Quote Originally Posted by illidanstormrage View Post
Incel has nothing to do with it.. but as you will. Red pill applies to much more than just relationships..

Some lessons you have to learn the hard way. You didn't do anything wrong.. except be the typical inexperienced guy who put too must trust in girls which I and many guys have done also.. rite of passage for sure.

As a wise man once said Trust.. but VERIFY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!

Ok from a red pill lens I will break down what happened. She was only using you for financial gain.

Girls are great actresses and many will use guys for a multitude of different things.

Actions speak louder than words so the fact that she chose not to stay with you is a great thing on your part because most likely scenario looks like after she had her marriage visa or whatever and was in a good position.

She would proceed to divorce rape you, if you are lucky, she only chooses to leave instead because she isn't completely ruthless and got what she came for (residency).

Everyone thinks they are special and that these things can't happen to them. Girls divorce rape guys all the time and many Asian girls will milk Australian citizens for residency.

So count your blessings and learn from this experience. Don't rationalize away red flags in future. Enforce your boundaries and liars will be discarded.

I know emotions can be strong you probably still feel like you like or love her a lot but... she doesn't feel the same way. So that's where the story ends.

You might feel bad now but imagine in a few years when EVERYTHING 'suddenly' falls apart after you've invested A LOT more into the relationship and she's been coming along for the easy ride.
You are completely right. I know for a fact she was using me financially - Rent, food, eating out and also helping her with her student visa payments and paperwork and partnership visa. She was 100% using me. I knew this but in a relationship its okay to help the other out - but now I look back and think I was very naive. I was obviously blinded by love and completely stupid ignoring blatant red flags. I was scared she would leave me if i pushed her. She would say she didnt like controlling or abusive guys but then she would actually like it. One thing was another. I will definitely be a lot stronger in future relationships and listen to my gut more then overthinking and over trusting. She didn't say she loved me once even though I said it to her. I knew she didn't. I knew the relationship was not going anywhere - I was just stuck.