Quote Originally Posted by BennyB View Post

In terms of discretion, I would also say, more broadly, that it's good to have a balanced approach. You don't want to be so private that you are hard work to connect with or the girls never see photos of you. Equally, you don't want to be opening yourself up to scammers. Taking basic precautions are easy - have a video call, meet them in person first, judge by the way the conversation is going whether they sound normal and worth engaging with.

Does that help?
Discretion is certainly priority for all the married and partnered punters here including me.

So what's a good balance approach, whats your practice? How much do you reveal about yourself to the SB?

Do you portray a certain fictitious but plausible profile about yourself and stick to that story no matter what or do you provide guarded information about you like your relationship status, type of work you do and area you around and set boundaries, rules, agreements at the outset then slowly open yourself up overtime once trust is established with a SB?

We are greedy and want both worlds. There's always a fear of being exposed, caught, black mailed or a SB developing feelings and that could spill into private life. The fear is real.