Quote Originally Posted by PervySage View Post
@basil22, you mentioned therapist, without divulging too much; did you pause and reflect as something the therapist asked you to do and helped you through or is this something you did of your own Accord?
It was more of my own accord. I’m naturally an over thinker who analyses every situation quite deeply. And although I can be impulsive I always assess the impact of my actions afterwards. I also talked to a lot of people (not full details, more generally about relationships and what’s important) and came to my own conclusions. My father is on his 3rd marriage so I got some pretty good advice from him too. He doesn’t believe in romance anymore, but in compatibility and companionship. He views every decision in life from a risk assessment standpoint. Can sound cold in a way but I like the logical perspective. I’ve found sometimes it’s better not to get too emotional about things - pragmatism is always best!

Anyway, I don’t want to take after my dad and go through multiple marriages. Being with Yumi was a re-enactment of dad leaving mum, and then dad leaving his second wife (the second wife wasn’t industry but I’m pretty sure that’s how he met the third) ! Each time it’s ended badly for him and he never really learnt 🤣 now he’s with the worst of the lot but too old to be bothered to find another.. so he’s a gem of wisdom on the subject. I’m just hoping I have more self control and can keep my emotions at bay

Funny thing is that the Yumi experience brought dad and I closer together, we understand each other way better now, and our relationship has grown quite strong after being pretty much non existent for most of my life.