The Real Issues After Dating a Massage Girl

[Holdan427]

Thanks for that. It's good to know that I'm not alone in this game

the question is how can I get out of this vicious circle....

I remind myself she is only a good fuck and be grateful getting this for free. But this grew on me.... Shitstorm... Something is wrong with me apparently....

Mate there is nothing "wrong" with you.

The most important thing I have learned is that they cannot form "normal" relationships. So inititally during the honeymoon period, everything is good. And you are looking at her through rose coloured glasses - perfectly normal. The danger here is that the rose coloured glasses hide the red flags. And there are plenty of them. For example: 1. they are fucking and sucking other men for money; They are liers - you can never be sure if she is telling the truth; they are cunning - she will use emotional blackmail and that tantalising pussy to keep you on the hook; and they lack an ability for intimacy - she won't engage in foreplay - deep kissing, caressing, cuddling - that gets eroded whith each new cock she takes to the point where she can no longer offer it.

So as many of the other learned gentlemen have offered - fuck them, enjoy the moment; move on

[RLC]

Thanks for that. It's good to know that I'm not alone in this game

the question is how can I get out of this vicious circle....

I remind myself she is only a good fuck and be grateful getting this for free. But this grew on me.... Shitstorm... Something is wrong with me apparently....

Nothing wrong with you. Remember they have had good practice with this and know all the tips and tricks from pussy power to gaslighting to playing the victim etc to manipulate you for whatever reason they have.

This is a fine line but for me, I try to just enjoy the moment and always keep in mind that it is simply fun while it lasts. Personally, I play a ‘three strike’ red flag role. By that I mean three red flag actions towards me personally. Once I hit the three I am out. A strike could be I know they lied to me deliberately or tried to emotionally manipulate me in some manner.

That’s how I play it, others will have different methods but that is what I am comfortable with. Usually they last as my ‘girlfriend’ maybe 3 months.

But remember, all good things come to an end 😊

[Nonodemerit]

I know the facts, and I appreciate what Holdan47 and RLC pointed out, but honestly, I'm still completely drawn to this. I'm only human with flaws(many of them)

So far, she hasn't asked me for PR or money. It's about the sex and the little thrills here and there.

I'm going to give myself a couple of months to enjoy it as it is. Then, I'll hopefully move on.

Constantly reminding myself that there are 'bigger fish in the pond than this cunning liar' isn't helping me at all. I wonder if I'll finally learn my lesson soon. The whole thing feels so stark.

Well, happy punting, boys

[JustLooking6969]

I had a casual relationship with a ML a while ago.

Was never going to be long term, but I liked to hear the stories of what she got up to, and some of the customers she encounted.
Lot of weird people out there, including me. hahaha.

Anyway yeah you wouldnt want to be too serious about it.

Agree. Don't take it seriously. I've been out with a few ML's recently, you know, just for fun, nothing serious. See them for maybe 3-4 weeks and then the drama creeps in and I'm off.

Before that, I had a very long term relationship with an ex-WL. Fucking great sex for the first few years, thought I snagged a winner...but gradually dried up towards then end. Broke up with her a couple of years ago. Thought I could give her "a better life", but in the end not what she wanted. She started seeing someone almost straight after we split and then had a string of men thereafter....(many pump and dump situations I gather). I'm pretty sure she's gone back into the trade.

I've found most of them have some sort of psychological problem or personality disorder (NPD or BPD or both!), probably from childhood trauma/neglect. My ex defo had NPD (covert). She was abused by her mum and I think her step-dad fiddled.

It is true, too many cocks does something to them. My ex also said she did enjoy some clients (around 15%-20%) and went out with quite a few punters at the same time, so, keep that in the back of your mind.

If you do find one you think is actually interested in you or seems to care about, just remember it's her feelings for the moment. A woman is only loyal to her emotions.

It's right about the work thing. My ex tried to find normal jobs after we broke up, but she's back because the money's too good and easy work for her. Normal jobs are too hard.

