Quote Originally Posted by JohnJones View Post
I'm beginning to think that this is a fantasy fiction thread.

In the old forum I remember someone wrote about a Japanese ML whom he regularly visits told him she likes him but is going back to Japan and wants him to go visit her in Japan. He also claims that he is not an Australian citizen or resident, only on a student visa and that ML knows about it but still confesses she likes him.

Sounds like something only a fiction writer can conjure from his fantasies.

With this one he says the WL gives him more and more extra services for less the price, and pays for everything during their outing.

Let me tell you one thing about Japanese girls - I have dated halfies and full Japanese girls and they don't make relationships easy. They want you to continue chasing after their affection up until they say yes to your marriage proposal. Most of them will trample on you and show their scary sides because they want you to be able to accept them 100%. They will not pay for the date, there is no such thing as splitting the bill in Japanese dating culture. And as Japan practices emotional abandonment culture like many Asian cultures, Japanese women do not tolerate crybaby boyfriends.

Also from reading OP's previous post about chasing an ML to be his girlfriend I have to say that he might be a stalker. This time he doesn't use the word "girlfriend" for this Japanese WL but from his previous post it sounds very suggestive that he is trying to "chase" this girl.

Real men don't chase girls. Real men attract, real men asks directly for relationships and real men proves that he can be a leader in the relationship. If the low class girl says no or gives him mixed messages then he should have the balls to walk away. Only betas "chase" low class girls and make up imaginary stories.
It's a very real situation. That's up for you to decide though.

I've dated a fair share of Japanese women and yes you are mostly right but I have also encountered Japanese women who have western sentiments such as splitting the bill - especially in this situation. Since it hasn't happened to you - doesn't mean it does not happen.

I'm not chasing her - I know she has limited time. I do have "feels" for her - but I am trying to find advice on limiting those feelings from developing and insight on how other people manage or think about them.

I don't really believe in the real men bullshit - sounds like something a 70+ year old man says to justify forceful actions and push his feelings down the ladies throat - but each to their own!