i generally find a girl i like and kinda stay, i talk to them alot.
You will find the girls will normally talk amongst themselves so word gets round.
I had one girl ask me considering how much i come how come i didn't know of all the extras?
My response is that i only take extras if they are offered, i don't try and pressure anyone to offer more to me than they don't want.
Most of the MLs i've been to like that.