Anyway, your decision, but it could fuck up your life like it did mine!!!!

cheers

[Herpetology]

As I said in the past, I never dated my massage Staff who worked in may massage shop

My Lifestyle is hanging out with massage ladies and girls who own shops or who work in shops

Over the last 3 years I dated 2 other massage girls and they were fine

A Thai girl 35 years and Taiwanese lady 54 years old

My Ex -Staff have contacts and girlfriends, so I am Introduced to massage ladies

Maybe I have the advantage as I owned a message shop for 3 years

I treat them well and they are fine and happy


I sold my Business May 2025

We all know massage girls lure customers in use them with fake shit and take money while servicing another punter at the same time

I have 5 lady friends who own massage shops, and they are all married to Australia men and are happy

[Herpetology]

Not all massage girls are fake Sir

[Puntonthego]

Agree. Don't take it seriously. I've been out with a few ML's recently, you know, just for fun, nothing serious. See them for maybe 3-4 weeks and then the drama creeps in and I'm off.

Before that, I had a very long term relationship with an ex-WL. Fucking great sex for the first few years, thought I snagged a winner...but gradually dried up towards then end. Broke up with her a couple of years ago. Thought I could give her "a better life", but in the end not what she wanted. She started seeing someone almost straight after we split and then had a string of men thereafter....(many pump and dump situations I gather). I'm pretty sure she's gone back into the trade.

I've found most of them have some sort of psychological problem or personality disorder (NPD or BPD or both!), probably from childhood trauma/neglect. My ex defo had NPD (covert). She was abused by her mum and I think her step-dad fiddled.

It is true, too many cocks does something to them. My ex also said she did enjoy some clients (around 15%-20%) and went out with quite a few punters at the same time, so, keep that in the back of your mind.

If you do find one you think is actually interested in you or seems to care about, just remember it's her feelings for the moment. A woman is only loyal to her emotions.

It's right about the work thing. My ex tried to find normal jobs after we broke up, but she's back because the money's too good and easy work for her. Normal jobs are too hard.

Anyway, your decision, but it could fuck up your life like it did mine!!!!

cheers

Yes couldn’t agree more with this, everyone in similar situations all end like this including my experience many us ago. My advice is don’t bother there are many find sensible women out there without the mental instability of a ex-ML or WL.

[William73]

Those gold-digging bitches were inherently greedy—they took the job just to chase money. Why should we be stupid enough to give them genuine feelings or even consider dating them? There are so many better women out there

[JJBeck]

Wonder what the guy think that ended up with Red
If he know her past, was he a customer

I never knew her, but base on a few reviews and comments she sounded like she offered a full menu
If she ended with a guy, his view will be interesting

[WatersWish]

Just wondering what others think.

If you end up in a relationship with a massage girl, how do you handle it?

Things like the nature of the job, trust, and future complications a— do they become hidden sources of stress?

Anyone been in this situation or thought about it seriously? Would love to hear your take.

They’re humans too with needs like everyone else. Treat her with respect, love what she does, and fill in all the gaps of what’s missing in her life - get to know her. At the end of the day, she provides a service to people without an emotional connection she would be craving. It’s just that, nothing more. It’s just a job for her - guys come in for a short time, and then leave… Be everything else. Adjust your mindset and have fun.

And seriously, how hot 🔥 would it be to have a girlfriend like that. Take pleasure. Enjoy the ride, and treat her like you’re the luckiest person to have her in your life. It’s a unique situation.

[CatWizard]

Those gold-digging bitches were inherently greedy—they took the job just to chase money. Why should we be stupid enough to give them genuine feelings or even consider dating them? There are so many better women out there

Why do you see MLs then? Are you continuously getting out-selected in preference for "Better Men"?

Like many Men, many Women get themselves into financial troubles too. Unlike many Men, many Women have fewer options to earn that type of money to help them get out of their problems. Even today.

Many MLs are forced in through their predicament. They have large debts, poor families back home they are supporting, or they've been subject to some kind of racket or are in other types of trouble. Maybe you're a little pissed off because you're slogging your arse off at work for a measly pay (your gold), and then you're getting out-earned by some hot bird who lays on her back to fuck you (out of no real choice of hers mind you (unlike yours...)), which she's probably vomiting in her mouth whilst taking your weight, your hot smelly breath invading her personal zones, and your cheap aftershave.

Its not greedy, its fucking brave man! I wouldn't say it's easy money either. Probably some of the hardest money to earn. I would say for you that it's an easy lay, though. Just flash some cash and get some gash. I bet you're too scared of the better women out there, and that they wouldn't service your needs, either because of your attitude, or something else toxic about you.

Gold diggers are out there, but you're generalising.... a little too much?

[Fitch]

They’re humans too with needs like everyone else. Treat her with respect, love what she does, and fill in all the gaps of what’s missing in her life - get to know her. At the end of the day, she provides a service to people without an emotional connection she would be craving. It’s just that, nothing more. It’s just a job for her - guys come in for a short time, and then leave… Be everything else. Adjust your mindset and have fun.

