It’s one of those things where you hear the advice of ppl who went thru these experiences but it kinda goes out the other ear. Unfortunately as much as some ppl are trying to be helpful and look out for other bros here with reasons and logics, ones who are tempted for such will have to go thru it themselves to realise it. It’s true that unless you are a psychopath, there’s no getting around the mental impact it will have on you.