ML & WL's boyfriends/ partners

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Can a girl have a normal life after this industry? I think it changes them forever.

IMO, it's like soldiers who've seen combat. It marks all of them. Some can't move on and are impaired for the rest of their lives. Others, while they'll never forget, put it behind them and move on with their life, civilian life.

I have spoken to a few WL's about this and asked them what are their plans after they leave the industry and how they will go with the transition. All of them basically said once they leave, they will cut all ties with everyone and I mean everyone connected to their work. Regular customers, WL friends, pimps, shop managers etc, everyone will be cut from their life including you. Despite having a number of regulars, there is no way in hell they will be your friend once they leave the industry.

And I agree with Riff. They are changed for the rest of their lives. Once they have achieved what they are there to achieve (pay off debt as example), they will leave. And trust me, the brutal truth is that 99.9% of WL's hate the job.

Agreed, they all hate it. It's just a means to an end.

Cutting ties... How is that so different then what anyone does when they change jobs, careers, cities? Cutting, but also a lot of fading... How many acquaintances do you keep in contact with when you've done the same? If you've changed careers, do you keep in contact with the previous career's clients when they have nothing to do with your current one? I think everyone just gets on with life, there are only 24 hours in a day. Just a different life.

Yeah man, totally get it. Despite how much we get along with WL’s, reality is that once they have left the industry, that’s it. Even when us punters hang out with WL’s outside the shop, it’s only for their benefit as in companionship or to keep us as punters. I asked one if we could still be friends after she quits and despite being a long term regular, she was like “no, once I’ve finished, I will not be in contact with anyone” which is understandable.

If I was in a WL’s position, I would do the same thing. New number, delete social media and move on with life. WL’s know what punters are like so why would they continue being friends after they quit ? Just my perspective. And I’m the same. No way would I want to be their friend knowing full well their history.

Why would you not want to be their friend because you know their history? Are they spoiled, stained? Maybe I misunderstand.

Certainly, most just disappear. But a few... I kept in contact with some, not exactly a Christmas card list, more a Happy New Year list after they went home. Most drift off as we all do... high school friends, uni friends, past work friends... same, disappearing into the mists of time. Superseded by current events...