And seriously, how hot 🔥 would it be to have a girlfriend like that. Take pleasure. Enjoy the ride, and treat her like you’re the luckiest person to have her in your life. It’s a unique situation.

Bro please 🙏 stop. Are you high? You're setting him up for failure. Stop watching Disney movie please

[Nonodemerit]

Bro please �� stop. Are you high? You're setting him up for failure. Stop watching Disney movie please

Well said. MLs are not monsters. but, not everyone can switch their conscience on and off like MLs do. This will tell a lot about them.

I'm enjoying spending time with a ML outside the shop for now. it's free and fun. she's one of the popular girls(lucky me, she asked first). If anything goes south like being asked for PR or money, I will step out instantly.

She said she doesn't have a boyfriend, but I only assume she is seeing more than just me. No drama please

[YadaYadaYada93]

Yeah, some ML’s definitely are monsters, and greedy, all about the Visa, money etc.

My mate is going through it right now.

Fell for the popular ML who asked him out, even though she was living with a boyfriend at the time. 🚩

Then came the visa (huge legal fees) 🚩 then baby trapped (supposed to be on birth control) 🚩

Then he finds out she has a boyfriend (hopefully not you Nonodemerit haha) and that she has been working as a ML in secret (squirrelling away loads of cash) despite him paying for everything. And now he is having to deal with child custody issues where he’ll end up paying way more than he should be, because she isn’t declaring her very large income and savings.

My mate has been absolutely used and broken by this experience, she clearly never loved him and just wanted residency and whatever else she could get from him. And no, she doesn’t have big debts or other issue mentioned in the thread above either. She is just completely money driven.

My mate is definitely not feeling like the “luckiest guy” having a “unique experience” as mentioned in this thread lol.

[JJBeck]

Is a zebra white with black stripes or black with white stripes?
Does not matter, it is still just a zebra

[Nonodemerit]

Yeah, some ML’s definitely are monsters, and greedy, all about the Visa, money etc.

My mate is going through it right now.

Fell for the popular ML who asked him out, even though she was living with a boyfriend at the time. ��

Then came the visa (huge legal fees) �� then baby trapped (supposed to be on birth control) ��

Then he finds out she has a boyfriend (hopefully not you Nonodemerit haha) and that she has been working as a ML in secret (squirrelling away loads of cash) despite him paying for everything. And now he is having to deal with child custody issues where he’ll end up paying way more than he should be, because she isn’t declaring her very large income and savings.

My mate has been absolutely used and broken by this experience, she clearly never loved him and just wanted residency and whatever else she could get from him. And no, she doesn’t have big debts or other issue mentioned in the thread above either. She is just completely money driven.

My mate is definitely not feeling like the “luckiest guy” having a “unique experience” as mentioned in this thread lol.

Mate.... What's her nationality?

I may fit in this scenario(knock on woods). Not as a boyfriend then, but soon-to-be boyfriend?

Hmmm. is a shitstorm coming?

[Nonodemerit]

Is a zebra white with black stripes or black with white stripes?
Does not matter, it is still just a zebra

It's not a zebra. it's me being colorblind. Zebras do what they do.

It's me who keeps falling for the well-curated moaning, the choreographed position changes, and the good-for-nothing whispers(only you can make me cum or I have never felt this way before) in my ear.

To be honest. I don't have a potbelly, but I'm also not fatally attractive enough to make a girl who fucks with several men a day, three to four days a week, settle down with just one regular cock(I am not hung). They love sex. If they didn't, none of those girls would choose this line of work for the money. Some women, even attractive ones, would rather stay poor than be pounded by a couple of dozen random men weekly base for a few years(they get old). How can they rationalize this otherwise?

And here I am, colorblind, hoping this time it's not a zebra.

If this obvious scenario turns out to be a shitshow involving money or a visa, I will step out cold turkey. But my dick says differently. shit man....

[JJBeck]

The little brain always win the argument

[YadaYadaYada93]

Mate.... What's her nationality?

I may fit in this scenario(knock on woods). Not as a boyfriend then, but soon-to-be boyfriend?

Hmmm. is a shitstorm coming?

Her nationality is Taiwanese

Hopefully no shitstorm coming for you mate

[Tavs]

Enjoy it like a fun park ride. The entertainment will stop and time to hop off.