if a man politely and respectfully approaches her in the street, especially if she finds him attractive which she let him know by her body language. Has a fun and light hearted conversion and asks for her number and feels just as comfortable saying no as she does yes.

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I agree,

Women dont mind being approached. Do you honestly think that Women spend hours doing themselves up to have nobody notice? They are trying to get attention and compete against other women.

Its just the WAY they NORMALLY get approached which gives them the shits.

The article even hints at it. Like going up to a girl and "asking for directions" then switching it to complimenting or negging her, basically trips every single bullshit detection system they have. You just outright lied and showed a very clear ulterior motive to her. If you lie about something so basic as simply wanting to talk to a girl, she is naturally going to assume all other discussion is bullshit too.

The other issue is the outcome dependency these approaches usually have. Another name for it: desperation.

The guy will act like this girl is their only chance at pussy ever. Like every approach is survival of their Penis.

And this happens over. And over. And over again for an attractive woman. And directions, then switch is probably one of the more "nice" ways they get approached. You can imagine then all the other outright sexual comments or packs of guys trying to crowd her etc and no wonder women will put up a bitch front and seem unapproachable.

Just be normal. Hell, Disney movies have showing the "secret" to picking up women for ages.

EDIT: Hilarious, the poster above made a reference to Disney as well, total coincidence didnt see that post before I posted

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Originally Posted by annintofu

In the 2020s, my belief is that economic reasons will weigh even more (maybe 70-80%).

6. They stopped having sex and he resorts to punting.

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There definitely is a species of female who are gold diggers. I know personally of a couple who actively encourage their daughter to marry for money not for love. The couple are very well off as well.

But I would call these species limited. Again, women will put this front up as a way to keep stupid Beta males away from them simple as that.

If you really believe women are all about money, good luck ever having a meaningful relationship brother. Leave a thought for you:

You are what you think.

Also to point 6, he got funds for punting but not to support fam? 🤣

Happy Saturday.